[michi_love]

Hey there.... I just want know your opinions, and thoughts. I'm not sure if I'm not paranoid or ... this is something.

My Ex-Boyfriend and I just broke up recently. He told me he was uncomfortable in a relationship and that he likes me
and wants to be friends. It hurt but I decided to go on with it because I didn't want to lose him as a friend either. For
the first few days he was normal and we talked and stuff (but not about the breakup).

Recently, he's been distant and for example he would talk to me, and as soon I say something he ignores me completely.
When I walk into a place, he'd leave immediately. I'm not sure of what to do, people say go up and talk to him...but he
ignores me.

any thoughts?

[rachilde]

I'm a low drama, low confrontation type of person so if someone wants to behave that way towards me despite saying otherwise, then I would definitely just back off and occupy myself with other people, activities, and events. I have been in several situations where I decided I wanted to be friends instead of lovers and I can definitely say that it's awkward because you keep catching little mannerisms from the other person that suggests that he or she still likes you or wants you. I tend to avoid them for a couple of days/weeks then, and then we'll resume the friendship like nothing had ever happened. Frankly, it's nearly impossible to go from a romantic/sexual relationship to a platonic relationship overnight; it definitely takes time and space, and I don't like to lead other people on by hanging out with them a lot the first couple of days/weeks after the breakup/whatever. I like to let things chill out for a while and then attempt friendship.

[AresJK]

Frankly I don't think this is possible..
it would be best if you talked to him about it
unless you are waiting for a miracle to 'bind' you two together again..

[sui85]

Yeah, go up and talk to him. He's running away from u, but u can still find him. Get an answer!
If its difficult to be friends for now, maybe u can distant urself from him. It's not really easy for couple's who broke up to be friends again, unless their realtionship has always been like a friend.

[StephyT]

well, this is kinda what happened to me.
we were friends, then we dated, then we didn't talk at all, then we were friends, and now we don't talk.

so basically what i'm saying is: it CAN work out, but it's not likely.

[sus]

i think u should have distact no contact
until ur both over each other
then u can start a new friendship
its better that way

[kRaZiExLaDiE]

OMG! im in the same situation too!
we were like best friends .. then we started dating .. and then he says he just wants to be friends again o.O
right after the breakup.. we were still talking and stuff and now ..
its just different.
he wouldnt even talk to me anymore. sometimes and i mean ONLY sometimes.. he would say hi/bye, but thats about it
when im in the living room .. he would leave.. and when im in my room .. hed come out. (even more awkward: we live together)
hes just so cold towards me & to other people he acts like nothings wrong!
i get really curious/jealous when hes gone
i just dont know what to do either~

what the heck is he thinking!?

[eximius]

He's avoiding you for a reason: He wants space, so let him have it.
If you keep putting yourself in his space when he doesn't want you to be, crappy things will happen.

Let him approach you when he's ready.

[snooky7o2]

It takes time to be friends again with an ex usually. So just take your time. I'm sure you guys will be friends again.