[philip ng]

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[HSuke]

i've thought about trying to talk to her again. do you think i'd have a chance?

And accomplish what? You only had lukewarm feelings for her.

Besides, she's already moved on. She's likely matured and learned from the mistakes of your relationship, which is why she is proceeding more carefully this time. It sucks being heartbroken once.

[rachilde]

I obviously can't answer your question for you, but if that happened to me, I probably would be very hesitant to agree. I don't hang out with my boyfriends' friends because he circulates through different social circles than I do; I let him run around all he wants with his friends because I run around with my friends and I'd hate to hear about how much he hates being left out of a girl's night out. The fact of the matter is me and my boyfriend don't have the exact tastes in people, society, etc. but I love him and I trust that he'll be faithful when he's out without me. We're also not very talkative when we're together. We're a very quiet couple even though individually we're both very loud--we've accepted that we're not always going to have something to say to each other and we're not going to share every single thought with each other. And we've accepted that that's okay because that's why we have friends: to talk about topics and sentiments that we don't talk about with each other. As much as I respect my boyfriend, he simply doesn't know anything about post-modernist American literature. My friends do. I'm not going to lie that both me and my boyfriend look at other people. It's natural. When a beautiful man or woman walks by me, I look at them. I expect he looks at beautiful women too. I expect he has friends of the opposite sex as well--which I do too.

But, in a relationship with me, I would expect to be notified if he felt miserable, awkward, or lonely. I would expect to be told if he feels neglected or if I could do something better. Even if he wants something I can't give him, I would want to know about it because I want to make him happy and I expect that anyone who knows how much I love them would know that fact. It's one thing to not tell someone about an annoying habit or overlook some pet peeve, but it's another to keep unhappiness in until it actually disintegrates the relationship. That's like, to me, saying that my boyfriend doesn't trust me enough to tell me about things. I would feel offended, especially if I've put in that much trust in him. Not only that, but to find out that my boyfriend went off and started trusting another woman that way would really make me angry. It would destroy my trust in his ability for fidelity. Under such circumstances, without communication or trust, I wouldn't be able to put too much into the relationship.

[Nailliv]

ya. u do have a chance

but i recommend u shouldnt take it

u guys ran your course, but its just not clickin anymore

life goes on babe.

[philip ng]

And accomplish what? You only had lukewarm feelings for her.

Besides, she's already moved on. She's likely matured and learned from the mistakes of your relationship, which is why she is proceeding more carefully this time. It sucks being heartbroken once.

i didn't only have lukewarm feelings for her. they faded with time.
and noone knows if she's moved on. even i myself thought i would never think about her again but she popped up in my head when someone mentioned her and hasn't gone away since.
i also forgot to mention she used to smoke and drink a lot before i went out with her, and now she's back to her unhealthy habits which isn't something
i wanna see.
as for your question, getting back with my ex is what i hope to accomplish, if you hadn't figured that out.
if i come

[Wendyyy]

There were times when that was tempting, but looking at the big picture, another shot isn't worth going through that whole relationship again.
Good memories, bad memories, all is done. I learned, he learned. Etc, etc.

If she has a bf, do you really want to step on that turf?
Slowly talking to her again to be FRIENDS would be okay, but I think trying to have another go should wait.
Sometimes when you reflect, you remember the good more than the bad.

When I think of the good with an ex, it seems really great to go back, but then I think of the bad and then I'm like "ooh yeaaa..."

[Makaveli]

lol as friends first always sounds great but sadly it barely ever works.
Things tend to move too fast back into that relationship area then someone gets hurt again.
As for me, it's a hell no. Keep the good memories and move on, break ups happen for a reason.

[xstrawberry_bearx]

Mm, you can give it a try if you really do want too~
But didn't it end the first time for a reason?
Haha, im not sure though it's up to you<3
Best wishes to you dear (:

[tramy]

she's with her new boyfriend for a reason. she's moved on (she wouldn't be with him if she hasn't right?).
i guess if it didn't work out the first time, it would be unlikely that it will work out this time. plus you said it was awkward when you bumped into each other!
keep a good image of each other and try to preserve any friendship you have left.

move on (i know its easier said than done...).

on the other hand, if you REALLY, REALLY wanted to get back with her then try to be friends first. see how it goes, if the conversation is dead half the time then it's time to move on

[winnieee]

oh phil.. ur life seems so complicated.

if she has a new bf then it should be fine if u talk to her as friends cause she has feelings for someone else now. but seems like she still has feelings for u. well if u want to get back with her i think u have a chance

[stoner beans]

GO FOR IT.
if BOTH of you try and make things work, then it will work.
she obviously doesnt like that other guy as much as you.
fix your previous problems and there you go.

best of luck homes

[hanabixstory]

i say no.
hey, its time for you to move on... for the better.

[krist_dbsk]

yea, i already did that two times now, and now we been together 1 year
so if u think it right to give him one chance then give him.
^^

[Runpatrol]

Moved on or not, as long as she has a boyfriend, you should back off. Just because a girl doesn't blab about her current boyfriend as much as she did with her ex, doesn't mean her feelings are any less significant.

[4zureSky]

learn from this relationship and bring your wisdom with you to your next relationship.