[d0uche_]

how do you know when you love a certain person? because i feel like i love my
boyfriend.. but im not quite sure yet. and i dont wanna say "i love you" if really
i don't even love him. what ways can you explain falling in love with someone?
and how does love feel like for those of you who have been in love?

i need some explanation, so i am sure about what i actually feel,
instead of mistaking it as infatuation or lust.

i need your help people! :'(

[mikasaranghae]

how do you know when you love a certain person? because i feel like i love my
boyfriend.. but im not quite sure yet. and i dont wanna say "i love you" if really
i don't even love him. what ways can you explain falling in love with someone?
and how does love feel like for those of you who have been in love?

i need some explanation, so i am sure about what i actually feel,
instead of mistaking it as infatuation or lust.

i need your help people! :'(

need time to know that. with time you'll know for sure.

[RITSUKO]

It's something that comes gradually.
If you're with someone and the thought of being apart bothers you, or the though of losing the person immensely saddens you, you'd probably love the person. It's a hard feeling to explain, but in given time you'll know whether or not you're in love or not. Only you can decide.

[mintypanda]

If you're here asking that question, then you probably don't love him yet

[.:precious:.]

mintypanda is exactly right...

as well I think when you love someone you will see it in your actions your to this person...you have real concern and care for them...and you love them equally to a member of your family I would say...

[Javus]

For me, when you love someone, that means that you care about that person and want them to be happy even if it's with you or not. I think thats kinda like true love i guess lol. Maybe I'm too sappy lol.

[linny]

When in your head, you stop asking "Do I love him?" and just know "I love him", then you know you're in love. It sounds like a really lousy explanation, but that's the only real way to describe it. Because everyone experiences their love in a different way, and there's no clear cut checklist that means you love someone. If you're not sure, then just give it some time before you say anything.

[ShadowMax76]

talk to people about the definition of love.

ignore my biased tone,

some people say it's a fuzzy feeling that begs you to do crazy things [ my argument is that that is just at the level of 'like', and obsession]

others say it's simply the power to care for someone other than yourself

_ it's very hard to find people to know what it really is.
since all you can know is that the ones who have gone through a life time together

had it.

[Harbl]

talk to people about the definition of love.

ignore my biased tone,

some people say it's a fuzzy feeling that begs you to do crazy things [ my argument is that that is just at the level of 'like', and obsession]

others say it's simply the power to care for someone other than yourself

_ it's very hard to find people to know what it really is.
since all you can know is that the ones who have gone through a life time together

had it.

So very poignant, a lovely comment if ever there was one in L&R. To you sir I doff my hat.


I on the other hand, think love all seems a bit made-up. Kind of like santa claus or Hitler.

[princesspoppy]

Don't worry you'll know. You don't need to express your fondness for your boyfriend through "I love you." There are other ways. And when you are ready, you can say it.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

I'm quite amazed if you don't know whether you love him or not but is in a relationship with him.
Maybe it's just me or I'm lame, but that sounds dumb.

[NONE.LIKEYOU]

Is it weird that I think love doesn't exist?

I guess there's that tingly feeling in the stomach or whatever lower portion of your body ( suggestive, eh?) when you're infatuated with someone, and when they do something special that you like. I think the rest of a relationship is just being happy together, growing together, learning together, and enjoying each others' presence, having babies. The term love isn't like a fairy tale sweep off your feet thing; rather, it's like a strong bond kinda thing?

As my parents say, "True love doesn't knock often." (But they're still very happy together)
Of course, this whole viewpoint may be wrong (and maybe I just haven't felt love yet!!! ). But I'm just saying-- maybe where you are is "love"; after all, it's a bit overrated, no?

We're a bit of a pessimistic family.

[Panda Kisses]

Would you die for him?

You'll know when your heart gets there. Don't get ahead of it.
Once you start doing things that you yourself patronize yourself for,
once you seek out every waking moment to spend with him,
once his own happiness is that of your own,
once you can't even imagine a future without him in it,
once you don't even question if you love him or not.

That's probably when.

[QWERTY.]

let me google it for you

click it. anyways you just know i guess
no pressure to have to say it

[rachilde]

Everyone has their personal definition of what love is and what it means to be in love. My personal definition is if you would die for that person. Some people's definition is if they would die for that person or kill for that person. Some people say that it's when you trust someone absolutely and perfectly. Obviously, there's a lot of debate over the matter. You'll have to figure it out for yourself.

[the;andro]

HM OKAY. haha interesting, my friend just asked me this a few days ago.

I wouldnt say that its the SAME for every couple, because firstly, for every person, the meaning of love is differently. Secondly, love is different for every couple.

For me, i dated my boyfriend for awhile, i didn;t say i love you till much later, like you , i didnt know. Much later, i knew. Its how i would like to see him everyday, talk to him, wanting him to know my thoughts, everything i do, and similarly, i wanted to know everythign about him, and whats going on with him. Also, there's some things i don't like about him but i chose to over look them. Also, whenever we argue and quarrel, i rather thrash things out then keep it and end the relationship. Knowing that he's worth the pain whenever he hurts me because happiness is much more with him, and i forget the hurt after we're done argueing. We don't hold a grudge against each other because everyone is imperfect, if you're always wiling to forgive him no matter what happens, you know you love him. Lastly, knowing that you might meet someone better along the way, someone better looking, richer, smarter, etc etc, but you know that you will never give up your current boyfriend for someone "better", because he's so much enough for you, thats when you love him

[Antz]

when my whole life pretty much revolves around him.
it depends for everyone i guess.
i'd die for him.
=/

[juicebox]

relli depends...
some ppl say if you would die for tht person. but id die for my friends and family. but thts a different kind of love to what youre tlkn about. =/
im always asking myself this as well. do i love him? and iunno, i guess i dont YET if im still asking myself tht question. anyways, ill be patient and wait while we grow and learn from each other. im pretty sure a person would know for sure when they are in love.
also lust and love are easily confused. so.... yeah.

[wiinga]

well.. love is hard to explain and i guess it's different for all people.

for me, i was stuck in your situation aswell when my bf and i first started dating for a couple of months. We had known each other for years before we got together but he told me he loved me before i did. All you have to do is really be honest to yourself and him. Ask yourself, can you imagine being with him in the future, how does he make you feel? Does he treat you well? etc

It all comes down to questions and how you honestly feel about him and plus there's no need to rush in saying i love you. It's a strong and powerful phrase and shouldn't be said too often because it then loses its actual meaning so only say it when you truly mean it. It took me a while so don't worry yeah.

Just give it time and whenever you're ready to say it then say it. It starts feeling more natural afterwards. Trust me.

[insanelyCRAZY]

LOL! you'll just KNOW. [:
its as simple as that.
you can also ask yourself, "do i put their needs before mine?"
if you know the right answer, then heck yea you love them.
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