Is It Possible To Have Someone Thats Romantic But Sexy?!

#1 mintypanda

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:27 PM

I've been a soompi stalker for a while now and I've finaly decided to make an account so

Anyway, is it possible to have a bf thats romantic, yet, sexy at the same time or is it just one way or the other?!

My bf is about the complete opposite of my ex, which I loved in the beginning. Hes romantic and really really sweet he could make my heart melt. But at the same time hes missing that... I don't know, edge? or sex appeal? I just can't think of him being sexy.

Hes attractive, don't get me wrong, it's just that when it comes to sex appeal it makes me miss my ex.

My ex had the sex appeal and I can talk about sexual things without laughing out loud but hes really bad when it comes to romance, so hes out. I just want someone whos very sweet like my bf but at the same time he can be sexy and not just... cute? or is it just impossible? I want to look around but I'm afraid I'd waste my time and end up losing someone thats been good to me. Help?!

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:31 PM

What does sex appeal have to do with romance?

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:38 PM

QUOTE (Shikabane Hime @ Jan 10 2009, 02:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

What does sex appeal have to do with romance?

Nothing? I'm asking if it's a waste of time to try and find someone who can be sexy and romantic at the same time.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:40 PM

so hes romantic but yet u cant talk about sexual things with him

hmm, im sure many guys can speak that 2nd language

u just gotta force it out of him :]

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:47 PM

QUOTE (Nailliv @ Jan 10 2009, 02:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

so hes romantic but yet u cant talk about sexual things with him

hmm, im sure many guys can speak that 2nd language

u just gotta force it out of him :]

It's not that we can't. It's more like... it's the fact that hes not very good at it and I'm starting to believe thats something you either have or you don't. I think it's the fact that I'm so used to him being sweet and romantic that when he starts talking sexualy... I can't take him seriously.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:50 PM

I am both sexy and romantic, so yes, it is possible.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 02:54 PM

QUOTE (mintypanda @ Jan 10 2009, 02:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

or maybe you just too horny

how about that!

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 03:00 PM

QUOTE (mintypanda @ Jan 10 2009, 05:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Nothing? I'm asking if it's a waste of time to try and find someone who can be sexy and romantic at the same time.

Exactly. They have nothing to do with each other, so that automatically implies it is possible.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 03:13 PM

So sex appeal to you is a guy who can talk dirty? Hunny, guys watch porn. I'm pretty damn sure all guys can talk dirty. I'd be more worried about the romance part. Some guys are romantic and some are not.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 03:20 PM

QUOTE (princesspoppy @ Jan 10 2009, 03:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Thats just part of it. It's more like how my ex carries himself. Hes got some type of swagger/confidence whatever when hes around. And you're right all guys can talk dirty, but that doesn't mean all of them are actually good at it.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 03:22 PM

QUOTE (mintypanda @ Jan 10 2009, 03:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i am!!!!!!!

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 03:23 PM

OoOoo girl, I wanna poop on you... I love your... boobs.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 03:24 PM

QUOTE (mintypanda @ Jan 10 2009, 06:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

And you're right all guys can talk dirty, but that doesn't mean all of them are actually good at it.

lol, I can imagine a physics major talking dirty.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 04:27 PM

QUOTE (Shikabane Hime @ Jan 10 2009, 03:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

lol, I can imagine a physics major talking dirty.

"hey sexy, wanna discover our coefficient of friction?

LMAOOOO that made me crack up...

I felt the same you way you felt about my ex. He was always really "sweet and romantic" but when it came to the other stuff, I just couldn't take him seriously in that way and often...got turned off Dx Dx

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 04:33 PM

I always thought it had to go hand-in-hand

I'm pretty sure you can find someone like that.
But if your bf is as sweet as you say he is. I'd keep him.
Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time looking for someone. When he's been there for you before.
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Posted 10 January 2009 - 05:10 PM

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lol, I can imagine a physics major talking dirty.

"hey sexy, wanna discover our coefficient of friction?

Not sure how this applies... that is a humorous thought and all, but I'm an engineering major. I'm aware and caring towards the people I'm around. But at the same time I dress well, cook, enjoy sports, and am super involved in music.

I'd like to think that, because of my broad scope of interests, I'm very much capable of being romantic, yet at the same time I have a sense of reality and human nature which helps to provide for the "sexy" side; what prevents me from being a "sexy" person as you described it? And doesn't each person have their own personal slant on what it means to be romantic or sexy?

Ideally, they should be in harmony for a relationship to be solid.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 05:18 PM

I guess I can somewhat relate.
My current bf is sexy but lacks some romance.

My ex was slow (as in slow at romance) but when we
had those moments, it was really *sweet*.
He was basically a typical dork nerd, who I believe wouldn't
touch porn or drink or do anything of that matter...
My ex and I didn't talk dirty unlike
my current now

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 05:43 PM

a gentlemanly crook is a paradox. or a liar.

x_X' there's gotta be some cost to having it all. i wonder if you're gonna pay the price.

o-o' but. romantic and sexy...
it's like, an feverish urge to be around a clingy[romantic] person. is that possible? M~

_ as they've said. we all have those sides of us. it just takes some digging to get it out. o_O' your romantic boyfriend probably is acting to get into your pants. :] Lol. so problem solved.

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Posted 10 January 2009 - 06:34 PM

Well OP if you haven't found your answer and feel like this thread hasn't really helped you much, take solace in the fact that Derek's and Shikabane Hime's comments seriously turned me on.