[Javus]

Ok, so I need some really helpful advice from you guys again.

Last year I met this really sweet and amazing girl. We really hit it off as we dated, the thing was that after about a month or so of dating, she had to go away for school, which was a 3 hr train ride away from where we live. We decided to try and make it work, and be in a long distance relationship. At first it was going well, we talked to each other every day and did all the cute things that you would expect from a LD couple. The thing is slowly, she started to be less and less involved in the relationship, in which at one point she very rarely called, texted, or chatted online. Eventually she told me she had lost her feelings for me, and basically dumped me right before she would come back here.

After that I basically tried to get over it, her, and stay friends. I accepted the fact that we were just going to be friends, but even throughout our friendship I still had feelings for her. But I came to accept that we are just friends. However recently she calls me up after she was at a party, and she was tipsy, and basically confessed that she made a mistake and realized how much I cared for her, how she still thought of me everyday, and how she likes me now and wants to get back together. I told her that I still liked her but I dont know whether I want to start again.

So here I am stuck with all these feelings in me. I still like her, but being that LD relationship was hard on me, and her dumping me was hard too. What if she does dumps me again, what if what she's saying won't last. But I really like her so much and everytime I talk to her or am with her(when she's here) I'm just so happy. I know most of you would say that it's up to me, but I'm just asking for any kind of advice. Thanks guys!

[princesspoppy]

Well you already know it won't last. But who knows maybe the 2nd time it will. So it really is up to you.

[QWERTY.]

The greatest irony of love;loving the right person at the wrong time,having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life...And sometimes, you think you're already over a person, but when you see them smile at you,you'll suddenly realize that you're just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that,they will never be yours again...for some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much they love that person...in my opinion, some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else...most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love. love is always present.it's just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little...as we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. maybe that's the reason why the heart is not always right...most often we fall in love with the person we think we love but to only discover that for them we are just for passing time. while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger.so here's a piece of advice;let go when you're hurting too much, give up when love isn't enough, and move on when things are not like before...For sure there is someone out there who will love you even more

when you realize its not going to work
DUMP HER FIRST!

or dont date her at all cause no use of getting hurt a second time
there are other in the sea

i call the SHARKKKKKKKKKKK (:

[loveartiste]

So have you talked to her ever since that confession?
O.o
because she was intoxicated...........

I've experienced a LD relationship before[6 hour difference] & I can say
that it is a lot of work.
But she's only 3 hours away
from my POV it is possible to keep a relationship.

If there wasn't any problem in the relationship & she just dumped you,
that was extremely selfish of her since it wasn't just her in the relationship.

You don't have to jump right back into the relationship with her.
She has to earn your trust again. Even before dumping you she
didn't give a concern to you. So make sure that both of you realize that
there's going to be bumps in the road. Relationships are tested all the time,
this is when you find and develop the long lasting love.

It's okay to still like her, we're not robots where we can turn off our emotions.
But I have a feeling you got a good head on your shoulders & you already know
what's best for you in your heart.

[grainsofrain]

nah, i'd say to not get back, and plus she was intoxicated so it might not be totally real.

[chocolate*]

^ Agree..

1 - She was intoxicated
2 - Has anything about the situation changed from before? You guys are still long distance... same problems that led to the breakup may reoccur as before.

[Steffany.]

If you still can't solve the underlying issues of the reasons behind your previous break up, then it honestly won't work. She was also intoxicated, so you can't exactly trust every answer from her.. I'm sure you can do better than what she's done to you; you've remained hopeful even through the distance but she didn't appreciate it enough. Let her go, in the end it will make you happier.

[RITSUKO]

I say no. If someone doubts their feelings for you the first time, I would be strong for myself and not come running back to them like a dog. Plus she was intoxicated=feelings and emotions are hard to handle. When she's all good again, and calls you asking to get back together again, then it's up to you whether or not you want to go back to her.

[yabasta]

I'd show that girl a thing or two about drunk calling an ex... *grumble* haha jokes. Mate, all I can say is that if she dumped you first and she said it's her mistake, GET HER TO FIX IT. She's just playing with your feelings, hoping that you will initiate the move to get back together. I agree with others here, don't get back together unless she's willing to sell an arm and a leg for the relationship.

yabasta

[ChocoRain]

Long distance relationships never work in real life, only in movies and dramas.
besides, she was drunk when she said she wanted to get back, can you really trust that?
If getting over her was so hard to do, there's no point putting yourself through that again.


LOL at that picture ^^ the clown fish is mine =3

[maha_love]

From my own experience i learned that " An Ex is an Ex for a reason" Really. Then don't you think you deserve more? Think about it, yes you have the right to feel vulnerable around the person towards whom you felt special things, but that shouldn't take much time to end, if you decide that YOU DESERVE BETTER, than someone who is not into you enough to care and dares to hurt you.

[lilkrnpucca]

Hm,
Well it really depends. Right now I'm dating my boyfriend again even though we broke up.. and I'm as happy as ever! I thought the same way you did, that if we got back together again then he would just make the same mistake again.. but I guess I didn't really think much about it and went with how I felt about him. I believe that since I had the strength to part with him the first time that if it ever came to that point again, I would be able to take it?
So really, I can't really say if it will be a good thing or a bad thing to go back out with her, I'm sorry. I'm just here to say that noone can tell you for sure if it will be okay or if it's a bad idea because anything can happen.