[untunedstrings89]

Warning!!!!! before you read this, this is only a theory of what i feel is right and also an advice to everybody (sharing the knowledge).



What is happiness? almost all guys say that they are happy after they get a gf.
And dont doubt me, if your happy then thats cool BUT guys! you should be making Happiness in life and work ( or what you do) having a gf should be a side thing. like having a gf is something extra an extra happiness.
This might be hard to understand. But all im saying is first, find your OWN happiness without using others... then move on to others.


But i really would want your opinions as well! feel free! but please... no trash talking.

[supa'Wanki]

I agree one hundred percent. I wouldn't get into happiness(since happiness is very broad), but everyone should live their own life and worry about having a girlfriend/boyfriend as an "extra" thing in their life.

[FluidEmotion]

Finding ones own happiness isnt such an easy thing to do.

I do agree that true happiness cant be found after "getting a girlfriend."
But you cant really say that because happiness differs for everyone.

Also i dont think you can make happiness like you said.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

your number one priority in life should not be getting a gf or bf.
I'd have to agree with you

[kRaZiExLaDiE]

i agree
having a romantic relationship should be an extra happiness.
plus.. i read in a magazine that men are more ready for serious relationships when they know what they want in life
its best when guys have their priorities straight.
guys who don`t tend to be more immature & flaky.. they can only feel temporary happiness out of the relationship

[insanelyCRAZY]

lol.
happiness is happiness in general.
but yea i get where you're coming from.
a person should individually capably attain their own happiness and security in as many as ways as possible for themselves to know how to bring/then happiness to the ones they love.

basicly what i've said to my one girl friend...
"if he can barely attain happiness for himself, how can he bring you happiness?"

=/

[Seraphyx]

Your statement is self-evident. Your own mental well-being is a priority. In life as long as you're satisfied, you don't really need anything else.

[xo_sugar_ox]

I can see where you're coming from! Its nice to be with someone you like but its also a great thing to be independent

[starperson]

Just because you get a gf/bf does not mean it is your number one priority in life.
And how can you judge happiness? How can you have extra or side happiness?
Is there such a limit to happiness? I think not. A bf/gf can make someone very happy.
Even someone who was not happy before. Some people have different ideas of happiness.
And I dont think you can just judge it like that. Maybe having a bf/gf is your first priority.
Whatever makes you happy, makes you happy.

[mintcracker]

Happiness is when you feel fulfilled and content. That does not necessarily mean you'll need companionship to feel that, or be incredibly successul or popular.


Happiness is what you make it to be.

[untunedstrings89]

hey thanks guys and for the people who its like disagreeing with me... read what i wrote again.. i Clearly state almost all guys i did not say "everybody is" i dont know how girls feels but im just saying that most guys say that.. haha thats all.. but yeah how do you girls feel about it though? would you consider my theory to be the same to bf's as well?

[cuntbucket]

happiness is a state of mind

you should be happy with yourself and your current self and life before having a relationship

and you should also be mature and open minded enough to have a relationship

one thing i remind myself when im not in the best mood is that my life is better than the majority of the world, i have food shelter family commodities friends etc etc whereas ppl in some places of the world dont have it half as good as me

even so, happiness may be hard to achieve, so enjoy the little things in life and just take it easy

[ShadowMax76]

thinking about happiness is depressing. :/ but that's just me.

to me . i try to scrap what bits of fun i can have . it just makes me forget about who's happier, why they're happy, ... i just focus on the moment. i'm laughing. they're laughing. so everything is okay.

happiness is something i always seem to think is a gift from the gods. not to say i'm religious [though if i were, that'd take one stressful thought -meaningless life + death- off my mind]

a deeper joy. to belong, to be wanted, to be acknowledged, to be accepted, [all existential necessities of a human .LOl] then there's the other things.


BTW.. . about finding happiness before meeting someone new. _ we tend to fall for another when we're in a happy mood.
o_O' the problem is either it being a temporary thing, or shifting all the weight of happiness onto the new person in our lives. and forgetting what made us happy before. [friends, family, freedom, work even]

_ and.. i think we can learn something from the someone we 'move on to'. there's only so many times you can fail at a relationship. Lol. o-o'

[JASON;]

People can prioritize their own lives.
They may choose to have their girlfriend be their "happiness".
Likewise other people may choose to value their careers more.

I agree with one part about how you said that, people should find happiness in themselves before moving onto others.

[ching22194]

this kind of happiness is superficial..
relying on someone to be happy
and mostly those peson who says it are either young or immature

just wait for them to have more experience
then they'll know what real happiness is
thats for sure..

[xeilmach]

Yes, someone I know someone name Tony Tran thinks that having a girlfriend will solve all his problems (crippleness, slow talk, and whatnot). You have to accept who you are. Then you'll be happy. Sadness is from pitying yourself.

[belovedme]

your number one priority in life should not be getting a gf or bf.
I'd have to agree with you

Ja, i agree with you.

[fishboy9986]

Very interesting...

Its almost impossible to find your own happiness, to do so... and make it last for a long period of time... would be close to impossible, taking a simple example of I enjoy a nice kebab with a coke to wash things down, it makes me happy and in less then an hour it would be forgotten, jobwise finding the perfect job is impossible... work at the same place long enough chances are you'll get bored of the same routine, not everyone can love their jobs forever... even with the case of a "GF" how long will you be happy with the one your with, to be blunt I think there's research that says humans are biologically attracted for 5-6 years? Something along the lines of that, after that period the relationship is like a bond of friendship with benefits. But thats going abit off the topic, finding happiness in oneself... which I would like to put it as a self-gratifying state which lasts for a period of time, is ultimately impossible, the only way I could see that happening is if the world had no such thing as money, therefore people would not need to get jobs and "work" to earn value, to use to find happiness.

I think finding happiness is finding the right combination of things, a person who works hard and has money and job, can always regret not living life when theyre young, EG. Going into a club underage, your first drink at the bar when your 16 with a fake ID, in comparison to an old dude whos a good 35+ getting a drink at the bar. If you make those millions when your young and then realise all your mates have grown out of binge drinking, then you miss out on life, leading to regrets, leading to unhappiness, etc.
Now going to the other extreme, living a life being "fully sick" with the "boyz" getting the "hottest chick" out there etc. then living the next 20 years in middle to low society making just enough to feed the family hating the dead-end job and the neighbour you live in, and since you didnt work hard enough you dont have the money to move to a better neighbourhood or have the ability to move up in the world.
AND THEN you have the most misfortunate people, those nerds... in school who have no life, but think if they work hard they could achieve that great job and then live it up later rich and happy, but unluckily run into the worse case of bad luck with jobs studys life... etc... and end up with nothing.

SO... concluding... I would just recommend going for that girl while your young, sure focus on the future, but dont miss out on the present. The balance is what we should be looking for, the worlds changing, everything is about the balance... it's the new contempary look at life, not just the highest paid job or the most popular dude at the party, but a mix of both... the guy that everyone knows and loves *or acknowledges* with a good potential future and a great set of stories on life that his already lived. Although not perfect happiness, its a state of no regrets... I guess you could call it living an un-saddening life??

Thats my thoughts =P

[bigbadtommay]

there are much more important things in life than a gf or bf be happy with blessings u have of course, TRUESTRIKE! 100% agreed

[Darude356]

this kind of happiness is superficial..
relying on someone to be happy
and mostly those peson who says it are either young or immature

just wait for them to have more experience
then they'll know what real happiness is
thats for sure..

lol, way to state your opinion as a fact.

im curious what kind of happiness you think is not superficial?

my goal in life is not to have a lot of money or other material items. i just want to marry the right woman and be with her forever.
nothing wrong with that is there? i don't think that's being superficial.