[Akumetsu]

Currently, I've been pressured by 3 of my closest friends to break up with my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now & going on 4th.
Ever since our 2nd month together, we haven't been spending time together & he's always so busy with everything else. My friends are noticing that we hardly spend time with each other but he always has time for his school, friends, & handball =-=;;; && when we do have time together, it's always with our friends & not alone.
Just last saturday, at my friends bday party he didn't interact with me much & was too busy playing pool with his friends. This always happens when we hangout.
I've tried talking to him about the problems in our relationship and he's always saying that he'll make things better but he's all talk and no action :[ I've been waiting for a month for him to justify his words & still nothing.
At times, I feel as if I'm the only one who puts any effort into the relationship.

The problems in our relationship:
Lack of communication (on his part)
Lack of time with each other
I'm probably the least of his priorities right now.

Now, the question is: Should I let myself be pressured by my friends & breakup with him? Or give him more time to change?

[Lie]

I think your friends are right (he's VERY unlikely to change, and most likely you'll just continue to feel worse and worse about the relationship until one of you gets fed up and decides to split anyways), but with that said, you shouldn't be pressured into breaking up with him if you're not ready to. Do what feels right to you.

[MaryMagdalin]

from what i can tell
you`re too clingy
he`s becoming disinterested
your friends cant butt out of their own business


if you arent happy leave him
but dont leave him b/c your friends have to be involved in your love life and tell you to break up with him

[kellyalster]

You should never wait for a guy. If he's been doing all talk and no action for a month, I don't think he's going to change.

And you shouldn't count on your friends' advice. You make the decision in the end, so you should make sure it's one that YOU know will make you happy (as opposed to what YOUR FRIENDS think will make you happy). It's ok to get their opinion but you shouldn't rely on it.

[jjashik]

if you feel like your the one who's trying
to make this relationship work then its
not a good sign in the first place.
think about it. and then make your mind up.

maybe try to not be the first one to do everything?
and wait and see if he'll step up to start
things. if not then your answers right there.
-0-; break up with him.

[ohmysanity]

Don't let your friends influence you, but this guy doesn't sound like a keeper anyway. How does he not have time for this girlfriend? Pathetic, if you ask me. Are you being clingy? No, you don't even hang out with the guy(and really, what's so wrong with wanting to hang with your boyfriend?)

What you decide to do is entirely up to you, but I doubt someone like him is going to change anytime soon.

[dtp25]

First off, your friends arent in this relationship, you are. So i guess that decision should be without the influence of your friends.
Talk to him, confront him, and if he really wants to be with you he'll change.

[AresJK]

your friends shouldn't force you,,,
they can give u advice but they shouldn't be ur direction
if you feel its good that u keep doing it, if you don't then stop
you should know that

[xlyckPNY]

I think it's good to hear out your friends opinions, but like others said it's your own opinion that counts in this matter. It seems like your boyfriend is doing the usual "guy-mode" deal where he just wants to hang out with his friends and have guy time. But, seeing from what you described where ya was at the party and he just kept playing pool with his friends without hanging out with you.. Hmm. I kind of see it as yes, he does put his friends and social life ahead of your relationship with him. I think you should have a good talk with him and let him know what's going on. If he still doesn't get it, or whatever... But you still want to save the relationship, give him space for a few days/weeks. Don't call him, don't email/talk to him and let him do whatever he needs to do. If he does somehow find his way back to you, then I see it as he still wants to the relationship. But if you do that and he doesn't, then it's best to just leave him. You can't waste time on a guy who doesn't even put much effort into the relationship. It's a waste of time and waste of tears. I know how hard it is, you can't just up and leave him because after all, you were the one who put effort into it. But look at it in a bigger picture, in the long run you'll just have to keep putting him in check over and over and over until he one day breaks your heart. Unless he changes, I see it as that.

But um, don't take what I said too seriously but just some advice from a fellow Soompier~ Take care and I hope things do work out and he doesn't continue this.. I've been in a relationship like that before and it was just not worth it.