[momoko doll*]

You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.

Definition:
"A friend who is only a friend when circumstances are pleasant or profitable. At the first sign of trouble, these capricious, disloyal friends will drop their relationship with you."

"A friend who is only nice to you when it's convenient. Someone who's wishy-washy. Someone who is a "backstabber." Someone who abandons you in certain situations."

"A person that is a brilliant friend while things are going well, but when the gong gets tough, the person ups and leaves."

"Usually a good friend to begin with that eventually takes advantage of a true friend and does not maintain the SAME loyalty and respect. Without an explation why, a fair weather friend may abandon a friendship altogether for superficial reasons or changes in moral beliefs without a care for nurturing fair dicussion. The exception is when that person needs something, they know they can still count on an "all weather friend"

Do you have friends like these and if so how do you feel towards them? Do you still want to be friends with them?? Do you hate them?? Do you think they will get what they deserve?
**I dumped a friend recently and she was FURIOUS. I couldn't take it anymore. I think her pride was really hurt or something and she wants to get back at me but she deserved it. We never make eye contact anymore and she always puts on a sh*tty face when I cross her and all her friends stare I'm like what are you f*cking pricks looking at you want to judge me based on only what she says? Those shallow freaks.

We were good friends for a year--she was really "nice" to me when I was happy. But I was having some rough times (you get your own share of misery in your life) and she pretty much ditched me when I was having a hard time. Its really not fair...

EDIT// im not talking about casual friends, but friends you've been with awhile and stuck by them, therefore expect more out of them, especially because you put yourself out there for them multiple times---mutually 'considered' or even titled close friends that completely 180 on you.

[JDM6]

I had these types of "friends" once. I dropped them when I finally realized myself that there was no reason to keep them around. Guess what? None of them call to see what's up or anything. I'm glad I left them.

Find friends you want to keep around and are trustworthy. Keep all other as aquaintances.

[ohmysanity]

Don't...continue to be friends with people like these. I wish I could take my own advice some times, but they aren't real friends. Go find someone who's really worth your time, and your life will be that much more happier.

[Jamila]

I've had friends like that before..I just let them slither right on out of my life. There's no need for a "friend" that won't be around when you really need them.

[LOVE&FREEDOM_beautyofX]

A lot of them. Try not to be close with them. I don't hate them. Always remember what comes around, goes around.

[PoppinBC]

I had a friend who was a twisted version of a fair weather friend... I help my friends out with their hw a lot, just if we're going to hang out and they have some work they need cranked out, I freelance tutor as a job, so I'll help them out... started to realize she was calling me more and more often. Straw finally broke when she asked me to write a full blown paper for her... I was like... what do you think I'm on?

^Not needed, not wanted, a waste of time, waste of love. What makes the fair day shine? The crappy day, unless someone's going to be there with you through the worst, it's really not worth sharing the brightest.

[HienSTAR]

I've had one. She was basically a childhood friend who EVERYONE always loved and we were always happy to help her when she needed something. However, when I (or anyone else) ever needed anything, she'd always be busy with her boyfriend or come up with an excuse, no matter how big or small the favor we needed. I didn't necessarily "drop" her as my friend, but I stopped making the effort to come up with plans to hang out/talk since she always backed out anyhow.

[joie.de.vivre]

i'm surrounded by too many fair-weather friends ugh.
they are annoying/tiresome to have as friends
whatever, i'm waiting 'til high school ends so i'll never have to see those Tom Cruise again.

[ryuem]

Okay i have my life revolve around friends because of fmaily difficulties.
& honestly, i have alot of people like this.
they'll chat & giggle & be with you all the way till something comes up.
and that point , they dissapear.

tbh these arent Friends. They're acquaintances.
Be them FABULOUS, GREAT, or BAD... they're stil acquaintances.
think of it that way, & u hurt urself less.

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when i started college, i made alot of new "friends"
most who i talk to alot wen i see them in teh corridor , in class, someone elses class or
hanging around in the cafeteria. we can scream shout giggle fight cringe joke & share secrets
meet up outside college, party, karaoke, tour, hang around, shop, or evn just having a nice walk!.

... bt that doesnt mean we're "true friends". means we're jus really hyper-in-the-moment acquaintances.
sooner or later you will / they will get bored of you. or when u need something, they wont sacrifice.

i had too many experiences of "losing a good/true friend" or "losing a best friend"
or evn "losing trust in ur best friends". so i've begun to think lek this.

tell me im wrong in thinkin this if you want.
bt thru wat i've seen, this is the safest way to live without all the pain in friendships.

[Namine]

in some choices, those friends are just not right
but maybe some just dont know how to make people feel better
it depends on the person but yea those ppl suck

[SleazyTerdz]

I have to admit, I've been a fair weather friend with some friends. I'm not even friends with those people any more, and that's not too surprising, but then again I was only a fair weather friend to them because I didn't really give a sh*t about them and it was more like a "Hi, Bye" friendship anyway. I would certainly sacrifice my time and energy for the friends I actually care about, who I know would do the same for me.

[colloquy]

Yeah, I've had them.

The type of friends I don't like are those that ask me for advice, and come to me when they're having problems - but when I'm having problems, they are completely disinterested and more concerned about whatever's on their plate than mine.

[joie.de.vivre]

i really should start being more of a pinkberry and fair-weather friend myself because, honestly, i'm really tired of always being the one putting more effort into friendships

[han.yung]

I have 'friends' like those. I absolutely HATE them. They will get what's coming to them.
People like these make me so angry. Nearly every single one of my 'friends' have back stabbed me at one point or another.
I'm seriously starting to have trust issues with people.
I'm gonna drop them like it's hot.
Heh heh heh....they won't see it coming. Revenge certainly is best served cold.

[momoko doll*]

I have to admit, I've been a fair weather friend with some friends. I'm not even friends with those people any more, and that's not too surprising, but then again I was only a fair weather friend to them because I didn't really give a sh*t about them and it was more like a "Hi, Bye" friendship anyway. I would certainly sacrifice my time and energy for the friends I actually care about, who I know would do the same for me.

I know I can't committ my energy to everyone and I just don't know certain people well enough to care that much, but then again they generally wouldn't ask me to stick by them if they barely know me?

I mean its not even that this girl was an 'acquaintance' or a 'hi-bye' friend..its like she kept saying she wanted to be close friends again and holding on to me when she didn't put the effort in to be my friend.

If what you said was true it HURTS that she didn't give a mini cooper about me all this time. I wasted my time with her thinking she would be there for me till the end or at least longer?

I feel deceived and maybe even a little used/betrayed. I knew her for well over a year and we shared A LOT OF personal things; i know a lot about her and she knew a lot about me and we cared about each other for awhile. But when things got REALLY tough she just wasn't in it and that angered me a lot. Its like WHY did i even bother being friends with her in the first place. I stuck by her and put up with her when she was boring/negative and emotional/upset and she didn't even bother to do the same for me. I pretty much feel used for her convenience. I don't know has anyone else experienced this?

[colloquy]

I personally say after reading that... dump her.

It took me awhile to understand that if you're feeling used/betrayed, it's time to go. I used to care far too much about people that didn't care about me... and if they did, they certainly didn't show it, even after I expressed my concern about their lack of support. Actions speak louder than words. I guess it's kinda similar to to a relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend - things have to go both ways. In those tough times of yours, I think you might have realized who your true friends are. Well, I certainly have in my experience.

[ann!e]

i have this "friend" and she found out that i was applying to the same graduate program as her.. and she totally turned 180 on me and became very hostile to me. now we're just acquaintances. and only do simple chit chat like "how was your day" =/

[legoart]

I have some solid friends that tough it out with me and know most of my drama. They are my rocks and they mean the world to me.

I also have some 'fair weather friends' but I know and they know that that's who they are. I try not to put myself out for them, we go out to parties together, chill and have fun and that's it. It's nice to have some friends that don't know your drama, and you don't know theirs...you just get together to have fun with each other.

[ShadowMax76]

i have my mates. originally we just were about keeping each other company and laughing about stuff. we're guys afterall.
they're starting to bish about stuff these days. but i 'spose the least i can do is listen when they do me favours.

that's how i view my male friends.

[there's something in me that refuses to label people anymore.. _ some are closer, some i know more about, others i care for more, others i just get favours out of ]

_ unfortunately, i'm one of those friends who would leave you alone if you're pissed . it's a coin-flip if you're sad. i might approach. i'm hopeless in either case, so that's why i just stand by and feel crap as well.

in the past i would randomly act happy. just to cheer 'em up. instead i was just viewed as an insensitive prick.

i wouldn't say i have many of what you'd call a friend. but just many acquaintances.
i don't have too much of a problem with that . before i had nothing.

[GaeasX]

I think fairweather friends are the worst, but it depends on circumstances and stuff. It's good that you caught on and let go before the relationship got too deep. =)

I had a really bad experience where I was alone in a new environment (college) and grew really close with some people. We'd hang out in each others' rooms all night, talk about everything, and ate lunch/dinner together everyday for 6 months. When one started picking on me (I still dunno why she was mad at me), I was blamed for the trouble and told to make amends. I had already tried but the girl just smiled and said, "Nothing's wrong." Next day, she'd sit across from me at lunch and completely ignore me/look at me like I was a piece of crap. Later, the rest started avoiding me, giving excuses. I fell into depression and not one bothered to see how I was. A year later, the girl was nice to me again and the others started telling me how they missed me and that we should hang out. It's been 2 years now and I still can't forgive them.

People change, and I hope they did. But I don't want to be close friends with them again, not ever. Acquaintance is enough. I don't hate them, I hate what they did to me. Oh, but I do hate the mean girl.