[imaviet]

Sorry! It is kind long and could be confusing ><

My boyfriend and I broke up recently.
I cried for probably the first ten minutes & stopped.
I was perfectly fine after those ten minutes. However,
I don't know if I'm suppose to feel this way.


My ex before him, I cried a lot & I couldn't get over him. I practically
clingged to him a lot after it.
I never wanted to sink that low again. So
I told myself for my next relationship, I'll mature about it.

-fast forward to present time-

Before we broke up, I met up with him in the library to help him for his finals.
Note, that I had to worry about my own SATs and finals, but I put
that whole day aside to help him go through math. He still didn't get it;
so I offered him the next day; and the next to help him with it. I really
did want him to pass the class (currently failing).

He broke up with me during the middle of finals . Which really sucked.
Through a phone call. I was really surprised, because everything was going
so well and it was out of the blue.

I've told him numerous times that he lacks conversing skills. I had the pants
in the relationship. It was okay at first, because I had experience in relationships
& I was his first. But after a couple of months; he really could not even order
from a menu when we ate at a restaurant and I paid in the end.
We went to different schools by the way; so I always had to bus to his house.
Our conversations was always me initiating a question and him answering it &
I have to get further into detail by asking another question. goes on*

Unlike a lot of ex-girlfriends who tend to cling to their beloved after a break up,
I really don't give a care.

If I 'loved' him, wouldn't I be having my hormones rage regardless with whether
I said I would mature?

He initiated the breakup, but it was like I was waiting for him to. [Although I didn't
want it at the time]. I put a lot into the relationship. A lot more than I've ever did.
A lot more than he ever did. So why wouldn't I really give a care to it ending?

I don't know whether I should have felt that way, and whether my feelings for him
were true. I don't want to be shallow :/ ..

I really do care for him a lot however. Or I think I do.

Had I mature enough to have handled the situation because of my past experience
or did I just lose feelings overtime to a point that I didn't care? :/

It's been really bugging me.
Thanks guys! (:

[cavil.]

You handled it fine and much better than your previous experience.

Besides, the guy sounds like a total dork.

[doozie]

I do think you were expecting this to come. I'm sure it was in the back of your head somewhere? :/

In any case, I'm really sorry, and don't worry! Sometimes our feelings are illogical, hahaha.

[taiji.]

from my experience, i think u get hurt the most after your first break up.. and it hurts less and less after the first one.. i used to prefer girls who didn't have much dating experience but now i prefer girls with some dating experience so they know how to handle different situations..

[MsChen]

I think you matured, which in my opinion, is better than lost feelings -- which doesn't seem to be the case since you cared so much about him.

[mister sir]

not to be a downer or anything but your emotions could always come back and hit you at a certain point later on.

[watcher]

maturity is a matter of learning to control your behavior despite having certain feelings. having a sudden change of heart doesn't have any correlation to it. but you know your situation better than i do. you decide what it really is

[aznboi1107]

you just didn't like him that much after all

[imaviet]

maturity is a matter of learning to control your behavior despite having certain feelings. having a sudden change of heart doesn't have any correlation to it. but you know your situation better than i do. you decide what it really is

Mmm, Its like, I think I still like him; but I don't really care about it.
So therefore, I don't like him.

That doesn't make sense ): ...

[chocopocky]

Get over him! You wasted so much time on him and what he give you in return? A break-up!

Screw him, there's plenty other fishes in the sea!

I'm sure you know it's maturity. (: At least you know.

[eximius]

It seems like you've already accepted the fact that he wasn't all that well-suited for you from the getgo.
So when he broke it off, it really wasn't that big of a loss.

My boyfriend and I recently broke up, like last week or so.
I cried for a bit, but I really didn't feel anything. I assume that if I hadn't realized he wasn't any good for me, I would have felt a lot more pain.
Right after we broke up, I left his house and I hung out with my friends. I was totally fine, no one even realized I had just gone through a break up.

I mean, it's either we (you and I) accepted the fact that they kind of sucked as a boyfriend and it was no big loss...
...Or we're heartless bastards, which I know I'm not and I'm pretty sure you're not since you said you (think) you still care for him.

Mmm, Its like, I still like him; but I don't really care about it.
So therefore, I don't like him.

That doesn't make sense ): ...

You CARE for him, but not enough to want to be with him.
That's all. ( :

[MaryMagdalin]

i think this was becoming a mother son relationship
like you were taking care of him
and although you did care for him so it hurt for him to give up
you felt relief because you dont have to take care of him anymore.


its fine...
better than you crying all the time right ? =)

[heejintruong]

very mature, darling =]
and he did sound very dorky.

I had a break up like that before.
i cried for about an hour
and didn't really care...
we met the next day just to hang out and stuff
and i was fine.

I guess it's...because you've learned and grown up?

that or he wasn't even worth the tears ;P
jokidding

[Seraphyx]

You just posted up a scenario in which you handled the situation like a normal level-headed person would. Then following the scenario you asked about the way you handled it, mature or not. Great idea. I see it not as mature, but maybe as hardened from previous experience. So no, it's not lost feelings nor is it mature. The break up wasn't devastating.

[RITSUKO]

You're being mature about it. But since it's over, why care if you had feelings for him or not?
Frankly, I think you were too good for the guy. It seems like he didn't put any effort into you and you made a lot of effort.

[LOLWTF]

He's like my girlfriend. LOL

[MaryMagdalin]

OOPS.... double post.
please ignore lol

[L.FOR.LOVE]

i`m in the exact situation
like literally
usually for my ex i`d cry and sink realy low for like monts maybe
but for my recent ex
i cried for bit
the next day i woke up perfectly fine and i felt weird because i was like " if i loved him, i wouldn't be over him ..."

[GOJIN]

hey girl,
try this: maybe the guys you seein aint good enough for you....
raise your standards!

[Kiribati]

It might hit you again, who knows. As for maturity, it has nothing to do with how you feel after a breakup. It plays a part in what you do to handle those feelings after a breakup.