[chikashi]

me and my bf always talk on the phone every single night for hours.. now, my phone company is at&t and they always send us the summary of our data and minutes usage every month.. my mom saw the bill today and she asked me who i always talk every night. i said my friend,ai (my bf's name on my phone). and she was like a girl? i said yes. then she asked what were two guys talking about that will last you two until morning. i said stuff. and she was like you dont have a bf ryt? i trust you. then i felt guilty. i have lied to my parents a lot of times and one of these is having a bf. i want to tell them but i'm very sure something will happen bad to me. seriously bad. they are very strict. they are those type of parents that dont want their daughters to have bf until they graduate. they also want for their sons and daughters to have straight A's on their report. and my mom is still in denial about my older sister's bf (and she's on her late 20's already). i'm 19 and i can't even date yet!

i don't know what to do anymore. i still want to talk to him every night because that's the only way we have private conversation to each other, it's our way of communication to each other when we are away from each other. i don't want to lose that part in our relationship. its important. but, i just don't know what to do. help.

[eximius]

It's either you stop talking to him on the phone... or you continue to do it and lie to your parents... or tell your parents you have a boyfriend.
There are alternative methods of communication... like AIM, MSN, Facebook, MySpace, whatever people use these days.
Or you can wait till you see each other and talk in person..?

[myluckyself]

omg my parents are like that! personally, i think they go a little over the top by not letting you date... coz quite frankly, its nomal for ppl our ages, no matter what they say.

if you dont want to tell your parents then dont. all they want is for you to become a 'good' person, and as long as your relationship isnt having an affect on your studies, or whatever, then there isnt really a problem.

as for the phone calls... im not saying stop them, but... tone them down if your parents are getting suspicious.

[Emerald Snow]

Skype is your best friend, if you both have computers, that is.

[chikashi]

he doesn't really use computer that much. he doesn't have facebook, myspace, or stuff like that. he has an email address though but he rarely opens his email a lot.

if you dont want to tell your parents then dont. all they want is for you to become a 'good' person, and as long as your relationship isnt having an affect on your studies, or whatever, then there isnt really a problem.

i don't know if its good for them but i have 3 C's last semester.

[myluckyself]

hmmm... but he does have a computer, right? if you talk to him about it, im sure he'll understand your situation with phone bills and stuff. i agree with emerald snow, skype is good to use. and msn as well ^.^ oh, and do you text each other?

[hishari]

Call him with your home phone, no records there.

[chikashi]

Call him with your home phone, no records there.

is there a limit in using home phone though?

[yabasta]

3C's ...

You're just asking for travel aren't ya? lol

Is this boy really that important to you? I would probably focus on the school work, keep him a secret - but cut down on the phone calling. Try to meet up with him in school only... it sucks but tell him it's the parents; therefore out of your control. You can't force them to accept him; and you can't be forced by him to constantly talk to him on the phone; and I think you should force yourself to focus on your school work! It is important an investment to get good grades, and make your life soooo much more easier. Guys can come whenever and wherever.

Seriously, balance out the important things in your life right now, before making any hasty decisions on how to 'go behind your parents back one last time'.

yabasta

[Apple.Mint]

lol someone already said wht i wanted to said
landline! [home phone]
and no..there's no limit..
loll
i would use my landline if i have one..

[小甜密]

You're an adult. So I don't understand why you can't date, even if your parents are super strict. If she trust you, why is she afraid of letting you date?

[cuntbucket]

landline or skype

F this 20 character BS

[chikashi]

3C's ...

You're just asking for travel aren't ya? lol

Is this boy really that important to you? I would probably focus on the school work, keep him a secret - but cut down on the phone calling. Try to meet up with him in school only... it sucks but tell him it's the parents; therefore out of your control. You can't force them to accept him; and you can't be forced by him to constantly talk to him on the phone; and I think you should force yourself to focus on your school work! It is important an investment to get good grades, and make your life soooo much more easier. Guys can come whenever and wherever.

Seriously, balance out the important things in your life right now, before making any hasty decisions on how to 'go behind your parents back one last time'.

i know.. he's important but my family is more important of course. i guess i'm just not trying very hard that's why i got those grades.

lol someone already said wht i wanted to said
landline! [home phone]
and no..there's no limit..
loll
i would use my landline if i have one..

they don't charge you if you'll call from your landline to cell phone ryt? there's no summary of calls too ryt?

[yokoya LL]

My parents are also super strict parents who wants their child to get all straight A's too.

And once my brother confessed to them he had a girlfriend they scolded him and everything, they were like typically like heartbroken! And it took a really REALLY long while until they treated him normal again.

Either you should continue lying to your parents or you confess to them a face a HUGE scolding that might take a while to heal.

gosh, I have no idea what will happen to me when I have a boyfriend

[Shikabane Hime]

Family is not important. Live the american dream!

[myluckyself]

^ bahahaha! nice reply, but im not sure i would agree... :S lol

look, if you know whats important to you, find a way to balance everything out. no one said you couldnt call, but cut them down - u need more sleep if you're going to bed at 2/3 =]. i also stick to what i said b4: why not just ask your bf to use his computer more often? and lastly, focus more on your school work and show your parents that you arent... 'slacking' or anything.

[cannedpeaches]

ya srsly just use your homephone..theres no record or limit

[wookay]

get urself another ....phone? try verizon they have good service

[AresJK]

lol
its alrightt
its not a bad lie is it?
i mean if you think ur mature enough to date someone
you should
and the phone thing... unless u are using too much and costing ur parents..
its good
don't worry about it
besidesss sooner or later ur gonna have to tell ur parents....... so just lie about it now
(such a bad advice T_T)

[onhotwires]

The logical thing to do would be to be honest to them.


But really, my parents are the kind of people who would rather be lied to in these kind of situations and not have to worry, etc, so I don't think that it's so bad to lie to them at those times. Maybe your mom is like that too.