[soma]

So are you against divorce or think that it's not always a bad thing? How can you relate with divorce?

I personally think it's totally fine as long as it is reasonable (like abuse, adultery...).
I'm not saying that I want a divorce when I grow older, it's just that in some cases, people will be happier when they're separated. My family, for example, will personally be a lot happier when my parents separate because that's just how my family is. Everyone's personalities clash with each other and that causes my parents to go nuts at each other. And they do not have normal/reasonable fights. We dealt with my parent's unstable relationship since we were born so my brothers and I are sick of it all and would easily accept it.

Is it normal to actually want a divorce within the family? I don't know, I'm just guessing that I don't really have a sense of family in me.
Does anyone else agree with me? Disagree with me?

[Shikabane Hime]

Divorce is never a good thing. Especially when there are children.
Don't get married if you don't think the person's right for you. That's what dating is for.

They're probably together only cause they feel it's their responsibility. That's what I'm getting from your post.

[asdfdsdaf]

Some divorces go through without problem.

Other divorces... well... just get ugly. REALLY ugly.

[_ATELIER]

i'm on the same boat as you, =/ i never really cared much about my parents divorce,
sort of encouraged it, it's just sometimes when they start arguing i imagine things would be soo much more quiet if they were separate. maybe i'm selfish but, i just thought divorce was all for the better and have wondered if i'm weird or not for thinking so too O_o. i'm ok with divorces, once you lose feelings for your spouse there's nothing that can be helped, having children will definitely have a different effect, but i still think the whole separate 'rents thing beats having them under one roof tearing each other apart with nasty remarks. i understood well. it's just going to take time.

[yabasta]

I don't think divorce is a problem... it depends on the situation. I hate the 'don't get married, if you're going to get divorced' comment. That's so outdated and nonsensical. How the hell do you know what's going to happen? Some people do rush in, and they need that avenue of breaking the marriage - divorce happens to be one of those options. The other is an annulment.

yabasta

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

riiiiight, how about your children? if you have 1, thats already troublesome. What if you have like 4 children?
abandon them?
and are you going to be setting a good example to them? I guess not.

[maharu.]

I think it depends.
If the person is suffering from domestic violence or feels that the person is not treating them right, I think it can be a option.
Just when you have kids...that's a difficult issue. If its constant arguments, maybe there could be ways to get along once again.
So yeah I think divorce is fine only when its really necessary.

[5.mystline]

No not necessarily, sometimes divorce can be a good thing, but In most cases sadly not.

[yabasta]

@ Hans - what do you mean by setting a 'good' example? You mean, that you have to have two parents to have a good example of a family? I have to disagree with you there. I've seen single parents do a bloody good job of raising their kids, whether they were divorced or not.

I have to say this; it is attitudes like yours, that makes the society unfriendly for kids who have divorced parents. It is comments like that, that pidgeon hole kids into 'the child of the divorced parent' and put them down from the rest of their peers. How unfriendly, how unwelcoming thing to say.

yabasta

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

I'm not saying a single parent can't do a good job raising their kid.
But you guys getting divorced is already a bad example.

Well it might depend on how you view divorce.
For me divorce is not something good. Especially if I bring my religion into it, which I didn't, but yeah I always see divorce as a bad thing.

If you think divorce is alright, then I can't argue lol.

EDIT: I just realised something. Are you from new Zealand? lol.
And you know me don't you? lol.

[EHNerJI]

well, of course it would be better to not have any problems in the first place..
that would lead to a divorce, lol.
but, in some situations, it's better to end it [the marriage],
than to keep it going.

[hellolovely]

i am against divorcee
but if the relationship involves
abuse and too many fights, etc
then it might be better to end it.

[iAdoreDBSK]

It really depends actually.
But when you have kids, its kind of hard to accept it.
(currently going through this passage)

But, divorces... i guess its only needed if necessary.

[catsinheat]

I don't think divorce is a problem... it depends on the situation. I hate the 'don't get married, if you're going to get divorced' comment. That's so outdated and nonsensical. How the hell do you know what's going to happen? Some people do rush in, and they need that avenue of breaking the marriage - divorce happens to be one of those options. The other is an annulment.

yabasta

agreed. even people who have dated for years and were married for years, get divorced. it's not always because the couple in question 'rushed' into anything. people change, it's as simple as that, and in the end you have to decide what's healthiest in the long run for everyone involved (including children).

[+Chique+]

No cause my dad's a cheating jackass and my mother deserves better.

[hippiehop]

Moral of the story: Don't marry for the wrong reasons.

[Amanda Plz]

No. I wish my parents had gotten a divorce while there was still time to. My dad's an idiot who nobody likes.

[supa'Wanki]

nah i dont, but what makes me mad is that divorce is being so acceptable that it's like breathing air now. john tesh that mini cooper. I'm going to marry a woman who I can be with forever till death.

[chopstick^^]

Yeh, of course divorce is a bad thing.

Everyone should think of marriage as a forever, life thing.
U should only marry the person u love & want to spend the rest of ur life with.

There wouldn't b a divorce if people just choose the right partner.
So the problem is not marriage, it's the choice.

If people accept 'divorce' so easily, then everyone will marry and not think it has any special meaning
coz they would tell themselve, 'if anything.. i will divorce u'. But they shouldn't think that.

marriage is special. a commitment and a dedication.

[ritzy!]

Well to answer your question.. divorce is not always a bad thing.