[Diverdent(=]

So here's the story. There's this guy, let's call him ASDF.

I really like asdf, and eventually I came to tell him that. He's 4 years older. freshman in hs, freshman in college. He told me we were just friends. but We have so much in common and his friends says that he acts differently around me and I guess we started to talk more and become closer. Eventually he was asking me to go places with him like shopping, or just to hang out somewhere. He was being flirty and our friends saw the change cause we were hanging out so much and they saw him be more open and relaxed with me. I felt so comfortable with him and i just felt sparks. So today I asked one of our mutual friends to ask him if he liked anyone, and he said no. But they're not that close, he's shy, and she thought he was lying. I thought about the whole thing and I came to 2 possibilities.

a. he's a jerk for leading me on, while knowing i liked him, for no reason.

b. he's lying and he's just shy

I really want to believe it's B, but A seems more practical. Idk whether to like him more cause of B, or hate him cause of A, i feel so confused! )= How do I confront him or find out the truth without risking our relationship? please help! i have to see him soon and I rreally need some advice. thank you!<3

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Why can't you assume he doesn't like you now, but he might later?

how are we meant to know the real answer?

[Diverdent(=]

^ yeah but like why would he do all those things to lead me on? and i meant when i was asking the question, like how do I get him to tell me how he feels, without making things awkard? cause i wanna be able to move on without looking back if there's nothing there.

[5.mystline]

Maybe he lied to friend because as you stated they're just mutual not close to him. you don't tell mutual friends your secrets well i don't.
I think you are just overreacting. he probably still likes you.

[chll51]

uh... why does it have to be only those two choices? couldn't it be he just wants to be friends with you and is just comfortable around you because you guys are friends? honestly, i have guy friends who are like that. we're comfortable around each other and i see a side of them that others who aren't closed to them see and they don't like me in that way at all and vice versa. i think you're just letting other people's opinion affecting you too much. if a guy likes you, even if he's shy, he'll come after you and tell you so or ask you out.

[exoticpeach]

well... you know him a lot don't you? do you honestly think he's being a jerk or do you want to believe that that's the reason because he doesn't like you?
maybe there is something there ._. but really... to know, is to ask him?
you say he knows about your feelings, so i guess he won't be shocked when you ask him?? would you be ok with just being friends if he doesn't return the same feelings? consider that first before asking him :/
at the end of the day, what you do is up to you so this is just my two cents. i hope everything works out for you :]

[Shikabane Hime]

^ yeah but like why would he do all those things to lead me on? and i meant when i was asking the question, like how do I get him to tell me how he feels, without making things awkard? cause i wanna be able to move on without looking back if there's nothing there.

If your girlfriend ate the last piece of sushi while you were away, how would you go about asking her whether she ate it or not?

Go from there.

[RYUUSEi]

Maybe he's just a flirty person in general so you're taking things the wrong way or maybe his friends like you so they WANT him to like you too and hook up, and that's why they are also making a big deal about his behaviour. There could be a thousands of explanations to this, not only those 2. To me, it sounds like he is confused about his (maybe non-existent) feelings for you. Or it could just be that he's thinking all this over and needs time to really figure out if he has feelings for you, that's why he's lying to his friend.

Just be honest about it and ask him out since you clearly like him and you two have been hanging out alot by yourselves. If he turns you down, then tell him that you've been getting these vibes from him and if he was just playing with you all this time then that's not OK. You might just have to risk your relationship because you don't know his intentions on this. If he was just playing around with you all this time, then would you still want him as your friend? Think about it.

Or you could just choose to live with this until he finally makes a move or you get tired of it.

[Meenuh]

^ yeah but like why would he do all those things to lead me on? and i meant when i was asking the question, like how do I get him to tell me how he feels, without making things awkard? cause i wanna be able to move on without looking back if there's nothing there.

Maybe he doesn't think he's doing anything to lead you on. It might be that you're just overthinking things hoping they're signs that he likes you.


Just assume doesn't like you and continue hanging out with him. You enjoy his company right? I'm sure you'll know when the time is right to ask him or maybe he'll ask you.

[SJAMES]

I hate that situation :[
Guys do that too much. I really liked
this guy and asked him if
he went to my old school because I saw
him in the freaking year book, but
I still asked so I could talk to him anyways,
he said No. with such a straight face.
Aughh. Then, the next day, he came back
and said, why'd you ask?


guys are jerks.
I think he likes you though.
gluck

[xjuiiccy]

Hanging out and flirting isn't really leading you on .
Since he's in college, & you're in high school,
how do you know he doesn't do stuff like this to other girls too ?

[Daikirai]

I don't think he's leading you on.
I don't like he likes you.

He just wants to hang out with you. As a friend.

[blackpetals]

he was probably just treating you as a friend .

and yes, boys and girls can be friends.

ask 5 words.
"are you interested in me?"

[AresJK]

wow same story for me
except im in the guy's position

well i didn't like the girl tho haha

but don't lose ur hope
it may help if u talk to him in a serious manner tho

[cherri82crystal]

he probably just thinks of you as a good friend. it doens't have to be he likes me or doesn't.

[iwanabiggal0lly]

Maybe he just doesn't trust that chick cuz he thinks shes going to tell the whole world.
Also..well..you're a freshman in HS and he's a freshman in college..yeah i'm not going to say it. Goodluck.

[Sympathetic]

Hanging out and flirting isn't really leading you on .
Since he's in college, & you're in high school,
how do you know he doesn't do stuff like this to other girls too ?

Yeah, I'd have to agree with this post.

But basically, you confess or you ask him, "Are you interested in me?"
Or keep your distance from him, he might question you about it.
And simply tell him, it feels like you're leading me on because I do like you.