[Mr. Game & Watch]

Alright well, a situation happened with me.

Super long story super short.

Me and my girlfriend are still going out, but while going out she had a "passing crush" on another guy, i learned of this and it hurt a lot inside.

BUT she says its over now.

And i believe her, and shes been trying to help me get over this whole "ordeal."

Can anyone give advice that would help me.. get over this quicker? because im tired of feeling this pain that theirs going to be some guy between me and my love.

Thank you for reading~

[Shikabane Hime]

So basically she was still dating you even though she didn't like you at all?

[Mr. Game & Watch]

So basically she was still dating you even though she didn't like you at all?

...N....No...

I rephrased it a little, perhaps that would help. ^ ^

[MNLV27]

Well, she's still with you so doesn't that mean your the one she wants to be with more.

[Shikabane Hime]

...N....No...

I rephrased it a little, perhaps that would help. ^ ^

I see.
So there is no random guy that's getting in between you two. It's all in your head.
It's just like the cake.

[Mr. Game & Watch]

I see.
So there is no random guy that's getting in between you two. It's all in your head.
It's just like the cake.

LOL the cake is a lie.

I know hes not getting in between us

Its just hard to get over that this actually happend.. @__@ its something that ill problably be thinking about for a long time
And i just... want advice thatll help me get over this faster

@Adore_linda

yeah i know.. ive come to terms with that.. its the whole getting over it thing..

[Shikabane Hime]

lol...that's not possible. You just have to extend more trust.

EDIT: well obviously if you want to be open-minded and consider all the possibilities out there, you could always format your brain via memory-wipe and reconstruct it from the back-ups, or teleport to another dimension where she throws him out of her life so you two are guaranteed security, or...

[Sympathetic]

Basically there's no way to forget about this situation.
Just spend more time with her, talk to her more. You'll see that she actually likes or maybe even loves you.

It just takes time.

edit, and yeah, what Shikabane Hime said.

[myluckyself]

i gotta say i agree with shikabane hime... if you trust her, then believe her when she says its in the past! coz you two are still going out, and still like each other

[a4sano]

I don't know about that dude...sounds kind of sketchy. I would just get out now before you get more deeply involved. When I first met my girlfriend all she did was talk about this guy constantly, but me not really caring about her that much at the time, it didn't really bother me. Now that the feelings are deeper, I always think about that.

[myluckyself]

^ how long ago was that? (sorry if i sound nosy...)

[eximius]

Even with all of what's happened... she's still with you.
So she must like you far more than she liked the other guy. That's a lot to go on, I think.

[greenana]

Your gf likes you. Don't worry, she likes you. No need to worry about her ex crush.

[snooky7o2]

So... you're worried that she had a CRUSH on some other guy? I mean what is the big deal? Even if you look like Brad Pitt, you will never be the only guy your girlfriend will be attracted to physically. That guy won't be her last crush either. Shes going to be physically attracted to a ton of other guys, just like you're physically attracted to other girls. You don't do anything about it because you want to be with her and she probably won't do anything about her crushes because she wants to be with you. But the good news for you is that, we're all unique and I'm sure she sees something in you that she believes no other guy have.

The most important part here is that your girlfriend is loyal to you and you're just going to have to trust her and leave it at that. The worst thing for you to do now is to show her this low self-esteem issue of yours, because that will just push her away.

[Kitty07]

snooky7o2 is right , it's not a big deal . Everyone will be attracted to another person even if they are already in a relationship . I know for a fact that my bf hates it when I mention some actor that I find handsome , but it can't be helped .. I'm only human and attraction is never ending . If your girlfriend reassured you that it was just a "passing crush" then you shouldn't be so worried . Just learn to accept the fact that out of the how many billions of people there are in this world , there will be atleast 100 guys she will find attractive .. the same goes for you too . If she still wants to be with you and she is not chasing other guys , then be happy . =]

[supa'Wanki]

Dude man up. Stop being so insecure. You're better than that fool she had that "passing crush" with. Show her that you're the guy she needs to be with, not someone else.

[puzzlebox]

BASICALLY YOUR JUST FREAKKIN AFRAID THIS WILL HAPPEN AGAIN AND CANT GET OVER THE FACT YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER CAUsE SHE LIKED ANOTHER GUY.

GET OVER YOURSELF KID.

[blink-]

^ *Cough ..

In other words, just show her you're better than that guy. She'll eventually get over him, just give it time.

[ShadowMax76]

vent it out in the gym.
then come back and try not to look at her with judgmental eyes.

though i think we all wanna know
what that guy had
that you didn't.

_ when you're asking her, just don't sound psycho or too bothered by it.

[PoppinBC]

At least she was willing to open up and say it to you. Be glad that she was honest, and my impression is that it probably was something passing, hence her actually admitting it. Just try to keep calm, and think about how you've been, see if you might need to evaluate who you are a little bit, and evaluate the relationship to make sure it's right for both of you.