[Diverdent(=]

so as the title states. are you scared of commitment? I mean, I think I am? O_O it sounds a lot worse once I typed it. Idk, it's hard for me to imagine being with the same person forever? because what if i get tired of them? what would we talk about? and i mean, I'd always wonder how happy I could be. like in my history of boyfriends, it's a pattern. i would start to get irritated by the smallest things, then pick out his flaws, then start to pick fights, then break up? )= i guess i'm always wondering if there's another person out there I could be compatible with? or am I just crazy? haha

[junkers]

you'll never know if you dont try. Just be careful who you pick to be with. if it doesnt last, it can be worth a experience too.

[Shikabane Hime]

Yes, commitment sucks.
Imagine playing maplestory all your life. Wow.

[littlejade]

Yes, commitment sucks.
Imagine playing maplestory all your life. Wow.

Well, u eat rice all ur life dont u?

[Morphiex]

oh yes , the mear thought of going around buying china plates and looking at curtains apauls me to the degree that i self consioucly destroy my relationships before they even start O..o? ...

but on the flipside , you get to have sex more often , so its a win loose situation.

[faithpuppy]

Well, u eat rice all ur life dont u?

well you do switch it up from time to time, like eat noodles or stuff...

[littlejade]

well you do switch it up from time to time, like eat noodles or stuff...

But automatly your b eating rice, so rice is your life.

It is possible to never be bored of something, thats just my example.

U know when u love someone, u tend to describe them as something? ..

thats how its like...

U r my sunshine... can u ever get bored of sunshine? .. etc..

[Shikabane Hime]

Well, u eat rice all ur life dont u?

You breath oxygen all your life don't you?
I can choose not to eat rice, similarly I can choose not to commit.

Or I can choose not to breath oxygen, but that won't get me very far.

[Special Ed]

I've never been in a relationship before.

But sometimes I imagine about how it would be like if I was in one. It seems awkward thinking about it tho. Being with only one person. But I also think that we shouldn't think of our relationships as something to objects. Some of my friends purposely don't meet their bf's for a certain time because they think that if they meet too often then it gets boring/tiring. I think relationships shouldn't be like that and you shouldn't be thinking about things like that. I like to compare relationships to friendship because you can never get tired of your friends. You may only lose friends if you all mature and change from there (most familiar case being the transition from high school to college). So maybe we could think of relationships as a saying said, "love is friendship on fire".

Idk. Sorry about my rambling.

[littlejade]

You breath oxygen all your life don't you?
I can choose not to eat rice, similarly I can choose not to commit.

Or I can choose not to breath oxygen, but that won't get me very far.

Well, if u choose not to, then i guess its different.
Because u already prove u can't b bored of something, it can b like life, oxygen u breathe in.
But if u choose not to breathe, then u die. U choose to die.

[Rekidai]

maybe a little, not going to deal with it for awhile though haha.

[P a p e r_C l i p]

Uhm..no offense people but I don't think eating rice and breathing oxygen is the type of commitment she was referring to

[Kira_Hyuu]

Umm yeah heaps actually - since i'm only like 18...maybe when i move out and around the late 20 mark i might start looking...however there is someone already who i wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with....

[Unanimous]

Yes, I am scared of committing to only one person all my life. "All my life" oh gosh.
But I think that is all natural when you haven't found "the one"
The person I am with right now is changing that, my s/o makes me go "Wow it doesn't seem that bad, maybe I can do this."
I think with time and the right person, you don't even need to try to me committed, you naturally will be.

[Flicksityy]

I'm committed to go to school and I hate it.

[kryiss]

i'm not afraid of commitment at all. that's one of the top things i'm looking for in a relationship. it's just the luck of finding the right one that i have to deal with right now.
and seriously... is staying with the same person for the rest of your life really such a "boring" thing? i wish people would stop thinking that way...

[caramel.coffee&nuts]

i'm not afraid of commitment at all. that's one of the top things i'm looking for in a relationship. it's just the luck of finding the right one that i have to deal with right now.
and seriously... is staying with the same person for the rest of your life really such a "boring" thing? i wish people would stop thinking that way...

Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth, haha. I feel the same exact way.

[Kitty07]

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[A-Jaey]

I wouldn't say I'm 'afraid' of commitment.
I'm the type of person who can be extremely lazy and can't be john teshed, but sometimes I'm a darn right down to earth person.
But, the only thing that separates that is, if i say i'll do it then i'll finish it and put everything i have into it.
Commitments and relationships... are long.
I'd try my best but thing is if my partner doesn't have that energy to keep on trying with me, then I guess it wouldn't really work?
I want commitment.
But during the relationship, I just stray from it.
And I need something to remind me that's what I want.

[Panda Kisses]

HAHA, maplestory reference ftw.

Anyway, I'm rather afraid of NOT being with the same person for a long time. I'm afraid of learning to love every single time I meet someone new. I'm afraid of getting my heart broken numerous times. I'm afraid of having past mistakes occur again and again. I'm afraid of repeating that cycle. This topic is one example of my fear of change.

Right now, I can't even imagine things changing between me and my boyfriend. Everything's just so consistent, yet never tiring.

It never hurts to try. Once you find the person, even if you'll doubt that the relationship will still be the same in the next year or the next 60 years, you'll still try your hardest to keep it alive. Being with them will never be boring. I always try to keep relationships thriving, but when I certainly KNOW that it's going down the drain, I let go. But not out of fear of "commitment".

It's funny how people I know who go in and out of relationships constantly are some the loneliest people I know. =\

And with that, I'm also afraid of dying alone.