[mikasaranghae]

I am frustrated because I am trying my hardest to let this person know that even though I can't be with him as lover; I still care and love him as family. It's not that I am rejecting him in a bad way I just feel we are incompatible because of personality differences. However, he seemed to be mad at me and doesnot want to be my friend after (even though he says no, he is not mad at me; but I can feel he definitely does). I am very frustrated, how can I make him understand he is my very special friend all my life and I don't want to lose him as my friend? I do care and love him as my family. To me that's very precious, family love. Why can't he feel happy about that? How many people in the world love and care for you as family? It's better than relationship-love because to me, family love is forever. Boyfriend and girlfriend can break up but family can't. Why can't he understand that? Please help me. Thank you very much.

[Rykerz]

If this is recent just give him sometimes first, anyone would feel a bit sad or mad if they were just rejected. Try talk to him again some other time

[Shikabane Hime]

Cause with relationship-love, you can have relationship-sex.
I wouldn't go for family-sex.

[esm90]

So you're not going to see how it works out first before just rejecting him because of personality differences?

edit: uhh, never mind i think you added some stuff while i was typing this

i agree that sometimes people give too much importance to titles such as bf/gf/lovers that they overlook how strong a friendship can be

[Kitty07]

I bet he just feels hurt from being rejected . Give him time first off .. if he still really can't understand how you feel about it then it's not your fault because you tried explaining at least . Ask him is it worth losing you as a friend just because you feel differently from him . If he says yes , ditch him . Not worth your time .

[littlejade]

Calling him your brother.. when he actually loves u as a lover.. is going to break him.
Give him time alone... he's heartbroken.. he need time to heal.

I had a friend who broke up with her boyfriend, and still insist that he hangs around with her and meet his family.
Somehow i felt it was quite selfish, because hes actually sad that they broke up, but she wants to show her mother
that everything is okay, like a "show".

[mikasaranghae]

Okay, guys, thank you for all help. I'll try to give him time because it's very recent. But the truth is, it's very hard for me because I don't want him to misunderstand I don't care for him at all. Anyway, thank you all.

[Emerald Snow]

Don't be selfish. You want him around you even though he's probably hurting like crazy now. Have you thought about how hard it is for him? To suddenly go from being a boyfriend to family? It sucks. He needs to get over you first, so give him some space and time for himself.

[loverlyxcth]

Sorry but I feel like being simple with my reply,
soooo ...
1) Give him time to re-evalute and think and just breathe
2) Show him you still care about him
3) Tell him you still care about him (but don't give the wrong idea!)
4) Talk it ouy and do something together fun

[eximius]

He wants something more than just friendship.
He understands full well that you don't want the same thing as he does, and it hurts.
Why would he want to be around someone that doesn't feel the same way about him?
Tell him how you feel, and give him some space. It's not your decision whether you two will continue being friends or not.. he's the one who's being hurt, it's his choice.

[ingenuelle]

I think you should just give him some space for now. Having you stress that you see him as a friend/family member is probably one of the last things he wants to hear after just confessing to you. Don't get me wrong, he's very lucky to have someone like you in his life because you care about him so much but you'll just have to be patient with him and look at it from his perspective. It's heartbreaking, loving someone who can never love you back in the same way. Even though it hurts, hopefully someday he'll realize that even though you can't be his lover, losing you as a friend would be far more painful. All he needs is time.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

You know why?
You think of him as a family.
but he doesn't. That's why.

Leave him. how would you feel if you really like this guy and he rejected you?
You won't be his friend anymore. You know it's gonna hurt you even more if you keep seeing him.