[aig0o]

I currently don't have a social life. I usually just stay at home and watch some TV or go on the computer every weekend. I find it hard to make new friends and I hardly spend any time with a FEW friends that I've got coz they're either busy with work or some other friends that i don't really get along with. I do go out sometimes but most of the times im just at home. I do get invited out sometimes but even though I do wanna go, I'd get second thoughts coz there's usually more people that comes along and I don't get along with them and I usually just get left out in the corner. I tried to get along with them but I don't know, it's just hard. We don't hate each other or anything but we just don't talk. I'm quite a shy person and hard to be friends with because i'm not really a friendly, outgoing person.

What do you think I should do!?

[MNLV27]

I'm quite a shy person and hard to be friends with because i'm not really a friendly, outgoing person.

Well then do the opposite of that, be friendly and talk more. It's not that hard.

[Shikabane Hime]

You should sign up on 4chan.

You don't need to be outgoing or loud and obnoxious to make friends.
Just find people that are equally shy. If you're going to be picky and demand outgoing friends, then your fault you can't get any.

But then again, it depends if you're a guy or a girl.

[.:precious:.]

wow thats hard to deal with...Um I so understand what you mean by people that you dont talk to not that you dont like each other but you just dont talk...*raises hand* I can relate.

Um anyways I think that you should work on putting yourself out there more and making more efforts to invite people over and make plans things like that!!! =) that way maybe you can plan to do something that you know you will enjoy.

I hope that helped...

[yabasta]

For one thing keep your chin up. Don't be a loser and mope about on the net. If you are going to sign on, then at least hint at your 'real' life on your profile page. How can we help if you don't open up, at least to the whole world wide web, to the forums? I don't mean show us your photos or give your true name etc. Just ... something to work with.

If you find it uncomfortable to do that online, then do it in 'offline' to your physical buddies around you. Open up to them (but don't be a douche and spill the beans to someone - i.e. tell your whole life story in a drunken depression because... seriously saps like that need some serious kick in the guts by half a dozen guys).

And don't feel so disappointed when people don't react to the new friendly 'you'. It takes time, as with all things, so have patience, go out there with a smile... and who knows you might even get laid. lol.

yabasta

[votre-beau]

Keep an open mind. Stop thinking negative that just 'cause you're a shy person, you aren't capable of putting yourself out there to meet new people. You can, and once you realize that, you'll be more open-minded to talk to more people.

And I don't mean to go try and make friends with a group that's totally opposite of you. Go to a local gathering or place that you like, and try to make friendly talk with people that have the same interest as you. You can also bring one of your friends along when they're not busy, that way, if you're too shy, your friends can still motivate you.

It can be anywhere. The book store, mall, a convention.. absolutely anything, as long as you like it, and there's people.

Good luck!

[kishycathiee]

Be confident and positive ! :D

[happiisunshin]

Everything in life is hard. Passing a test, confessing, whatever.

I don't know why you posted this thread when you unconsciously know the answer yourself: become friendly and outgoing. No matter how much advice we give, it'll be repetitive like a broken record. You'll change only if you're willing to.

Now that you understand that you have to break out of your shell, your new question should be is how?

- Get your friends to introduce them to their friends
- Get your friends contact information and talk to them every now and then
- Make small talk with your friends' friends that you don't talk to

Those should help you on getting new friends. As for being shy around new people:

- Compliment one person a day
- Say Hi to random strangers with a smile
- Make small talk with strangers (the ones that look eager to talk to)

Keep doing those three and soon you'll find yourself pretty much comfortable around new people and being able to talk to strangers easily. As you befriend new people, you'll instantly find those that you have an instant connection with. Those are the kind that enjoy your company and likewise, you enjoy their's. As you step out more, the social life will swarm in.

Good luck.

[yokoya LL]

Well I'm shy and quite too but that's only at school.

But when I'm out with my friends, I'm all loud and hypo.

When you go out with your friends you should be happy to meet new people, since you say you have no social life, try to talk and laugh with other people. Don't be too shy when you meet new people, just come out of your shell and be happy and wild well, that's what I do. ...even though my parents don't let me go out that much.

But just be happy when you're with your friends or with new people. Laugh alot, smile, and tell jokes.

Well, I hope this helps, =]

[영원한 사랑]

I think its all just about stepping out of your comfort zone and just putting effort to just be more pleasant.
I'm just like you, really shy and rarely initiate conversations with people, but I noticed once you start acting more pleasant and just say hi to people, making friends is very easy from then on. But thats just the tough part

[Sleepy213]

You need to change. You need to be more open and be less shy.
You have nothing to talk about because you are always shy.

People takes it as..ooh she just wants to be alone or left alone.
So they try to avoid you so you won't get pissed off.
You need to show them who you are and how you are.
Eventually everyone of us will die.
It's not embarrassing. Just have fun with your life before its too late.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

-You stay at home mostly
-But you do go out sometimes.

There's nothing wrong. You can't expect to go out all the time.
I barely go hang out too. Mainly because I have no money.
So most of the time I only play some tennis or just eat some ice creams since it's summer here.

My friends always joke around saying that I'm not welcomed home by my parents, coz when I do hang out I usually go back after 12. I need to master my nerdy DDR skillz, so maybe that's why.
SO it seems like I'm not welcomed at home coz I spent my day on the city.
So I always assume that people who go out 5 days a week are not wanted/welcomed at home by their parents

[Sam Sik]

Well then do the opposite of that, be friendly and talk more. It's not that hard.

It's easy for you to say if you're already friendly and talking in the first place.

And yes it IS hard for someone like him/her.

The problem is you're hanging out with the wrong group. Yes it is true there are people that are naturally shy and no matter who they are around with, they'll still be shy. But I think you just need to find the right group of people so that you can open up to.

If you want to start talking to people either in real life or MSN, you need to start talking about whatever is on your mind. When I go on MSN, I only talk to the people that are willing to offer input. In my opinion, people that ask "what's up?" are the ones that are extremely boring. Say you just watched a new TV show, find someone that's a fan of TV and boast about how amazing it is.

[AresJK]

yea im like that too
no social life at all
well i made new friends from extra curricular stuff
my case, i did kendo.. made friends there and etc..
you should try something new for a change
or you could make friends online,, in soompi! lol

[aig0o]

I know I said I'm quite shy but not like I used to. I do try to sometimes start up a conversation with people [friend's friend] but it usually doesn't last that long. It's like you don't reallly hate each other but are unconfortable with each other. & i'm quite scared of some of those girls coz they're quite.... something. I dont mean to sound mean but they do know that they are quite scary and bean pie. I do wanna be friends with them but i'm not sure if i'm gonna be 100% comfortable with them.

I am trying, probably not 100% but i am working on it. It's just not that easy for me.

[colloquy]

I have a question, are you in high school?

[aig0o]

^I'm in second year college

[Shikabane Hime]

So we can assume you're a girl, and not some guy that just wants to befriend women and only women unlike some people out there
*coughstartswitha-T-endswithan-O-cough*

[mikez]

So we can assume you're a girl, and not some guy that just wants to befriend women and only women unlike some people out there
*coughstartswitha-T-endswithan-O-cough*

Tattoo?

[littlejade]

You should do stuff u enjoy, have a hobby, plan things to do. and get it done.
people like to be friend with someone who has a personality.
show them what type of person u are, or just be yourself.
People like to be around happy people.

If you want a friend, u got to be a friend.