[★JIYONG's GF]

I used to be very close with this big group of friends. It's like a clique thing. However recently this girl, G, came in and kept sticking to us. It's fine with me since she is my classmate as well. However I feel that she is trying to join the clique as well like she use many methods to attract attention, and she follows us where ever we go like she's a part of the clique. Later on I realise that all her close friends are in another grade and so she don't have any close friends in class. From what I see, I personally think that she is boot licking us to be friends with us. However I thought that maybe I was too sensitive and stuff. But suddenly one day, my friend, WT, also in the clique, told me that she felt the same way as I do (I didn't told her how I felt initially). After that I begin to take note of G's actions and begun to hate her.

My groups of friends (excluding WT) found out that I hate her and now they all hates me. I do not know why. I tried to explain that I dislike her is because I find her a hypocrite and that is only from my point of view. But it was useless. Majority of my other classmates begun ignoring me as well.

Now I no longer hang out with them. They have class outings and everything but they do not invite me and my friend said that it's because G is present so I cannot go.

What should I do? I do not want to force myself to like G... I feel really upset because me and my big group of friends used to be so closed. Just in one night, one of them, B, started scolding me, telling me how fake and stupid I am because of G. We used to be close friends... and now it's like that.

One my other friend, JM, told me that I was wrong to hate G. Only WT supports me now, the rest hates me.

[prisonerzero]

This is why I'm not fond of cliques. Things like this happen because one person wants to "join," but they're not allowed 'cause of... cliques, ew.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

what is a clique?
why can't she join your clique?

[heyitzthatfc]

I used to be very close with this big group of friends. It's like a clique thing. However recently this girl, G, came in and kept sticking to us. It's fine with me since she is my classmate as well. However I feel that she is trying to join the clique as well like she use many methods to attract attention, and she follows us where ever we go like she's a part of the clique. Later on I realise that all her close friends are in another grade and so she don't have any close friends in class. From what I see, I personally think that she is boot licking us to be friends with us. However I thought that maybe I was too sensitive and stuff. But suddenly one day, my friend, WT, also in the clique, told me that she felt the same way as I do (I didn't told her how I felt initially). After that I begin to take note of G's actions and begun to hate her.

My groups of friends (excluding WT) found out that I hate her and now they all hates me. I do not know why. I tried to explain that I dislike her is because I find her a hypocrite and that is only from my point of view. But it was useless. Majority of my other classmates begun ignoring me as well.

Now I no longer hang out with them. They have class outings and everything but they do not invite me and my friend said that it's because G is present so I cannot go.

What should I do? I do not want to force myself to like G... I feel really upset because me and my big group of friends used to be so closed. Just in one night, one of them, B, started scolding me, telling me how fake and stupid I am because of G. We used to be close friends... and now it's like that.

One my other friend, JM, told me that I was wrong to hate G. Only WT supports me now, the rest hates me.

Well, your problem begins obviously from when people found out you disliked her, for a kinda lame reason. It seems that if your little clique got mad at you, then obviously they were okay with her except for you and WT..

Can you not just.. get over that kind of stuff? You were hating on somebody, and you get hated on.. In a way it's like karma, haha.. Err maybe you should just try to change the way you're thinking and start fresh. Show them you're okay and make up. You don't have to be butt buddies but just mutual with her.

what is a clique?
why can't she join your clique?

A group of friends, like a gang, kind of.

They can't join because school kids are dumb and not as open minded as adults.

[prisonerzero]

what is a clique?
why can't she join your clique?

It's this little group of friends that won't allow anyone else to be friends or whatever, blah. Go watch some Mean Girls and you'll get the idea.

[CrystalRoses]

Well they're not really your friends are they?
Since they chose this new girl over you?
You should be angry at them for doing this!
WT is your true friend.
I support you for having your opinion and standing up for it.

But you should have a good, legitimate reason to hate G.
If you don't, then just get over your complex and move on.

[EHNerJI]

lol. how old are you? jw XD
reminds me of middle school days ~~ (:
well, they'll get over it eventually,
honestly this used to happen to me/my friends when we were younger.
but, i suggest maybe talking to the group with WT (again)? o.o;
they prolly won't ditch G for you or w.e, but maybe they can understand more.. ?
or.. just suck it up and get along with G, lol.
cuz right now, they feel like they need to make a decision,
since you guys 'don't get along'..
and since G didn't really do anything wrong from their view..
they'd rather choose her than you X:
but, maybe if you make an effort to get along with G,
they'll accept you again?
either that, or get new friends =/ it's pretty immature, though X:
what they're doing ~ no offense XD

[yabasta]

Are you sure your friends said you CAN'T hang out with them because G-girl is there? Or did they kind of hint at it, or maybe even insisted that you didn't come? Because if the latter's the case, then you can just barge into their group outings anyway. Brunt it out, be stubborn (one thing we glorious Koreans are infamous for - and good at) and fight back against that G-girl. You know I don't mean physically or verbually abuse her right? I mean, just be there, and your presence should pressure her. Don't be mean, be nice, include her in the group and screw her hypocrisy. Everyone's got their paradoxical nature.

Be nice. Even to the people you hate, and others will come to your side. Be stubborn in being nice, that'll force others to see how wrong the person is, if she is really hypocritical (i.e. intentionally lie).

yabasta

[eximius]

If anything, this just proves that WT is your only real friend. o_o

[love-monster]

I think you're wrong to hate G as well. What's wrong with her wanting to hang out with you guys? And does having one more friend hurt? I don't know, it just seems a little immature to me. Like, you were looking for things to hate about her AFTER you decided you didn't like her.

I think you need to realize that you were in the wrong first,
and then sincerely apologize.

lol. how old are you? jw XD
reminds me of middle school days ~~ (:
well, they'll get over it eventually,
honestly this used to happen to me/my friends when we were younger.

Same. (:
It just sounds like you dislike her because she was trying to join your circle of friends, and I don't see why that's a problem. Unless she like, killed your brother or something.

[Seraphyx]

Find a new group of friends. If a girl that hasn't been in your clique for very long comes along and replaces you, then your friends aren't really "good" friends. You can't force yourself to like someone that is "fake" or whatever other term you'd like to describe her with. The way I see it is, I think that if you have been friends with them longer and they turned on you, then I guess they aren't worth your time.

[5.mystline]

I think It's time you step Into your game mode and teach G a lesson..Blair Waldorf style

[colloquy]

Guess what - she IS part of the clique now, you have been shafted and you better do some butt-kissing like G to insure that you stay in the clique too.

I don't get what's wrong with G. She butt-kisses? She wants to be FRIENDS with you guys? Omg, lyk wut, SHOCKER! Why don't you try to see the good in her. It might be good for you... because obviously your friends think she's cool too. However, if you still don't like this girl, I suggest you just get a new set of friends.

[iwanabiggal0lly]

She's just trying to make friends..it is your wrong.
If you want to be with your group then accept G. If not, make new friends and hopefully no one will hate you for that.

[yabasta]

Yeah but she could be a total bisnicht while doing it. No body likes those clone-warriors. I've met a few in my time, they act all nice and stuff, but only to hog attention. I don't care though, so I usually let them take the spotlight - that's my view on the matter, even if she is the worst human being possible, but your friends like them... YOU CAN LEAVE the group. Clearly they're not the best of buds if they're willing to take G's side rather than yours.

yabasta

[byterz.]

I'm still not capturing why you dont like G.
unless it's because she hanging out with your "clique" which is plain stupid.
i mean her friends is not there with her right now
so it makes total sense that she trying to make new friends
you would probably do the exact same thing.

just give her a chance.

[Aesthetic_Chinese]

WT was your only real friend.
end of story.

[lostedminds]

Awh,
I understand what you mean.
For me, if I am you,
I will talk to you "clinque" lol ~ group of friends
Tell them that if you consider you as a true friend, they shouldn't be an ass about it.
Regardless if the reason you hate her, it is the bussiness b/t you two.

serisouly, what kinda friends so you have that does this O_o?
if it's me, I'll f-ening slap them out of their mind

[★JIYONG's GF]

opps pls delete this reply

[★JIYONG's GF]

Are you sure your friends said you CAN'T hang out with them because G-girl is there? Or did they kind of hint at it, or maybe even insisted that you didn't come? Because if the latter's the case, then you can just barge into their group outings anyway. Brunt it out, be stubborn (one thing we glorious Koreans are infamous for - and good at) and fight back against that G-girl. You know I don't mean physically or verbually abuse her right? I mean, just be there, and your presence should pressure her. Don't be mean, be nice, include her in the group and screw her hypocrisy. Everyone's got their paradoxical nature.

Be nice. Even to the people you hate, and others will come to your side. Be stubborn in being nice, that'll force others to see how wrong the person is, if she is really hypocritical (i.e. intentionally lie).

yabasta

They didn't like ask me along so I went to ask one of them why because they normally do. And she said that she wanted to call me but she can't because G is around.

She is not sincerely wanting to friends with us like she is just trying to get more friends to gain popularity. I'm fine with her joining my clique but if she's not sincere about being friends with us, I don't think I should be friends with her, no? I never hated her from the start she tried to 'join the clique', I also hanged out with her for quite some times before I start disliking her.

I went to talk to her also telling her how I felt, I even apologised if I said anything rude or hurtful but she didn't care and even told her other friends (from another grade) to bash me.