[Melody93]

Delete this please
Delete this please
Delete this please

[mintywinter]

You can find new friends. Please believe me on this. If people can find love again after nasty breakups with their bf/gfs, then it must be possible to make new friends too.

Don't focus on trying to make new *best* friends yet. Just hang out more than you do now with the people you already know. Most people aren't mean; they won't dislike you for simply wanting to be friends with them. In fact, most of them would welcome it. You could also try joining school clubs (in addition to volleyball) to meet people with the same interests. Eventually, with your new group of friends, you'll naturally find that you are especially close to one or two of them.

Best of luck

[Melody93]

well..idk...
because i always try to talk to them...
accompany them...because i dont want them to feel lonely or ditched...
but i ended up ignored by them...
well...
the volleyball season has already started...
and the next try outs are for the co-ed....and you need to be really good to be on the team..
well..thats why im training really hard every tuesday...
and the coach said that i learn really fast....

but...
its already january..
all of them have their own 'gang'...



anyways...thanks for taking the time to read my long story...

[5.mystline]

Cheer up kiddo, Your "friends" A,B,C don't seem too friendly I think you should cut off ties with them ;x. you say you can't find new best friends but In fact you can? they don't have to be your new best friends straight away but try building up the friendship slowly.

[mintywinter]

...because i dont want them to feel lonely or ditched...

Are you talking about A, B, & C here? But they only make you miserable. You agree that they're not good friends. So it's OK to ditch them, because all they do is bully you.

(Sorry if I misinterpreted something)

Edit: I think I did. Rewriting.

[GummyChocoXP]

Seems as if A,B, and C arent worth any of your time. Dont worry about it, if they act like that then they arent worth being your friends. take your time in meeting new people, cheer up its not that hard to meet others. Before you know it youll be hanging out with a fresh new group of people who are a 100x better than A, B , and C.

[GummyChocoXP]

Seems as if A,B, and C arent worth any of your time. Dont worry about it, if they act like that then they arent worth being your friends. take your time in meeting new people, cheer up its not that hard to meet others. Before you know it youll be hanging out with a fresh new group of people who are a 100x better than A, B , and C.

sorry for double posting i was lagging

[TVSJ18]

wooot stc!
sorry...LOL
well...it seems they aren't that good friends.
if they make you feel that bad, it's better to get new friends.

you say you do have other friends, but aren't as close.
why not hang out with them?
the ones that you are slightly closer with, but don't hang out with.
Just do it!
You're probably in highschool or something, so you'll gain new friends. trust me, you do.
Just get out there!
Do you want to be miserable with these people? do you want to be stuck like this?
and, if you don't break if off, it eventually will, and it won't be so pretty.
If you don't want to suddenly break it off, slowly eat lunch with other people, and walk home with other people.
How bout strike up a conversation with the girl that plays volleyball? Just try to hang out with different people until you click.
or perhaps, you see someone in your class who seems shy and lonely....go talk to him/her!

Also, maybe before you break it off with them, ask them why.
you might as well get to know why they re acting this way.
If they make any snide remarks, then don't bother.

BUT perhaps...it's how you act?
maybe...you act mean, or annoying, maybe there's something about you that they don't like.
You can try fixing it....but I really don't know...and judging from your post, you seem like a nice person. Maybe low self esteem, and kinda shy..

but yes, join some clubs you enjoy doing. go out there and meet some new people!

[MsChen]

They're not really friends if they make you sad and feel left out all the time.

I agree with what everyone else said. Take the time to make new friends. Step away from the problem. You will definitely find people that won't do what your friends did to you.

[Honey__]

hey, i'm from malaysia! (lol but not that it matters)

anyways, i agree with mintywinters. sorry if i'm being really blunt but-
find new friends, you don't need best friends and it's obviously not going to happen immediately.
just find yourself a new group of friends.. it's better to have a group of real friends instead of just hanging onto a group of people who don't even appreciate your presence. if you leech onto them and plead with them to keep being your friend and whatnot, it's really pathetic. don't throw away your pride and beg for their friendship. they're not worth it. if they do accept you back into their clique, they must know that you're easy to manipulate because you'll do anything to keep their friendships. yep, so bottom line is find yourself real friends- but don't unnecessarily stir up hard feelings with your previous clique because that would just be your own fault and problem.

sorry if i went around in circles, best of luck & cheer up (:

[cherri82crystal]

those so called best friends of yours how so mean. all they do is shun you and look down on you because they want to make themselves feel better. A&C sound really mean. C seems like she doesn't like being around you and likes A. Actually it soounds like you guys all revolve around A.
Don't say that you can't find new best friends. never say never haha. You can find them if you try hard and do your best =) push yourself to, don't run away from the situation without even trying.

well..idk...
because i always try to talk to them...
accompany them...because i dont want them to feel lonely or ditched..

but...
its already january..
all of them have their own 'gang'...

um....wait. aren't YOU the one being ditched here? i doubt they would feel ditched by you leaving them (no offense).
You know when i first started at my new HS, i didn't know anybody. I felt like everyone had their own gangs already and that i couldn't join them. But i just kept trying and hanging with different people, and hanging with their groups, but i never had my own 'gang' until like november or something. And the people in my gang all had different groups before our gang even formed!~ you don't have to have just one group of friends. It's better to have more than one group so that you'll always have somewhere else to go (like me )

you can't keep on sticking to your ABC group (lol). they'll just look down on you since they know that you're erm pleading for their attention, or trying to get them to like you. You can't make them feel superior. You should just leave them.

[Melody93]

omg...thanks for the help guys...really appreciate it

[smiile]

Yeah, they are crap friends.
You'll make better friends, so go on without them.
Go to a side friend (someone close) and talk about it and ask if you can chill with them for a while.

[supa'Wanki]

I am always so cheerful that it seems like I don't have any Troubles/Worries

You just described myself. Remember, smile when you're happy, cry when you feel sad, and scream when you're frustrated and mad. There's no rule saying that crying will make you look weak. Don't ever force yourself to smile when you don't want to. It's not good for you to act like everything is ok. Next thing you know, you'll be going through the pain by yourself and feel lonely. You'll feel like going crazy in a way. Being positive is great, but if you conflict that with your emotions, it'll give you a negative effect. I know this is really out there from what you want to hear, but I just needed to say it.

[blurr]

Whenever we go *secret*,they will ditch C,because she wasn't that good at it. But I was better than them.
But C was being ditched,I accompanied her the whole time.


Lately,I noticed that 3 of them are ignoring me,ditching me,making me felt left behind. They barely want me to hang out with them and only call me if they have something important and want my accompany. There was once A wanted me to hang out with them and B doesn't seem to like it.


C was totally ignoring me this few days.Whenever i said Hi(happily) to her,she replied: oh,hi...(she seems like she doesn't wanna see me). I dont know how long have they been ignoring me,but I just realized it lately.And i was always treating her good,not only her,THEM.I accompanied them when they are lonely,try to smile or respond to everything they said just to make them feel that someone's listening.


A and C doesn't seem happy that I am now better than the sport they USED to be better than me.And I am taking lessons and they seem unhappy and give me a look whenever I mentioned it.But I know that will happen so I didn't tell much until they asked me,I accidently spilled out that I have training.

uhhh. maybe theres the reason why they don't like you XD. your attitude towards them seems like 'i am better than them' ; although subtle in the post -__-" theres got to be a reason if they ALL don't like you and it's not just conformity. maybe it's just me, but by the way you phrase it, it seems like you're blamin all the problem on your friends when it seems to me, (from what you posted) you may hve caused the problem yourself.

[XxKhmerBoiXx]

uhh... I'm confused lol

[faithpuppy]

make new friends =] talk to people in your classes and become friends with them. and then if they have the same lunch as you, just ask politely if you can sit with them, get to know their friends, and there you go... new friends and new people to hang out with [okay i admit...its easier said than done, but its not impossible]

[Shuga]

Strike a conversation with the volleyball guy when he's not busy and it seems right. You can even make a joke that you just came back and you don't have many friends and even add on if it would be alright if you hung out with him sometimes. If that's too forward, I say, join a club. There are a lot of worthwhile clubs nowadays which I'm sure you will be content with. Even though it may not be something you see yourself involved in in the near future, any community service or peer tutoring program is worthwhile and helpful to not only yourself but other people. *hugs* I know how it feels to appear cheerful to one set of people and 'tired' to the next. It's frustrating but you must be grateful you have that happy side. It's now your time to make sure you can show that happy side truthfully. *hugs* God bless you, darling.