[chinkboye22]

so how serious is dating to people nowadays? would you consider dating just to have fun and to be in a relationship with someone or will you only date b/c you're serious about a relationship?

i understand dating for fun can turn to a serious relationship

cuz im becoming quite desperate and lonely, im wondering if im taking the word dating too seriously? should i just take it as a simple thing and just get someone i don't truly like and than break up with her if i lose interest and than repeat the process? yea i know highschool is much different but when you get older well..yea it does seem pretty serious blehhh, it kinda seems like i want to have fun w/ dating but bleh i don't know, at the same time maybe im too eager to push for something

[claire.rawr]

depends on what you and the other person is looking for . . . it's always either/or

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

it's basically the same thing buddy, only different during the relationship.
The dates and sh*t is pretty much the same except I would imagine you will need expensive dates like dinners.

[supa'Wanki]

being 18 isn't a fine line. Dating can either be a fling or a little serious depending on what your purpose is.

If you're feeling desperate, it means you need to get up and go after a girl. Talk to random girls who you sit next to in class. Do you thing man.

[Apple.Mint]

i'm not sure what you're trying to say o.o
and um..i'm not exactly over 18 either T.T
hahah i am 18 though so i hope that's fine with me respondinggggg

um..to me, relationship are serious
i mean i am an adult now, maybe not fully grown, but i can't just joke around, thinking things will find a way to fix itself
i'm trying really hard to be mature about my relationship with my s/o =P

but before, dating/relationship was a joke to me xD
lol all those guys..i've dump.
oh so sad T.T

[AresJK]

its more serious
cuz u could get sued on a much much higher level lol

[Shikabane Hime]

18 isn't special.
You still can't do many things in many countries/states at 18.

[KimKTN]

compared to dating someone at 15

the 18 ( uni/college relationships) has a bit more responsibility
some of us are working/continue schooling - moving out etc.
so you'd have to understand ur gf/bf's situation a bit more compared to 15
where you live under your parents roof.

unless you are 18 and looking for a fling then its different - always depends on the person

[ShadowMax76]

you can get flings every other weekend.. it just depends where you look for the girls, and what your standards are. >.>' but let's not promote that . safe sex people! Lol

_ I would think that under 18 dating take it a bit too serious.. think about the drama commonly pinned against highschool relationships.
but that's an odd incomplete thought.


like everyone else said.. dating is a game. some people take it seriously, others in their stride and the rest ... not so seriously...

but meh.. i've been told thrice in the last month to find a nice girl now that i'm edging closer to legal age.
sure i'm lonely.. but i think guys like us should just find happiness as top priority.
then things will be much easier in the dating world. ...ain't sure if that's what you asked. xD

[Rekidai]

girls maybe....guys its different most guys are just looking for flings and one time things.
Every party i've been to, guys are just looking for one time things, they usually aren't looking for a relationship.

[machiavelli_paganini]

its serious only if you want it to be.

[CitrusFlower]

Maybe, if you want it to be. High school relationship you can't get much out of it but I guess once your 18 you start thinking about your future but not everyone starts to get serious after high school

[MaryMagdalin]

depends on your maturity level...
be with someone you actually like

[Kitty07]

Like the other poster , it is really only serious if you take it seriously .
I have a few friends over 20 y/o that still prefer flings .. so yeh , it's all upto your preferance . (:

[Inspector]

You're taking it too seriously. Just have fun man, date around. How else will you know who you like? If it gets serious, then it does.

[damyoungji]

It really depends on what you are looking for. If you're desperate now, and you're thinking of going after someone you don't really like, there is no need to force yourself to enter a relationship, only to dump her once you lose interest. It will only make you look like someone who never takes relationship seriously (so if you're looking for a serious one, it will be harder). All I can say is that you can just get to know more girls and get rid of the "desperation" by talking to them as friends.

Age doesn't determine whether a couple should be serious about their relationship or not. I am turning 21 years old this year, and most of the relationships my friends went through in first year was not serious. It was not until our second or third year when they get serious. However, this really depends on the couple and if they can see them being together for a long time.

One of my good friends is lonely, so he flirts with tons of girls until he settles on one that may like him, too. Then I have friends who do pretty much everything together, and one couple has already traveled to other countries together, and they are planning to move to Taiwan once they graduate (they aren't even Asian, too).

[B-E-B-3]

the person you date when you are in your teens.. is totally different from the person you want to date in your 20's.

and.. the person you want to marry... will be totally different from the majority of the people you date.

SO.. don't get too serious when you're dating. because dating is only the START of getting to know a person. and through dating and sometimes heartaches and heartbreaks... you find the qualities you want in a person.. and the ones you don't want.

it's a live and learn kinda deal.

[Kira_Hyuu]

It all depends on ur intentions in the relationship and how far like ur planning to go ahead with it...but as a rule of thumb i guess it's not very serious once ur over 18 but like nearing mid 20s people start looking for the one to settle down with ....but hey u can look for marriage at 18 thats totally fine....

[~Sw33tz~]

well although i haven't dated even though i am past 18, i find those who do 'date around' or who didn't take dating seriously, did so after they started uni (ok, some, not all).

Relationships are generally longer, like 1 or 2 years is very very normal, 3 or 4 happens, and some are even getting engaged. So yes, they start to take things more seriously, even those who don't date in HS, treat it seriously. Because, you don't have all the time to have flings and just date around. They are usually more commited and face a lot more problems together. So yeah. It is a bit more serious to a lot. They don't just suddenly get together, and break ups are usually not 'i found a girl at camp' etc like HS...

[Mik0u]

My boyfriend's 18, and he genuinely feels that I'm "the one" for him.
(Looking at his family history, I can kinda believe him o_______o)

Me, I'm 16.
I don't know.

I could see myself with him for life, but. . .

Then again, I am two years younger, therefore still in high school, and . . . I like fun. :D


-shoots self-