[whizzer's_rose]

I've went out with this guy for a couple of times but I thought that he just wasn't into me because he was not persistent like other guys. Like every after date, he wouldn't text me or try to communicate with me. When he asked me out on those dates, it just so happened that he passed by and was just a coincidence that I was free. From then on, I made a conclusion that he was just not into me and treated him like a buddy. I joke around with him and then I got the shock of my life when he told me that I was playing hard to get-that I love being chased by him. My initial reaction was I laughed out loud because I couldn't believe what an ego he got but then after some time I kinda thought did I really play hard to get?

I mean, did he expect me to start asking him out too or start calling him? Even if I did like him I think I deserve to see that's he's really interested in me before I make a conclusion that he's into me right? I was just being conservative. Maybe I did sort of played hard to get -a bit but don't all girls do???

what do you guys think.

[DeeIsRadicalYeah]

you were playing hard to get unintentionally because you were unsure of his feelings.

some girls play hard to get on purpose.

there's a huge difference.

[GiAnTgUyVeR08]

Tell him you didn't mean it. Just tell him what you told everyone on line. Besides me being a guy to, we are supposed to call girls. Most of the time anyways. If you like him, call him once. Only once. Then see where it goes. LOL. Good Luck ^o^

[littlejade]

He thinks u was interested in him, and purposly ignoring him, trying to test him.
When you wasn't.. u just thought if hes interested enough, he call u. etc..

He thinks you like him, and u just want him to chase u. Yeh, wot an ego.
when u prob don't even like him, and u wasn't even expecting his call.

If he likes u, he should chase u, i think hes the one whos trying to be hard-to-get.
Coz he wants u to chase him instead.

Which shows, he doesn't think of u as a friend, just a girlfriend to be, sorta thing.
Because if your both friends, u would contact each other, n let relationship run smoothly.

People who play hard to get, only do it to see the length someone will go to show they are really interested.

But if you have no interest in that person, i dnt think your being hard-to-get, your just not interested.

[Lie]

I wouldn't say you played hard to get. Seems like appropriate disinterest if you didn't sense any real interest on his side.

[CHOCmiint]

yeah i agree there's two sorts of playing hard to get

-when you're not sure of the other person out feelings
-or when you do it on purpose, when you like playing the game

the first one is not really playing hard to get, imo..

just tell him you didn't mean it like that

[Shikabane Hime]

Maybe I did sort of played hard to get -a bit but don't all girls do???

Don't justify your actions with "everyone else does it?!"

You're playing hard-to-get, he doesn't like it, you lost your chance.
He took you out, figured you're not interested since you're not making any follow-through, and so he decided you don't really like him.

Isn't he doing the exact same thing you're doing?

You lost cause you wanted to spare yourself some emotional pain by making sure everything goes well and not taking risks.
It's not conservative, it's called being insecure. Plz don't use silly excuses like "I'm just being conservative" to make it seem better.

EDIT: yes, I'm making assumptions, but we all know most girls are insecure and just fall back on sexist traditions to make themselves feel better. Insecure guys have nothing to fall back on.

[claire.rawr]

i think both of you guys need to stop playing around and just be upfront about it. .

if you guys keep playing games then it'll get you nowhere, unless that's all you want to do. . . play games.

but from what i'm reading, it seems like you want a direct answer... so you might as well just say, STOP MESSIN WITH ME AND TELL ME. . .

if you don't want him to ask you out on dates, then say no.

simple. YES OR NO. . . now stop playing games to counter his games cuz seriously, you're just going to confuse both of you guys.

[eximius]

From what you've said, it doesn't seem like you were playing hard to get.
More like you didn't want to initiate anything because it didn't seem like he wanted to initiate things, which would generally give off a bad vibe and make anyone insecure.

But yes, a lot of people do play hard to get.
I honestly think it's a waste of time. They either like you or not, either you like them or not... beating around the bush just wastes time and delays whatever sort of result there would be.

[nagel]

u were playing hard to get. And , whats wrong with calling him first?

[natsurei]

o_O; I used to play hard-to-get all the time. It annoyed the guy(s) who were after me. And some backed off but one <3. Haha.
It's just how my personality is though. o__o; Sarcastic, moody, hard-to-get kind. oh well.

I guess it's bad when it's so obvious. But..from you, I don't think you were..You prolly were just not interested either?

[小甜密]

It's not your fault that you're conversative. Next time if you like a dude, don't act like you're not interested in him. Women these days. Don't wait for his response. If you see what you want, then go get it before somebody else takes it. tsk tsk. Be more demanding and straightforward ya?

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

man... I've proven that playing hard to get is bad for girls... if all girls do it, then all girls are dumb then.

[Shikabane Hime]

Be more demanding and straightforward ya?

lol, ironically, they're very demanding and straightforward when they're actually in the relationship.

[whizzer's_rose]

EDIT: yes, I'm making assumptions, but we all know most girls are insecure and just fall back on sexist traditions to make themselves feel better. Insecure guys have nothing to fall back on.

assumptions--can be wrong or right in this case we were both wrong in our assumptions.

[Shikabane Hime]

assumptions--can be wrong or right in this case we were both wrong in our assumptions.

Oh I see, so you would've made your move otherwise if traditions didn't dictate a certain way.
Or perhaps you would've called first if you were sure about things cause he was being too damn confusing. He should've just played the game properly and called you first "like every other guy" and everything would've went smoothly.

My thoughts? Move on. He's not man enough for you if he's unwilling to take initiative for anything.

[sixth.]

my bf said he was actually going to give up and move on, but then i finally gave in and called him.
yeah, it's normal... but don't over-do it.

[whizzer's_rose]

Oh I see, so you would've made your move otherwise if traditions didn't dictate a certain way.
Or perhaps you would've called first if you were sure about things cause he was being too damn confusing. He should've just played the game properly and called you first "like every other guy" and everything would've went smoothly.

My thoughts? Move on. He's not man enough for you if he's unwilling to take initiative for anything.

exactly! darn! I guess I should better talk to him and lay my cards on the table and stop making assumptions.

[Shikabane Hime]

exactly! darn! I guess I should better talk to him and lay my cards on the table and stop making assumptions.

Either way, he's not man enough if he's going to approach dating like a girl.
Men should ALWAYS make the move, initiate everything, and take control of all situations.

[watcher]

Either way, he's not man enough if he's going to approach dating like a girl.
Men should ALWAYS make the move, initiate everything, and take control of all situations.

*grunt*