[colloquy]

I make this thread, because I'm honestly wondering...

Am I the only one there that actually likes/doesn't mind being alone?

I actually prefer being alone... I guess this feeling has intensified as I've gotten more friends, and whenever I have had a boyfriend in the past. Honestly, I always read people who are ranting about being alone, and it seems to me the real reason they date isn't because they actually -really- like/love that person, it's because they're afraid of being alone. But me, I'm rarely ever alone, even though I have a single room in college. I have people texting me often, I go out with people often. I sometimes decline/make up excuses for dinner (and frequently parties...cus I hate those) sometimes because I'd rather spend the night alone. Or with my bf, obviously, or just my bff.

I know this might sound weird, but I'm the most comfortable when I'm alone. And I'm with my boyfriend because I feel as comfortable with him as I do when I'm alone and we get along like pb&j. I've been through my moments of infatuation, and honestly... I didn't like it, especially in hindsight. I don't know. I guess it's because I'm an only child... actually, I think that strongly factors into it. I'm not saying I don't like my friends, because having friends is important, but... I'm not scared of dying without a significant other. I just having a bit more alone time than most others I know.

So, here's to you: Do you prefer to be alone, or do you fear loneliness? Or in between?

[s a r a n g]

sometimes
i prefer being alone
and other times
i dont want to feel left out

it all always changes though..

[princesspoppy]

The only loneliness I fear is: "I am Legend" loneliness. Being the only person alive-loneliness. Being stranded on an island-loneliness.

I don't mind spending time by myself, but being completely alone, as in, all my family and friends no longer with me, I'd be sad.

[ShadowMax76]

as long as people don't go so far as calling themselves loners and dismiss people they talk to as 'not friends' like the ones they see in dramas being over at their house everyday....

it's fine. i think. i'm more comfortable when i don't have eyes on me..
==' gasp. i just pictured that creature in harry potter that changes to w/e you fear most, where no one knows what it really looks like..~

[Lie]

I make this thread, because I'm honestly wondering...

Am I the only one there that actually likes/doesn't mind being alone?

I actually prefer being alone... But me, I'm rarely ever alone,

How do you know whether you like being alone if, according to your post, you're rarely ever alone? It'd be like saying, "I don't mind being poor," despite the fact that you're only broke a few days a month.

[colloquy]

Nah, that's a gross overexaggeration of mine. I'm actually alone quite often at night in my room. When I had a roommate, that was when I was rarely ever alone.

And... I don't think your comparison holds any ground anyway. Even when I had a roommate, I knew I liked to be alone more often than naught. I know myself as a person, thanks.

[Shikabane Hime]

I know myself as a person, thanks.

That's what they all say, until they're actually in the position.

Which is why I don't bother with those eco-friendly organizations, cause they talk about how they'll give up everything to prolong the planet, but they don't do squat.

[colloquy]

In... what position? I mentioned I am an only child... =_=; Jesus on a cracker, reading comp 101. I was definitely alone -quite- a few times and learned from a young age to entertain myself w/o other people.

[joie.de.vivre]

solitude and loneliness are two different things.
i really like my moments of solitude, but i hate the feeling of loneliness [i really don't think anyone would like being lonely...]

[Lie]

That's what they all say, until they're actually in the position.

Yep, that's pretty much the case.

[Shikabane Hime]

In... what position? I mentioned I am an only child... =_=; Jesus on a cracker, reading comp 101. I was definitely alone -quite- a few times and learned from a young age to entertain myself w/o other people.

I see, so would you like to share what you tend to do during your alone time?

For example, posting on soompi.com forums, perhaps.

[colloquy]

Study for my subjects, what else would I do? Lol.

[daldonge]

maybe because your s/o is your everything, thats why u dont feel alone. =]

[Shikabane Hime]

A lot of people like to think they're fine alone, but go play MMORPG's, post on public forums, and communicate with others via IM or skype.

That's not being alone, that's nowhere near being alone.
Some believe that online relationships are not real and those that believe in it don't have a social life.

Which is a pretty amusing conclusion.

[daldonge]

That's not being alone, that's nowhere near being alone.
Some believe that online relationships are not real and those that believe in it don't have a social life.

Some people believe that, because they dont think there is a human behind the monitor.

so they say woteva they want, even on soompi, i dnt care about how u feel.. i dnt even know u..
but some things people say can hurt others.. because behind that monitor is somebody.

People have to be really sensitive to see that.

[HappyExpress]

your idea must be limited. Go beyond!

[Lie]

I also find the preconception that being alone for an evening at a time is in any way comparable to being single for long periods of time to be pendulous, for me anyhow. I can spend an evening alone here and there, but being single for long periods of time is miserable to me.

[xo_sugar_ox]

in between for me. there are times where i like being single, and there are also times where having an s/o would be great. i do admit i'm afraid of being alone all my life but it's not that serious of a fear for me.

[littlejade]

Do you prefer to be alone, or do you fear loneliness? Or in between?

I don't mind being alone, i even go to the movies alone, because my frds dont like watching animations.
but if i think about myself being forever single, i fear that. Being by myself forever with no one.
But i dont want to be with just anyone, i want to find the special 1.

I think loneliness has something to do with self-esteem.

[ShadowMax76]

o-0'
how 'bout we just say we're used to being miserable for longer periods of time than the rest of 'em. lol.

some are patient.
others require affection.
others can just bare the yearning,
and the rest are hermits. _ i know one. he seems happy, but in denial of something..