[drainpainlikerain]

so people (as in everyone that knows me and him), tell me that this guy likes me which i think is absolutely true.
i like him very much too, but i'm so insecure about my feelings for him.
like, i don't know if i really do like him or not.
i love seeing him because seeing him just seems to make my day so much better.
and i feel like a day without him is like nothing to me.
but when i think about me and him together, i can't see anything happening.
but i feel like i do like him, but then again, i just can't see us together.
he's so mysterious to me, but i think that's what i like about him.
he's very sweet, caring, and funny. he gets along with everyone and seems like such a great guy.
but for some reason, my head and my heart are kinda blank. my feelings are saying YAY!, but i don't know.
i mean, for once, i feel stupid like really relationship stupid. i usually know who i like, but this time i don't.
today, his fingers kinda "accidentally" touched my fingers and boy, my heart raced so fast it was like adrenaline rush.
it's weird because my reflexes were so fast he turned around just to see what i flinched about.
do i like him? or do i not? i'm so insecure about my feelings.
i don't know at all. i feel like i can think about him all day and be happy, but i don't want that.
maybe it's just a crush or me admiring him or just freakin valentines day getting to me. i don't know.
these insecure feelings are making me think so much.

and ironically, i use to like his older brother. that's if telling you this does make a difference in me liking him.
his brother is a year older than me, but he's like 5 days younger than me. funny huh? i think so.
anyways, both are two very different people. his brother isn't so talkative, while he is very talkative.
his brother and me have somewhat of the same taste in music, yet he and i also have the same taste in music.
well, i guess it's because i like many kinds/genres of music. but yeah. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
soompiers, you gotta help this insecure little big girl out. anything works.

and i'm so sorry it's long.

[ShadowMax76]

um...
o0' so ya wanna feel confident?

alcohol isn't the best way to go, so i recommend a couple pills of anti-thoughts.

..just don't think too much , and go with what your body does.

_ T _ T' and what's with the brothers-complex... if i were to date one sister and fancy the other a bit, i'd be dead from a life-long resisted temptation.

[drainpainlikerain]

um...
o0' so ya wanna feel confident?

alcohol isn't the best way to go, so i recommend a couple pills of anti-thoughts.

..just don't think too much , and go with what your body does.

_ T _ T' and what's with the brothers-complex... if i were to date one sister and fancy the other a bit, i'd be dead from a life-long resisted temptation.

the whole brothers-complex thing. i still can't believe either. tell me about. i mean, i would constantly tell myself why didn't i meet him before i met his brother. i knew his brother 3 years before i knew him. i really hate that feeling of liking his brother then him. it disgusts me, but i can't control it.

i think that's a reason stopping me from telling myself my true feelings maybe. the fact that i liked his brother first. GOSH DAMMIT! this is killing me. so confusing. I GIVE UP! he will have none of me and i will have none of him!

[Lie]

This seems to be an issue that most if not all girls face at one point or another. Whereas I'm trying to think of whether I, or any of my male friends, have ever had this sort of issue. I'm thinking no. It seems to me that girls analyze things tremendously irt relationships, whereas guys tend to just go with the flow. Where most girls I meet think, "What could go wrong with this relationship?" guys just want to hurry into it and see what happens. That seems to be where most of the frustration between guys and girls happens.

If I were in your spot I'd throw caution to the wind and see what happens. But I can understand the negatives involved in doing that if you don't think you really like him all that much.

[manlytoe]

the whole thing with you liking the older brother first i think shouldn't really be thought about too much.

that actually happened to my cousin. he liked the older sister, but the younger sister liked him. i know it seems really dramatic and all, but it all worked out in the end. plus, now he even tells me he can't believes he use to the like the older sister. i know weird huh? but it's just, sometimes when you think you've found'em you realize it was someone else that was close to them that had really got you. my cousin and the younger sister are doing so well, they've been dating for almost 3 years now. i'm not saying that the same will happen to you, but yeah.

and the best thing to do with your situation of insecure feelings i guess is to try and avoid him for a couple of days. try to go one without seeing him and see how that goes. i know you're saying a day without him is liking nothing, but it could that be that you're just use to his company. i don't know. but the thing with fingers touching thing just killed me with laughter. if one single touch can make you feel so up like that, maybe you do like him. LMAO.

[Seraphyx]

Asking soompi won't make your insecure feelings go away.

[ShadowMax76]

the whole brothers-complex thing. i still can't believe either. tell me about. i mean, i would constantly tell myself why didn't i meet him before i met his brother. i knew his brother 3 years before i knew him. i really hate that feeling of liking his brother then him. it disgusts me, but i can't control it.

i think that's a reason stopping me from telling myself my true feelings maybe. the fact that i liked his brother first. GOSH DAMMIT! this is killing me. so confusing. I GIVE UP! he will have none of me and i will have none of him!

. i turn, and look around.. i see girls doing that everyday.
If ONE guy isn't perfect enough for her, she goes to the guy's best friend. because he's just like him, but a bit different. maybe a little better. perhaps it's just that the guy's best friend is 'new'..

but. that's a lil sexist.. i 'spose guys do it too.. if they bother making friends with their gf's friends. lol.

_ just makin' a lil statement.
if it makes ya feel better, you'll probably feel less guilty if you 'rise above' the temptation. as if you're better than falling for a trap. ..works for me like a charm.~

[Nathalie]

The way you describe is what I'm going through.
Like the older brother and turns out a year later his younger brother likes you; and seem you have feeling.

The feelings you are having is normal; although I think its because I'm just ready for another relationship to progress. Plus Valentines' coming up..you have the urge to get someone beside you this year. Although I didn't have a Valentine last year I ended kinda liking my Valentine..he just came out of no where.

The older brother and younger brother thing to me is kinda okay. Its not like you confess to the older brother, did you? I mean if you did; it doesn't matter. It matter what feelings you have for the other brother.
And yes, the opposite brother thing. It always happen. One talkative and the other soooo darn quiet.

The finger touch is not the over the top reaction; because of course you squeal and be happy. I did. I thought it was cute. I think you actually like him. So I think overall get over the feelings and find your real feelings hiding beyond and actually befriend with him..and get to know him..and hang out with him like friends..and if it goes well..then go on and do what your heart says.

Thats all I can say..because thats actually my plan too.