[SUPER.NANA]

I was best friends with her 2 years ago

i haven't seen her in over a year

she gave birth to a child in december

december was when she myspaced me and talked

she seems like she isn't ready to tell me about her child

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i found out she sold her clothes during her pregnancy because she needed money and they didn't fit any longer

should i pity her?
what can i do to help?



i told her to come to my house on saturday and bring her little girl
obviously telling her that i know already, was it wrong of me to know?

teen mother btw.
father lives with mother and child

[ShadowMax76]

'spose she has enough stress on her plate, perhaps as a friend you could help out when you can.
even if it's just to get her to laugh like you two used to - just to let her know that you don't judge her because of this.

telling her you know.. i 'spose we gotta skip the drama and details, and get to the work .. ay? xP

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[uhmchristina]

honestly, it is noooo big deal.
support her. it's not like you can anything about it anway.
her baby is probably super cute anyway ^^
one of my good friends had a baby in december, cutest baby girl in my life.
i wasn't phased or anything. no judgments. no fingers, no name-calling. she's a smart girl & i love her to death, along with her baby =]
embrace her choice and make her feel comfortable. you guys were friends for a long ass time, so try to be understanding.
i bet she'll make one hell of a mom too =] ...even though i don't know her. haha
and it's really cool how the father chose to stick around. props. =]
just be cool =]

[SUPER.NANA]

thanks christina and shadowmax

yeah she's like 17 and he's 19
i'm suprised he chose to stay

but i'm not sure what to give her

smiles aren't enough when she's struggling financially

[claire.rawr]

you make it seem like she did a bad thing by getting pregnant.

congratulate her and just be a good friend like you were before. . . you're young too so she can't expect you to give her money.. but what would be great is just a great support AKA a friend..

you sound like a total dirk if you think you should "pity" her or feel bad. . . she was bound to have a baby at some point in her life... no one is ever really ready.. even when you're a lot older.

just be a friend. . . iono..

[e77ie]

omg.. i got on this forum to ask a very similar question..!
alright if i post here instead of posting a new topic??
i honestly have NO IDEA of what to do..

my best friend is having a pregnancy scare.
is there anything i can do for her that might possibly make her feel better?

[Shikabane Hime]

I'm also surprised that the guy decided to stay.
Let her parents deal with it. They have experience already.

You can help her by ratting her out. I don't care if she'll hate you, that's not what you asked.

[littlejade]

why isn't the grandparents helping out? ..

since shes a mother, she should read up parenting magazine.. on how to be a good parent.

[blissful*sin]

good to hear da father stayed
hopefully hes workin' bring home some money
arent there any social programs in her state?
at least get medical coupon or food stamps for the baby
as a friend u can provide emotional support
sometimes help out with grocery whatever u can afford
all da best to the baby and family!

[ShadowMax76]

you make it seem like she did a bad thing by getting pregnant.

you sound like a total dirk if you think you should "pity" her or feel bad. . . she was bound to have a baby at some point in her life... no one is ever really ready.. even when you're a lot older.

just be a friend. . . iono..

'just legal' sex + unprotected sex doesn't seem to be very admirable [as opposed to pitiable]_ just irresponsible, premature and accidental.. due to w/e lack of education people have.. it's hard not to pity the mistakes that cause a person's life to be become incredibly hard. to have a baby before your life's set is somewhat... risking how the new life will grow up.. - it's not the best way to raise a kid..

but eh. what's done is done.

omg.. i got on this forum to ask a very similar question..!
alright if i post here instead of posting a new topic??
i honestly have NO IDEA of what to do..

my best friend is having a pregnancy scare.
is there anything i can do for her that might possibly make her feel better?

can't really think of anythin' other than keep her mind off it.

[Inspector]

My gf's friend got pregnant recently too, but she is in her early twenties. The guy choose NOT to stay,and well let's just say that its nice that the guy choose to stay with her. Its what guys are supposed to do. Take responsibility. You can't do much for her, and I know that sucks, but thats life. The most you can do is support her mentally. Have they decided how they are going to take care of the baby? What about their parents? Any help?

It's not wrong of you to know...but obviously thats something everyone would be flaunting, so thats why she didnt say anything. Just treat her like any other person, and that is enough. She doesn't need anyone treating her any different and pitying her.

my best friend is having a pregnancy scare.
is there anything i can do for her that might possibly make her feel better?

What do you mean by scare? She doesn't know if she is or not? First she has to let her boyfriend know about her thinking she is pregnant, and let them take care of it. Obviously she should be with her boyfriend when she takes the test. A DECENT guy would want to go through this with their gf, no matter what. When my gf thought she was pregnant, she didnt tell me because she knew I wasn't ready to have kids yet. She only told me AFTER she found out she wasn't. I wished she would of told me so that she didn't have to go through all that by herself. And you can't do much for her, but be there. Sweet words only go so far. If she is pregnant, find out about some information about unsupected mothers or something like that.