[gangdur]

For the some of you guys who have been involved in a long distance relationship that began purely on meeting through chat rooms or forums or w/e how many of you guys have actually never met your online s/o? Like you dated for awhile online and built all these feelings for the other person only to have everything crushed when you finally met them irl. Like.. you have thought that they are all these things only to find out that they were not. Did you continue things as they were?

[mikez]

I met this girl online, but we never went out till I flew 700 miles on an airplane to see her.

Then I continued to fly from NYC to Chicago to see her every chance I get for the next 1.5 years.

Cost loads of $$$, and long distance relationship never works out.

People needs physical comforts, time with each other, aim and phone calls just doesn't do the same, you can only fool yourself for so long.

[Amanda Plz]

I met him online. He lived in England and I was in New York at the time. He came to visit me for two weeks during Valentines day. I wasn't crushed when we met since he was exactly the same and smelled good. I don't think he was that disappointed either. We broke up three months later though. I think the cost of him visiting me got to him . LOL.

I'm about two hours away from my current crush now. Not so bad. He's pissed that I moved out of state just as he was about to confess to me. We'll see how it works out.

[Juli-]

From my experience, they never work. I was young and stupid and had 3 long distance relationships. One was in Australia, the other Texas and Michigan. All saying 'omg i'm going to come to Cali" the whole relationship. None of them ever did. The Aussie one "lost feelings for me." The Texas one turned out to be a COMPLETE pervert, and the Michigan one just was a loser (I don't know what I saw in that guy).
They never work out. Eventually, if you have no way to see the other person, all those feelings drive you CRAZY.

I actually had a crush on this guy for about 2 years (after those online dating things), and he too with me, who lived in Northern California, I live in Southern. But, we didn't want to start a relationship on distance, because, we know it never works, and for risk of ruining our already, very close, friendship. We practically were a couple, just unofficial.

Buuut soon...I wanted to get out of that crush mode, looking for a real relationship, and I got that the end of last year. Boy did my crush blow up on me lol, BUT, we're talking again...

ALSO, my friend is starting to prove me wrong with long distance. She and her boyfriend have been together for about a year and 2 months, being on each side of the country of the US. He's SUPPOSEDLY coming in April to live here for a bit...who knows..lets see if it works (he seriously needs to get a job though...he refuses to go to college when I asked him about it, he's 20).

[Mik0u]

I'm in an LDR. :/
Hate the feeling of it, because as much as I love him, I hate the lack of physical intimacy.
Sounds creepy, but it's an important factor in a relationship.

A relationship can't be based on mere pretty words on the page, or MSN, AIM, whatever.

(Thank god for Skype though.)

We have about 4hours car distance (but 1 1/2 hour TGV train distance), and that'll change to a whole ocean plus a couple of hours, once I move back to Canada...

We're both dreading that day.

But I really think it can work. Not just saying that hoping mine will last; but if both parties make the effort, it will work.

All depends on the person, too.

I get to see my bf about once a month. Once I go back to Canada though, he'll be coming about 6 months later, to live for a year.

(:


PS; oh, and I never started dating him until I met him in person. I just had to make sure he wasn't some creepy perv.

[ponga]

My bf and I were childhood friends and we got disconnected when i came to US for like more than 10 years. When my parents went back to their homeland, they decided to visit his family. His parents and my parents were bestest best friend. Luckily his family still lived there since we left our country. Then we chat little bit here and then, till my whole family went back again and from there .......our relationship got started. To me it isn't that bad as a long distance relationship i guess....cause my life right now is as busy as i get ........so many things that I need to be done....sigh..not so much time to think about him here and there...only when my mind goes blank and i have nothing to do.

Sometimes it is dreadful but i guess it is okay for my side. I dunno about his side...but i guess this way..both of us can gain tremendous trust between each other.

[diam0nds.]

well, i've been in one LDR, but it didn't start out that way.
we just moved to separate cities due to school, & it was hard.
we both put our studies before anything else...so yeah, hahaha.

[JunsuLove]

My last LDR, we met online through my cousin.. He was dating my cousin and than he broke up with her and got with me, lol x]
We met after 6 months of online dating.. And our relationship kind of went down after we met, lol..
I'm not sure if it was just by pure coincidence that it happened after that, but whatever.
Our relationship was 2years and a bit over a month xD

[tusoo]

TRUE STORY
my sister met this guy through the net, through MSN and chatrooms. They started chatting to each other when she was 16. Then when it was final year of highschool, they went to her formal/prom together. Then when my parents found out she was dating some guy, and her highschool grades fell, they kicked her out of the house, and she moved in with my uncle. She still continued seeing that boy. My sister finally moved out of my uncles house and moved into an apartment with the guy. They lived in the apartment for like 3 years. They then bought a townhouse together. stayed there for like a year. they then bought a new house. got married. and now a year later, she is pregnant with their first child. They have been together for 9 years!
unbelievable. And to think it all started on the net.

[.ChocoCat.]

6 months give or take a day or two. ended yesterday :/ long distance never works. ^ as for that.. :x i wish we were all that lucky

[secretlyjustyours]

alot of mine were long distance
lol, i met this guy through my friend. its his best friend, btw
anyway, we knew each other for THREE YEARS and then we would never really date but we would just be sorta in like ... i love you etc etc.
i would consider him a bf but then he never asked me out since we can't do it face to face? he only lives an hour away though >.>" he needs to learn how to drive.
anyway, i wanted to meet him on valentines but then we got into an argument so I can't do it...

i thought it worked. i mean three years of liking someone..
but. hahah looked how it turned up now !
so yea :X

[my.name.is.nine]

it's hard especially when the guy barely talks to you and has too many friends that are girls. =p

but it's hard. my ex was too busy with his friend and left me hanging. so i just ended it since he wasn't making time for me even if i made time for him even when i was out of state.

[LotusWing]

I'm in a LDR at the moment. I live in Denmark and my bf live in USA.
I joined a penspinning forum last year (February) and I it was there I met him. We started dating in August. It was difficult for us to see if the dating would work, so we agreed to meet in October and then decided the meeting place in Sweden. I flew from Denmark to Sweden, and he flew from USA to Sweden. We spent 8 days together, and honestly on our first day we already felt for each other completely. We were both nervous when we met, but everything went well and we really wanted to continue our relationship because we believe it will work out! After we came home from Sweden, my bf got our promise rings with engravings and then sent to me. Now both of us are wearing our promise rings as a proof of our love.
The distance is of course the most difficult part. We waited about 3 months to see each other again, and the waiting time was so painful but thanks to MSN, Skype, Facebook and the forum we've been handling well.
He went to Denmark just few days before New Year and he spent 16 days with me. I can't explain the feeling when I saw him again, but my heart beated every second and I wanted to hold him for eternity. I hugged him, kissed him and I wanted to say that I missed him and I love him so much! The distance really made my heart eager a lot for him
I am going to visit my bf in May and will spend 3 weeks with him, so we have like 3 months untill we can see each other again! YEAH!

It is true that the long distance is complicated but we do think that it is a test of our love. The LDR will last long if you love and trust your bf/gf, so I really believe that LDR will work!

[bebexlove]

My current relationship was a "LDR" sortof. We only lived about 30 minutes away from eachother but we started off as an online relationship then as time progressed and we got to know eachother better we decided to meet and see how things started from there on.

We are still together and see eachother atleast once a week if not more. (he has work, I have work.. time is kinda tricky) So.. yeah.
We've been together for 2 years and 9 months. 3 years on May 15.

Best relationship ever<3

[OMGitzYOU]

almost four years with someone i never met. I live near LA and he's in NYC.

My current bf was also online, he drove 4 hours to see me and made a couple of trips so far. I spent Thanksgiving and Winter Break with him and his family.

<33

[nhii]

im in a current LDR .. he lives umm ... an hour plane ride away? O_o" somehow i don't feel like i'm missing out on anything just because he lives a couple thousand kilomtres away but he flies up almost every couple weeks for "business" reasons (or so he says but he just wont admit that it's cos im here..that idiot)

oh yes and we met online through a close friend of mine.

[~Tropical.Mists]

well, i've been in one LDR, but it didn't start out that way.
we just moved to separate cities due to school, & it was hard.
we both put our studies before anything else...so yeah, hahaha.

Same here!!
We didn't start off as a LDR, but after high school, we went to different universities and now I barely see him =(
He lives an hour and a half drive away..... it's nothing like "half-way across the world" kinda thing, but still... hard to get together.
I only see him once a month sigh* It's hard cuz a lot of trust is involved and commitment but I still believe it can work

--xoxo.
TM

[crazykyootie]

hmm, not me personally but someone i know
her story is actually very inspiring because you can tell how strong her relationship is between her and her husband

she met her husband through her friend, but they had a LDR for like 2 years
she said that it was really hard, but it was worth it. and they got married (:
but now her husband is in iraq fighting in the war, so she hasn't seen him for a couple of years
but wow, just seeing her talk about her husband is very.. touching.
shows how strong love is.. if it truly is love, i believe LDR's are quite possible.

[Riyoko]

Um, one I'm in currently, meet every week, and he's not any different irl than online. Cept, he's more quiet.

One previously, was a Dominican guy in NY. I live in CA, flew to see him (also had family there, so did that too), and he ended up being nice. Saw a movie, went walking by the giant christmas tree, etc. Gave him my favorite bunny and everything. He was a jerk once I left, though. Plus, I went for a week, but I only got to see him for like five hours on one day...Anyway, broke up after calling me a bunch of names. Too bad he was my first bf/kiss. Good thing he wasn't anything more, though.


Funny thing is he still has my bunny on his bed. Meh.


My current bf suits me better anyway. =] Good example of how long distance relationships can be good and bad.

[cantthinkofaname]

well...in my case it's a bit different from yours
it was over chatting but things didn't go out the way it's supposed to
but for yours
it depends on you if you still have the same exact feelings for the girl
i know it how it feels...total turn off right?