[saranghae_miyavi]

My story is a little long, but please read it and give me some advice on whether or not to start over with this person...



should i forgive My so called "best friend"...well now she's kinda like and associate .


Me and Ex-bff have had fights before, and every time we get into one, i let my pride get in the way, and i ignore her, and i never flinch about being her friend again. and as usuall she would be the one to break first, and come running back to me. But im sick and tired of it, im fed up....

and this was the straw that broke the camel's back...

My story is also kinda long lol...

But it all started out when i went to a concert with an old friend & new friend ive known old friend for 10 years but wernt as close, but old friend called me up, and said "hey we havent hung out in years, do you want me to come pick you up and we can go to a rock concert?" so i said "sure why not" it wont hurt me to meet old pals right? wrong!

*And new friend, is a friend that i made this year, and she's an amazing person

And when i asked her (ex-bff) if she wanted to come she said

"please, like i would ever go to a rock concert, full of potheads, and druggies"

[btw, it was a clean cut rock concert, no drugs, sex or anything lol]

and so i said okay, your decision if you want to come or not

Then later that week old friend and new friend (new and old are bff too) asked me to hang out with them, and go shopping, and go to a cafe and all the girly things we girls do.

But then new friend also asked me if i wanted to go to the book store and study for midterms with her and some other of our friends, so i said well i kinda have plans, but if new friend and old friend can come then we can all study then hang out together

and she said "sure, but ur probably gonna leave with New & old, and yall are going to go the field and smoke, and drink and hook up with guys

And that was it!

All week she's been nagging me about hanging with them, and she dosnt even know them, she never talked to either of them, and their the coolest, sweetest girls ever, and she's sitting there going off.

She was acting like a paranoid freak, and earlier that week when a math class friend wanted to work out with me, exbff says "oh you like math friend better than me, i see how it is"

So i told her :

"look, their nice girls, so dont talk ill about them unless you know them, your always Bxtching about people you dont know, and these are my friends, so please stop this!"

And so she called me a rainbow, and a slut, and told me that she hopes that i get pregnant and ruin my life (wtf? ive never even had sex) and that im going to become a druggie, and when i do she'll laugh in my face.

WTF!? is that something a person should even say

so i said, okay fine, lets just call it quits, im tired of your drama, and even though we had some really good memories, lets just hang on to those good memories, and leave eachother on a good note.

But noooooo, she couldnt take me not being her friend

So she texted me over and over, millions of texts a day, non stop, cussing at me, and demanded all her stuff, and all the presents she gave me

And when i said okay, she gave me back my stuff ripped and torn, and tattered

Like my yellow expensive shoes my older sis got me from new york. and my SUPER EXPENSIVE skinny jeans that my rich aunt got me from Dubai, and one of my favorite shirts.

I was so pissed, so i ripped out all the buttons off her shirts lol.

And then after ignoring her in school and acting like she wasnt even alive, she broke.

LAter that week...

We had an asain club dinner, and she was there, oh god. again i ignored her, and acted as if she didnt exist

The next (saturday) morning...

She sent me a text saying:

"im really sorry, please forigve me, i didnt realize how much i missed you, and i realized that night that i really want to fix things, and we should go back to the way we were. please, i cant sleep knowing that you hate me"

OMG! the nerve of her, why is it that she always expects me to accepte her when she apologizes, but im fed up, and i dont know what to do, latly at school she would talk to me like we were bff, and i just smile and walk away, and i know its killing her...but i really dont need negative friends like that. so what should i do..

sorry my story was so long.

[GaeasX]

Mebe you two should have a one-on-one conversation with each other about this stuff. Mebe there's something wrong with her or between the two of you that she's not aware of.

But if she continues this behavior afterward, you should just end it and cut ties with her. You say you guys have had several fights and each time she'll try to kiss and make up, but if her bad behavior has always been on the same level despite her apologies, she's gonna just continue doing them. Maybe she thinks that she can do or say whatever she wants and everything will be fine once she says "sorry," but seriously, that kinda thinking is messed up. If she's truly sorry, she would at least try to clean her act up a bit and be more aware of what she says.

[einna23]

I think in a way she's jealous of you or else she would have never said those things about you becoming pregnant and being a druggie. But also by the way you describe her, she seems very clingy or attatched. But you should tell her to see it in your perspective of how she is. If she can't then I wouldn't worry about having her as a friend in the future. Also you should invite her to join your other friends when you guys go out and such, so she can see for herself rather than thinking things.

[MaryMagdalin]

uh dude whats wrong with you... is she in love with you or something? lool.

no i would have ditched that "friend" long ago

[Rylise]

Eh... she doesn't seem like a very good friend.

Although, she weren't friends with your other friends, she insulted them in front of you, that's basically an insult to you.

You can forgive her if you want, but if you do, I wouldn't make her my best friend again, but distance yourself from her and just become acquaintances.

But, If I were you, I would ditch her... or I think you'll guys will just go round in this cycle again and again... I don't think you'll really want that.

[Amanda Plz]

She sounds crazy and extremely jealous. LOL @ ripping the buttons off her shirt. I don't know, dude. If I were you I wouldn't even give her the time of day. Maybe she's just lonely and wants to take up all your attention?

[prisonerzero]

I'd be telling her to go and pay for that broken stuff, man. lol @ the buttons. She does sound creepy though.

[saranghae_miyavi]

yeah she's really clingy, and today she waited for me after school like before, and i told her that i have to go to my lacrosse meeting. and she's like "okay, ill just call u L8r"

yea, i might just distance myself from her, but not become enemies, just not bff

did anyone have an experience like this? if so, then please share, and how you got over the situation

[PhuongNguyen]

She's those possessive type that want you all to herself and gets really scare when it feels like someone else might steal you away from her. Honestly, my best friend is kind of like that also; not as crazy, but sometimes... she does get worried when she feels like I'm hanging out with someone a lot. But unlike your friend, my best friend just starts crying if she feels like she's losing me; she doesn't go all crazy psycho pinkberry on my ass.

I guess it's really up to you if you want to give her another chance or not. If you do, tell her straight up to drop her crap and act like a true friend. If she can't do that then just spare yourself the time and the drama, and just leave her out of your life.

[junsujunsu]

And when i said okay, she gave me back my stuff ripped and torn, and tattered

Like my yellow expensive shoes my older sis got me from new york. and my SUPER EXPENSIVE skinny jeans that my rich aunt got me from Dubai, and one of my favorite shirts.


^^ i'll buy u neww yellow shoes from NEWYORK, be my friend! imo, a friend like that isnt worth keeping....btw, is she a capricorn?

[ly*chee]

Your friend seems really insane... maybe she's insanely jealous and has clinging problems...
She seems super clingy with you, or really jealous cause you have other friends.
But I would hate it if my friends dissed my other friends, and they know nothing about each other.

If I were in your shoes I would not forgive her ever again.
It almost seems like she likes you in a different way lol, with the whole giving stuff back etc.
She obviously has no respect for you, your friends, and your things.

[saranghae_miyavi]

And when i said okay, she gave me back my stuff ripped and torn, and tattered

Like my yellow expensive shoes my older sis got me from new york. and my SUPER EXPENSIVE skinny jeans that my rich aunt got me from Dubai, and one of my favorite shirts.


^^ i'll buy u neww yellow shoes from NEWYORK, be my friend! imo, a friend like that isnt worth keeping....btw, is she a capricorn?

aww tankyouu! i need new yellow shoes haha, she's a gemeni...and a weirdo

[touche`]

I think you should answer yourself this question as well. Do true friends forgive their friends? Most of the time people don't. It is always better to forgive someone even if they are repeating themselves in the same situation than not to forgive at all. Most people don't forgive because they hang unto the anger that they have against their friends, and they use that anger as an excuse not to forgive them. I do understand that it is hard to forgive the other person especially when they have done you wrong. However, I think you should forgive her in this sense but don't be too naive about it as well because she may see this as an advantages against you, especially if you are someone who forgives easily.

At the same time, have you talked to her about her attitude towards you and the other girls WITHOUT swearing to each other? Talking to her would be the best solutions to find out why she keeps acting like this towards you. Be honest with her as she needs to be honest with you as well because if you guys are not honest to each other, then there's no point for you guys to even continue on with this issue. If you do plan to talk to her, just remember the only rule. Don't attack her by telling her, 'you did this and you did that' because she's going to withdraw and refuse to participate with you.

[c0lap1nada]

^^ i'll buy u neww yellow shoes from NEWYORK, be my friend! imo, a friend like that isnt worth keeping....btw, is she a capricorn?

Hey what's wrong with capricorns?

If I were you, I'd switch schools and run from her because she seems real obsessive.

[your_sheroe]

And so she called me a rainbow, and a slut, and told me that she hopes that i get pregnant and ruin my life (wtf? ive never even had sex) and that im going to become a druggie, and when i do she'll laugh in my face.

I just want to thank you for coming and leaving a comment on my page. It was very nice of you.

But...


Wow... she really has some nerves to say that to you.
Personally if one of my friends said that to me, I'd probably take it to the heart. I wouldn't do anything to get back at her but seriously that will stay scared. That was really UNCALLED for.
To be honest, that's not a friend.

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't want to be her friend anymore. I would accept her apology and come straight out to her that I dont want to be her friend anymore. Obviously she's got some jealousy and hypocritical issues. I mean everyone does but she needs to learn how to control it. And reading what you wrote, she's pretty harsh with her words.

And for her to ask for her stuff back, alright give it back. But for her to give your stuff back all cut up and tattered like that, that's overboard.

I would suggest you think about it, think about if you still want to be friend with her. If not, you can just come straight out and give a simple and peaceful--- I guess friend break up.

I would say: "Hey, we had some pretty good and bad times. Things between us isn't working out very good. I dont want to be friends with you anymore and its not that I dont like you its because I dont want to be friends with someone who is going to (list what she did) to me. And I think its best if we just leave it right here before it gets to the point where we hate each other."

Something like that... sorry if I made it sound like a boyfriend/girlfriend break up

Good luck.

[cantthinkofaname]

maybe you should ask her why she acted the way she acted when you wanted to hang out with your old friend(s)
you can't just jump to conclusion about this person and that person
get to know her a bit more, what if other things bothers her and stuff
but it's always nice to get to know the other side of story as well
giving her a 2nd chance doesn't hurt although the way you told the story...sounded like she was a bit odd...but yeah

[saranghae_miyavi]

I think you should answer yourself this question as well. Do true friends forgive their friends? Most of the time people don't. It is always better to forgive someone even if they are repeating themselves in the same situation than not to forgive at all. Most people don't forgive because they hang unto the anger that they have against their friends, and they use that anger as an excuse not to forgive them. I do understand that it is hard to forgive the other person especially when they have done you wrong. However, I think you should forgive her in this sense but don't be too naive about it as well because she may see this as an advantages against you, especially if you are someone who forgives easily.

At the same time, have you talked to her about her attitude towards you and the other girls WITHOUT swearing to each other? Talking to her would be the best solutions to find out why she keeps acting like this towards you. Be honest with her as she needs to be honest with you as well because if you guys are not honest to each other, then there's no point for you guys to even continue on with this issue. If you do plan to talk to her, just remember the only rule. Don't attack her by telling her, 'you did this and you did that' because she's going to withdraw and refuse to participate with you.

the thing is, even if i sit down, and try to talk to her one on one, she would basically kiss up, or start another problem about. i mean she's acting so nice that i cant not forgive her, so im kinda torn, a part of me wants to forgive her, but the other part just wants to never talk to her again.

And you know when i try to talk to her, she'll just beg me to return to the old ways, and when i try to tell her what she did wrong and how i cant return to old ways, she would get mad and tell me that im targeting her.

goshhh why is life so difficult.

maybe you should ask her why she acted the way she acted when you wanted to hang out with your old friend(s)
you can't just jump to conclusion about this person and that person
get to know her a bit more, what if other things bothers her and stuff
but it's always nice to get to know the other side of story as well
giving her a 2nd chance doesn't hurt although the way you told the story...sounded like she was a bit odd...but yeah

if you were me, would you forgive her?

[Angy_angel]

hey...I have read your story
and it's not THAT long so yeah...

I personally this that's jealousy. because she acted that way when you told her that you were going out with other friends

I have 2 BFF in high school and let me tell you, they NEVER acted that way when I catch up with old friends. so, idk, maybe this is what a truly best friend is...he doesn't get all like "oh, you are supposed to go out only with me", "you have to study with me and no one else" things like these..

now, if you were talking only with those friends you went out with and less with her, I understand why she would act like that, but guess that was not the case right?

but that was definitely jealousy

[saranghae_miyavi]

hey...I have read your story
and it's not THAT long so yeah...

I personally this that's jealousy. because she acted that way when you told her that you were going out with other friends

I have 2 BFF in high school and let me tell you, they NEVER acted that way when I catch up with old friends. so, idk, maybe this is what a truly best friend is...he doesn't get all like "oh, you are supposed to go out only with me", "you have to study with me and no one else" things like these..

now, if you were talking only with those friends you went out with and less with her, I understand why she would act like that, but guess that was not the case right?

but that was definitely jealousy

yea, but she also needs to understand that if she really trusted me like that, then she would have the confidance to know that i wouldnt really abandon her