[`Koko]

Haha, I'm not sure if anyone else has done this,
but at times I'll stare and stare at my ex boyfriend's MSN name,
wanting to click it - wanting to just talk to him, message him up and see how he's doing.
Eager to know how he's been, what he's been up to, if there's anything new -
But I never really do so. I just look for what seems to be the longest time and then close MSN messenger.
Or when I feel like I've mustered up enough courage to just finally go through with it, he'll sign off.
I mean, I would like to - but I don't, or is it that I can't or shouldn't?
Maybe I never really contact him..
Possibly because there are so many things that I want to say and don't know where to start,
or I don't want to sound pathetic, or come off as creepy since we haven't talked for years.
and possibly because what would I expect from it? What can I expect from it?
And just a whole bunch of other questions.

If he still lived in my city, and if we still went to the same school,
I don't think I'd have this much trouble, and I think we could have stayed friends at least,
but he moved away.

So basically, has anyone done this? Gone through this?
Actually contacted them? Called them up?
Struggled to text them, IM them, etc.
Tell me about it ! : )
I would love to hear everyone's experiences.

[sixth.]

i had that feeling today
i met my ex on valentines day, so it just made me think of him
after we broke up, we got into a huge argument so i haven't seen/spoken to him since
i'd really like to know how he's doing, but then i dont know if he'd appreciate my concern
i was so so close to calling him but then coincidentally, i ran out of credit

[Sasspot]

I contacted mine or he contacted me or something like that.

It's hard to avoid him because we have the same friends (and we all do everything together pretty much). But it had only been a week and already he's trying to hook up with a close friend of mine within the group, so I'm cutting contact with him. I'll see him around because it's inevitable but I'm not going to go out of my way to talk to him.

If I knew things were going to go this way I would have not bothered talking to him at all and I'm glad he was around to show me otherwise I'd be thinking we could still work.

I still do a facebook stalk and grab my phone to txt him, but it's getting easier to avoid doing this as time goes on.

If you know that you two could be real friends then just talk to him, but if you think there's a small chance that it won't be like that then let him talk to you first.

Stay cool sodapop.

[Kitty07]

Sadly at the moments that I'm feeling really down that's when I want to contact him the most . ):
He's not on my msn list but he is on my friends and sometimes I'm just so tempted to click it ... but nahh .

[back,sue]

my ex goes to the same school and such.
so we say hi if we ever see eachother in the hallways.
i don't really contact him personally through phone or messenger since he has a gf
i don't really want to in the first place.. LOL

[EHNerJI]

ehh not really. i still think he's stupid XD
what's more awkward is that i can't talk to his brother X: LOL.
[ i don't like his bro ] =.= but, he was fun to talk to LOL.
but now it feels .. suspicious? XD if i start talking to him =/
plus, he prolly hates me now HAHA. >.<

[hippiehop]

I get that feeling all the time.

I have one ex who I still run into and talk to sometimes because my feelings for him weren't strong so it wasn't hard for me to make that transition.

With my last boyfriend though, I really want to be able to talk to him but I know that at the same time, I think I would be pissed off if treated me differently than he used to (we basically went straight into dating so I'm not even sure what "being friends" with him would be like). It's not like he's making the effort to be friends or civil with one another.

[vip_gd]

nahh
last time he talked to me was
"thanks for the add"
LOL

[Soshii_love]

same thing for me.. but one day i had the courage to message him.. it was really awkward cause we haven't talked to each other/seen each other in a VERY long time.
well i guess people get the wrong message.. now he's bothering me cause he thought i want to get back with him and such.. but i don't even know why i did that.. or is it because i still have feelings for him? ;/ haha.. i dont know =)

[ms. rachellica]

i've had that feeling b4. nd i think it's alrite to contact an ex if it's been a while nd u jus wanna catch up.

[`Koko]

If I knew things were going to go this way I would have not bothered talking to him at all and I'm glad he was around to show me otherwise I'd be thinking we could still work.

I still do a facebook stalk and grab my phone to txt him, but it's getting easier to avoid doing this as time goes on.

If you know that you two could be real friends then just talk to him, but if you think there's a small chance that it won't be like that then let him talk to you first.

Stay cool sodapop.

awhh I see.
i wonder if that would have been the same with me, if he didn't move and stuff.
Sadly I facebook stalk too, haha. I wonder if he's ever facebook stalked me. : )
I would think it'd get easier to avoid doing those things as time goes on,
but the crazy thing is, after so many years I still think about him and whatever,
it seems like it's gotten stronger.. at least for me. : )

I think we could, but I don't know if I will actually pull through with doing it.
And I would wait for him to talk to me first, but I don't think he will.


but yeahh. : ) Thanks to everyone who replied,
it's really interesting to know that I'm not the only one,
and to just hear your stories.

[Christinaisweird]

i still talk to him, nothing weird.
it's just plain simple, afterward the breakup you tell them 'can we still be friends'
it would be awkward to not talk to each other at all, but there's a certain line you don't want to cross.

[rezo]

i've had that feeling b4. nd i think it's alrite to contact an ex if it's been a while nd u jus wanna catch up.

how long would it be considered 'a while' before it's really okay ?

[dabombhomiez]

Yea, well I think your problem is just that you are in denial of some lingering feelings. Probably because you havn't had many boyfriends since him if any, but that's just an assumption. The thing is, when you break up with someone, no matter how...strong you are you are going to think of him/her for a while after, until you find someone else. This is perfectly normal, although i would advise to just move on and find some one else. If you want to make an effort at being friends, then just talk to him. It's not like he's going to reject your attempt at being friends.

[Amanda Plz]

Ehhhhh, yeah, but I told him to john tesh off and never talk to me again and I really don't want to go back on my words. I think he's afraid to contact me in fear of castration.

[ms. rachellica]

how long would it be considered 'a while' before it's really okay ?

a while meaning u guys are fully over each other nd there's no lingering feelings.

[OrangeJennyFish]

ur not alone, i get that feeling all the time. i guess for me, it's more like i shouldn't rather than can't since a close friend of mine likes him.

we still go to the same school and i sit pretty close to him in all our mutual classes, oh gosh darn those memories. >_<

[`Koko]

Yea, well I think your problem is just that you are in denial of some lingering feelings. Probably because you havn't had many boyfriends since him if any, but that's just an assumption. The thing is, when you break up with someone, no matter how...strong you are you are going to think of him/her for a while after, until you find someone else. This is perfectly normal, although i would advise to just move on and find some one else. If you want to make an effort at being friends, then just talk to him. It's not like he's going to reject your attempt at being friends.

I think you might be right about that ! Hahaha.
I've had chances of getting boyfriends, but sorry to say to the past guys that liked me,
I never really wanted to date them or anything.. or even considered that they would like me.. so yeah.
I would find someone else, but i think I'm picky, or I expect too much. But you're right,
he's not going to reject my attempt.. I don't think he will - he was the one who wanted to be friends anyways.

ur not alone, i get that feeling all the time. i guess for me, it's more like i shouldn't rather than can't since a close friend of mine likes him.

we still go to the same school and i sit pretty close to him in all our mutual classes, oh gosh darn those memories. >_<

Awhh ! I know what you mean by that..
Some of my girls go through that too.. and it kind of sucks in a way?
Not overall.. but in some sort of way, haha not sure if you know what I mean.
but that's horrible : ( so many things probably run through your mind all the time.. : S

[Jerrica]

haha I used to do that ><"
he always used to contact me after, but now we're like strangers so it's really awkward if I said hi or anything. xD we both have nothing to talk about so I don't even try.

[ly*chee]

Not really...I don't know I'm the type to go "once it's over, its over."
I guess I could check up on any of my ex's, but I'm not really interested?
I know my ex's can take care of themselves, and are probably doing fine.
Their life is no longer my business :X