[asianshortieo7]

Of course i've had boyfriends before, but i never told my parents about my boyfriends, which is pretty bad on my part, i suppose. well, i've been going out with a guy that i've known for awhile now, and he's amazing. i told my parents about him since we've been going out for awhile & i really want my parents to be involved in my life..i want to have an open relationship with them. but once they found out, they yelled at me, and said i'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until i'm in college and out of their house.

Honestly, i would break up with him because this is so much more complicated then it should be for the both of us -- but for some reason, i think this guy is different. he blows my mind away, and i really, really like him, and i can't throw that away. I've tried explaining this to my parents, saying that i like him a lot, and that he makes me so happy & that he's one of the most important people in my life besides my best friend, but they won't listen and they still want me to break up with him. should i just keep him a secret? what would you do? /:

[forgottenmemories]

Just keep dating him but tell your parents that you've already broken up with him. ORRR, you can take the other route and tell them you still want to date him regardless of their opinion. If you do well in school and your not getting sidetracked by your boyfriend, they'll eventually understand.

Btw, how old are you?

[dabombhomiez]

Your life, your decision. If i were you I'd do whatever will make me happy, personally I don't really mind keeping something like this from my parents because I know for a fact that they keep lots of things from me to ..not hurt me.. for lack of a better term... but yea. What they don't know won't hurt them right?

[asianshortieo7]

Just keep dating him but tell your parents that you've already broken up with him. ORRR, you can take the other route and tell them you still want to date him regardless of their opinion. If you do well in school and your not getting sidetracked by your boyfriend, they'll eventually understand.

Btw, how old are you?

fifteen! haha. why?

[BaboJen]

Of course your parent would Forbidden you to have a boyfriend, since you're 15.
They are probably worried that you will slack off in school and stuff.
You shouldn't told your parent in the 1st place, knowing that they'll probably say no..
Well, if you really want to continue your relationship with your boyfriend, just tell your parent that you already broke up with him. And hoping that they won't find out.

[touche`]

First of all, you should listen to your parents. Secondly, don't even put your selfish little desires before your parents. I don't understand how you dating him would make things "different" because I feel that it doesn't. You can have a better relationship without dating this man if you claim to be "different." If he is "different," then he would at least understands you and your conditions if you ever break up with him. Lastly, if you're going to disobey your parents then they shouldn't even trust you with relationships in the first place. I can see why they disapprove your relationship.

[irockya?]

You're only fifteen. What are the chances of you guys lasting? When getting involved in a relationship you got to realize the possible outcomes of it. Your parents probably don't want you to go through the phase of breaking up. Not only that but you should know that School comes first before Boys.

[orange.xin.wo]

I don't see why you can't just remain as friends with a mutual understanding that you like each other. I mean. It's not like if you don't date him, you can't be friends with him. I think you should listen to your parents. Cause in the long run, that guy probably isn't going to stay, but your parents will.

[Aimiko]

Just keep on dating him..but then secretly.
Anyway, I can understand your parents. Mine are like that too. But once you're older, about 17-18, I bet that they'll change their mind IF you do well at school~

[CitrusFlower]

Well first your signature is too big, you should change it before you get warn.

If you like him that much continue dating him, hopefully your parents will accept if things do work out

[E p i c]

= = .. omg!
i h8 it when i had to make that choice >___>
this is almost exactly wat happened to meh lol.
except mah mom found out herself o_o
and she was yelling at meh n stuff ._.''
i pretty much didn't do anythin ><
i juss let things be :]

[yabasta]

15? lol Lordy Lord, it almost sounded like you were a 20 something.

Gosh, and wait till college? That'll be an enternity to wait.

Although I did wait it out.

Just introduce him to your parents. Make it formal, I'm assuming you're Korean? The parents get worked up about that stuff. Like I said I waited until I was 20 to bring home a girl friend and even then my dad went into pouty pout mode when he found out that I didn't introduce her at a dinner/restaurant (but then again he might've been hungry...)

Keep dating him. But try to make things good with your parents. Family is priority number 1 (in my book).

Significant others will always come around in your lifetime. Parents only once.

yabasta

[soapja]

I know what you're saying; I've lied to my parents about dating before
and I've strayed away from relationships because of their disapproval

I personally think you two should just be good friends who mutually like each other
it makes things way simpler
and if he's really the one for you, he'll understand that he needs to wait.

If you really feel special with him, then continue the relationship secretly
but make sure you keep up with your studies (ultimately what your parents want)


It all really depends on how you feel about him, not so much what other soompi members
feel about the both of you

hope that helps =]

[x~Rin~x]

FOLLOW YOUR HEART

If you think he's THE ONE, then don't let what others say affect your relationship. Because if there's a will, there's a way~

and good luck!

[kishycathiee]

They're just thinking of what's best for you.

But if you want to keep dating him, tell your parents that you want to learn love the hard way,
they might respect your decision or not. If they say no, just date him anyways!

[iwanabiggal0lly]

Dude, you're only 15. At that age, most of those relationships aren't even legit. "he's amazing" and "he's different" yeah, all kids think that and think they found the "one". It's ridiculous. You're just a kid, you're not an adult yet so its best to listen to your parents cuz they know what's best for you. You should concentrate on school, instead of boys. Also, wtf would you tell your parents?! btw your sig is HUGE.

[sushixlovesu]

reading your posts.. 15 is pretty young =o so i can understand why your parents went anal about it xD its pretty much your choice. If you think your relationship is serious enough and you know for sure you wont mess up in school because of him then theres really nothing to worry about. Your parents are just worried that you might do something you regret and slack off in school because of him xP

[Antz]

you're 15... if you THINK it can last, then do whatever it takes.
that's why i didn't really want a real serious relationship until the end of high school. except when i told my parents, they said after uni! O___O but i managed to convince them otherwise, and still stayed with him, and now they've accepted him.

[forgottenmemories]

fifteen! haha. why?

Exactly. Fifteen, that's probably why your parents would oppose of your relationship. I mean if you were 17-18, maybe they won't be TOO against it. So you have to understand where your parents are coming from.


Another thing. Off-topic but, I think you violated signature regulation. Your picture is too big. Just thought I'd tell ya.

[monicaaaa]

you're 15. the love won't last anyway. you'll have plenty of boyfriends in the future. but because you like him at the moment, just tell your parents you broke up with him, but continue to date him.