[secretlyjustyours]

sometimes when i'm talking to someone I have a crush on, but don't know as well.. I feel like I'm bothering them but iming them. And I think that they're too nice to just ignore me so its like I'm forcing them to talk to me? I'm doing that with this guy i like right now.. and so I told myself and him that I won't bother him by iming him again. But its going to be pretty hard haha :x


have you guys ever done that?

[orange.xin.wo]

Yeah. Last year. It ended horribly. The only good thing that came out of it was
that I learned to not be so clingy or attached to them. It's not a good thing. It's
okay to talk to them, just don't overdo it. You don't want to be dubbed "the
annoying person" lol. x]

[secretlyjustyours]

haha I dont talk to him that much.
its just that I IM him first.
and then i consider that annoying because I don't know if he really wants to talk to me

[junsujunsu]

haha...not my crush but when im bored i tend to IM everyone on my buddylist and force them to talk to me....i think i get kinda annoying cus my questions are just questions which a conversation wont last on....i need help with that

[XxKhmerBoiXx]

yeahh... i tend to do that with her lol i feel like im annoying her

[xradiostatic]

yeah....i definitely know how that is. i'm looking at my buddy list now, wondering if i should IM him...i'm never sure if i'm bothering him or not. D:
like you were saying, i usually IM first (aside from the handful of times he IM'ed first) and idk if he's talking to me because he's too nice to ignore me or what. sigh.

so i just end up not IMing him a lot of the time. >_<

[x0_saturn_0x]

Yeahhh... I had a major crush on this guy for a reallyyy long time. Everytime I talked to him, I felt like I was trying to hard to keep the convo going and I just felt like a pain =S

[mickeylovers24]

ahaha, i think i learned my lesson, like like year, oh gosh
i think he got annoyed. in other word he was annoyed lmfao. the person he was omg,
his reply was short and i don't how to keep the convo going
so i ended up asking a lot of questions, and yeah, he ended up telling me
to stop asking him questions. -____-

[Lie]

Yeah. Last year. It ended horribly. The only good thing that came out of it was
that I learned to not be so clingy or attached to them. It's not a good thing. It's
okay to talk to them, just don't overdo it. You don't want to be dubbed "the
annoying person" lol. x]

Yeah, I suppose there's a line to be drawn there somewhere. I've also encountered the opposite, where a girl tries too hard not to overdo it, and so you think that she's not interested? Which can be just as problematic.

[Pandarah]

I don't do that.
But when I like a guy and he's on my contact list.
Then I always open up the convo and dont' say anything.
I stare at your display pictures together for a few seconds and then click 'x' .
I guess I'm some sort of creep...

[robotique]

Hahaha. I always feel like I'm annoying people but most of the time I don't care what they think.

[ShadowMax76]

haha I dont talk to him that much.
its just that I IM him first.
and then i consider that annoying because I don't know if he really wants to talk to me

some guys/people just don't IM first.

but if you really think he's the type that can act nice ... o_O' i ain't stopping ya..

if he's not talking much, long pauses, doesn't sound happy or okay, then perhaps THEN you can start assuming he doesn't want to talk to you. o-0' i don't think many guys can tolerate talk as much as girls can...

[diam0nds.]

hahaha, yeah.
this was before i learned the game of 'hard to get'.

[AoiAi]

Yeah... ;X I kept talking and then he told me to stop. .___.

[o1honey]

lol.. i felt it before =P
but as you grow up.. you realize where the limit is >.>

[xpenggwinx]

o gosh yes x.x
i talk to him sometimes and idk
we dont talk that much so it seems like im bothering him
by saying hi an wutsup
then its kinda silent x.x
lol i guess thats a bad sign
but sometimes he talks to me first
and its the same haha
O.O
gah its too confusing D:

[c i e l`]

I don't talk much XD I scream.

[EHNerJI]

ahhh story of my life T_T;
he's not really that social to begin with,
so it's hard to tell X_X; haha.
but yeah, i just feel like i'm being annoying when i talk to him.
so then i stop for a while.. and he thinks i'm ignoring him.
so it's like ?!?!?! jeez LOL.
and sometimes he'll be like doing his h.w or something..
and he'll say it's okay...
but, i can't help to think that when he doesn't do well on a quiz/test..
he's secretly cursing me HAHA. T.T;
but i can't help it -___-; i get bored and i wanna talk to him >.>
he always acts pretty awkward..
so i feel like he doesn't want me around.. =.=;

[luckyclover]

Yeah, I suppose there's a line to be drawn there somewhere. I've also encountered the opposite, where a girl tries too hard not to overdo it, and so you think that she's not interested? Which can be just as problematic.

Hahaha. That's totally me =X

[Chanellas]

I wouldn't just tell him "Oh I'll stop bothering you now".

Because that will either guilt him to saying, "You're not a bother!" or leave me hanging convinced that he would.
That's just setting yourself up for failure ahaha

I would just block/ignore him if I were you xD