[Jay Chou]

i'm a guy....and i'm kinda new to the clubbing scene
are there any important things that guys should remember and be aware of?
or anything that a guy shouldn't be doing at a club?
recently i went with a group of friends.....so i'm usually within my circle only
but what if a random girl approaches you, wtf do u do? what mistakes should you not make?

btw one time, a girl told me to hold her glass for her
she disappeared and then came back shortly after
i still didn't really get the message in the end.....maybe i got used?
she also said something to me, but i couldn't hear it since the music was so loud. she repeated three times but i still couldn't hear what she's saying. what are u suppose to do then?
yeah...so these are the sort of things that i want to know about lol

[supad0rk]

I never pick up girls at clubs, not my type. I chill, have a drink, dance some, when girls come up and talk then I talk, buy them a drink if I feel like it and see how it goes.

Not really too much to it, I tend to go out a lot but never tried to make any kind of science out of it. You go where you like the music and the crowd, and you just enjoy your time there. If you are going to pick up on girls, you are sadly mistaken with what you will find. Just have fun with your friends.

[plegend2007]

Well, you live and you learn.

[Bigdog]

Just go with the flow. Don't creep up on girls cause that'll only make them not want to dance with you. I usually just dance if i know the girl or is a friend's friend. Makes it much easier than getting rejected. However, that's happened to me many times before so i just brush it off and dance with other girls that want to dance. =) Also, this hasn't happened to me but ive heard stories about how some girls will get you to buy them drinks and then just leave like they don't know you. haha it's sad so just watch out for those girls.

[Phaze5ive]

If you put down a drink or your drink is not in visual of your person, get a new drink. Yes, guys get rape too

As for me, I don't go clubbing because I pick up girls at school

[tasty]

it's not true with how you'll never meet anyone decent there. you meet heaps of cool people... who are smart and are doing something with their life. and when you see someone completely trashed it's not always an accurate representation of who they are 'in real life'. what's the difference between girls/guys who decide to have a night out and those who decide to sit at home. NOTHING.

anyway, if someone approaches you, just talk with them unless they're really drunk. why wouldn't you talk anyway? and if you can't hear them and they keep repeating themselves just shrug and ignore them lol.

and some people do use you lol. i've ditched a guy after he bought me a drink. that was only once and i feel really bad about it now. but then you meet people like my friend who refuses to let guys buy her drinks... i dunno.

and you don't have to be completely paranoid about your drinks getting spiked or whatever. i met these guys and kept drinking their drinks and it was totally fine lol. you can tell when you can trust people or not. but i'm not doing that anymore because that's how i completely lost track of how much i drank and almost passed out and had to get carried out hahaha.

have fun on your own terms...

[Pogichinoy]

are there any important things that guys should remember and be aware of?
Treat the bouncers and the girls with respect.

or anything that a guy shouldn't be doing at a club?
Harrass girls, pick a fight with bouncers, drink too much, and make a fool of yourself.

but what if a random girl approaches you, wtf do u do? what mistakes should you not make?
You either speak to her, dance, etc. Mistakes? Don't ignore her, unless she's really ugly and/or unattractive.

C'mon dude this is common sense!

i still didn't really get the message in the end.....maybe i got used?
Keep it simple, she asked you to hold a drink, no biggie.

she also said something to me, but i couldn't hear it since the music was so loud. she repeated three times but i still couldn't hear what she's saying. what are u suppose to do then?
Ask or gesture her to talk somewhere more quiet.

C'mon dude this too is common sense. Basic social skills y0!!

[RE.]

trying to have a conversation and have hard time hearing?

gives you an excuse to

grab her head... pull it close to you and speak sweet nothings in her ear.

[Swtess]

I have a question...

Last month I went clubbing for the first time with a small group of friends.
I've always thought that dancing in clubs, the girls has her hand placed on the guy's shoulder and his on her waist.
Well that's how I danced with one of my friend, it was only for a few seconds though.
I told my bf this and he totally flipped. I've always thought how he danced when he went clubbing with friends.
One of the guy that was with us, he has a gf but she wasn't there that night and he had his hands around my friend's waist the whole time.

After the whole thing I asked a couple of my friends and some said that its fine and some said its a big nono.
I didn't think my situation was that bad as my bf was making it since it was only for a couple of seconds.
So what is the proper way to dance for someone that has a bf/gf?

[Stiizy]

^ Don't dance to close that people will get the idea your together.. the whole touching thing is a no-no also



Never pick up a girl in a club unless it's for a one night stand....(sorry it's true)

You don't wanna meet your next girl in a club/bar...

For friends yeah but thats it..

Can't hear her walk away with her to a better lower sounding area..

If a girl walks up to you and your attracted talk to her offer to buy her a drink and go from there..

Don't ever harass a girl at a club ex: don't pull her arm or yell out some cheesy line... just go up to her with confidence and strike up a conversation without cheesy lines also...

[Nerdy]

I used to frequent clubs a lot, but now I only go for work as an event photographer during the summer or occasionally with friends. It's basically just a small time gig where I get paid to take pics of drunk people to help promote the club.

Here are things to take away from a club experience:

-People that go to clubs are just like you or me. Don't believe what people say about there being certain types of people that go to clubs.

-Yes, normal girls go to clubs, because some want to socialize and meet guys and some just want to dance with their girlfriends. The whole notion that club girls are the worst is bogus. Are there slutty girls in clubs? Yes, but that's not every single girl in the venue. A lot of the girls there are just sometimes dragged by friends to go out and have a good time.

-There are dumb people and people you don't want to deal with at clubs, but that's just like any other public place you'll find yourself in.

-Even if you're with a group of friends and only meet 2 new people on any given night, you've met 2 more people than 90% of everyone in the club--most people just go to clubs with friends and don't really stray from their original social circle.

-If you want to meet new people or have fun, don't be the guy that's standing around by a wall, just sipping on your drink.

[Mattsanity]

most of these dudes think they be mackin but they be actin who they attractin with that line, "What's your name, what's your sign"? Soon as he buy that wine I just creep up from behind and ask what your interests are, "who you be with"? things to make you smile, what numbers to dial. just say you gon' be here for a while, I'm gon go call my crew you go call your crew we can rendezvous at the bar around two

[D_K]

i'm a guy....and i'm kinda new to the clubbing scene
are there any important things that guys should remember and be aware of?
or anything that a guy shouldn't be doing at a club?
recently i went with a group of friends.....so i'm usually within my circle only
but what if a random girl approaches you, wtf do u do? what mistakes should you not make?

btw one time, a girl told me to hold her glass for her
she disappeared and then came back shortly after
i still didn't really get the message in the end.....maybe i got used?
she also said something to me, but i couldn't hear it since the music was so loud. she repeated three times but i still couldn't hear what she's saying. what are u suppose to do then?
yeah...so these are the sort of things that i want to know about lol

Only 1 thing: tip big on your first drink purchase. The hot bartender will remember you throughout the entire night so you won't have to wait around at the crowded bar section waving your dollar bills around to get attention.

[princesspoppy]

You should watch this video by Wong Fu Productions
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXOxOB-xjpA

Its very funny! And you can learn something from it.

Just have fun and don't get wasted. And if your initial plan is to pick up a girl, sorry buddy, majority of girls just go to have a good time..you know..girls night out.

Just please don't harass any girls.

Oh yeah we should definitely go clubbing together....I'll show you a good time...

[PoppinBC]

i'm a guy....and i'm kinda new to the clubbing scene
are there any important things that guys should remember and be aware of?
or anything that a guy shouldn't be doing at a club?
recently i went with a group of friends.....so i'm usually within my circle only
but what if a random girl approaches you, wtf do u do? what mistakes should you not make?

btw one time, a girl told me to hold her glass for her
she disappeared and then came back shortly after
i still didn't really get the message in the end.....maybe i got used?
she also said something to me, but i couldn't hear it since the music was so loud. she repeated three times but i still couldn't hear what she's saying. what are u suppose to do then?
yeah...so these are the sort of things that i want to know about lol

Well, as a general rule, dress well; either nice sneaks (classy ones, not flashy or beat up) or some nice casual leather shoes, no boots, no running shoes, no trainers. I get a little leeway because I usually do a bit of solo dance (popping) so the sneaks are a need, hahaha. Wear nice jeans, not too baggy; a little bit of bagginess is ok, but avoid the loose pants. Wear darker jeans too; avoid super bright anything for most clubs. Wear something with a collar unless you're in good with the club (either owners, bouncers, managers, etc.). Either a button down or a polo, but you should have long sleeves even if you eventually roll them up (gets warm); if I want to wear a polo, I usually wear a long sleeve shirt under (like a white dri-fit under a black polo). Nice deep tones with simple or no pattern is better, some contrast can be good, but avoid super brightness.

It's up to you if you want to tuck your shirt in or not, if you do, make sure you have a nice belt. Also, ties are fine, but no wide ties, too formal. Stick it to skinny ties if you want to wear one, and not tightened up to your neck or with a cinched not, keep it a little lose and more informal (I still don't own one of these D= so sad).

Make sure you have a good secure hold on your money / wallet. Money clips are nice, but if you have jeans with button back pocket that's best. Keep your front pockets clear if at all possible, makes for VERY uncomfortable dancing if you have stuff in there. Take your car key, separate it from your other keys, and keep it in your wallet; have a spare car key in a case under your car (they make these) and put the other keys in your glove compartment and then lock the car. Don't take cards you don't need in, leave all the plastic except one, and preferably one that has a small limit or not as much money in it. Keep the jewelry to a minimum; necklaces get in the way, rings can get lifted easily / fall off / scratch / catch on clothes, who needs a watch when you get told the time to leave, and bracelets are like the rings.

If the girl clearly wants to dance, then dance; if you aren't enjoying it, you can move on; it's typically informal and non-committal. Don't stress it too much. If you see a girl you want to dance with and feel awkward just starting to dance with her on the floor, then go to her and whisper (lol yell) in her ear and ask if she'd like to dance.

If she asked you to hold her drink and came back, she was trying to create a bit of mystery... she wanted to make you think, so when she came back you'd hold on to her drink and get the conversation going, possibly leading to the dance floor.

A bit of advice; never try to hook up immediately after dancing at a club, TERRIBLE idea, I've heard of three bad results from this. First, a guy I know got an STI that caused painful urination for two weeks. Second, a different guy I know got his money stolen by a girl (he had like $250 in his wallet, stupid). Third, it's just plain not safe, you never really know what kind of person it is.

If you meet someone and actually want to get to know them, try asking for their number after dancing for a while. Well, after you've danced for a bit, ask if she'd like a drink / wants to get some air, then talk for a bit, five, ten, fifteen minutes, just keep it REALLY light and simple, nothing too complex; don't discuss Freudian egotism. More like school / occupation, interests, background basics. If you seem to get along well, ask to dance some more, especially if she gets fidgety or starts looking around more. If she seems to enjoy talking, after a short bit (probably around 15min. max) ask her for her number, then go dance some more. This is a judgment call, but you can either call the next day or wait a day, depends on who you are and the message you'd like to send. Be sure to meet somewhere very neutral and public, like getting coffee in the afternoon, always a good way to start things, so you can see her in a very different light.

I hope this helps! Oh, also, brush your teeth, wash your face, and comb your hair before you go. Then use a breath strip and a little shot of cologne (not axe please...), makes a difference.

[nefastus07]

I guess my only suggestion would be if a girl say no or she's not interested then go away. Here persistent doesn't work it's just annoying. Just an fyi when a group of girls are together in a small circle don't try to jump in cause you might get some ugly looks. My friend and I went clubbing a couple of months ago with like 6 or 7 of us and this guy kept trying to hit on my friend. She gestured him that she wasn't interested but he kept persisting and all of us had to gang up on him for him to leave.

I guess for guys especially you need to remember not to drink too much cause you're there to dance and have fun not get drunk.

[Millou]

What i do if i can't understand the person is ask them to say it again, if i still can't hear it i just laugh and nod

[EMPORIO]

If you see a girl at a club then make sure you approach her from her field of vision, never buy a drink for a girl to get to know her, that rarely works, try to control your drinking.

[SeX1eStAsaBa]

Just mimic what everyone else is doing.

or....

watch In Da Club by Wong Fu Productions on YouTube, lol.

[lananhcali18]

That girl is odd. I wouldn't come up to guy that I don't know and ask them to hold my drink.
1st rule at the club for girl: Drink stick with you most of the time.
Seriously guy, it's very simple at the club.
Dance, have fun, drink (but don't get drunk), no fight.