[ShadowMax76]

you know how you like someone, you're all nice... polite... everything you think would impress her/him.

you eventually confess, they kindly reject you.
perhaps they'd even be so nice to tell you
"..you're a bit too much of a push-over" _ [2sum1: ..this is a curious question. nothing. more]

that perhaps THAT is the reason.. -if- they don't like you back?

that because you like them, that they hate you. [..can't i be dramatic? D:]

o_O' it's that odd question on my mind lately.. the 'liking state' being unlikable..

it fits with players. eye-to-eye; no pedestal . not head-over-heels for their targets, and are people to chase after because they walk away.. not people to kick off your heels _yes,yes. i know. >>' guys are hotter when they don't seem interested. pft.

it also fits people who fall for those they reject, when the rejected are over the one who rejected them.

_ a plausible or obvious explanation?

[ajlee613]

a lot of people who are insecure with themselves behave in this fashion because of their need to always strive for more in order to prove their self worth.

personaly though i bleive if someone genualy cares for me / likes me and shows that its a deep rooted and well thoughtout feeling then i will give respect to that, cuz i dont believe most ppl are capable of truly liking someone for the sake of that person, its more they like you and wanna be with you cuz it makes themself feel good and the second it doesnt feel good anymore they leave.

but a genuine caring affection, if i see it i respect and appricate it and will pay back the sentament with at least a chance, and i do feel more likablity to that person just cuz its such a rare find.

puppy love, lust and crushes aside. those can be shunned away etc.

[OBSCURITY xxx]

hahah... I don't know if this is what you're talking about...

but there's this guy, who everyone tells me likes me and he recently started being extra nice to me and stuff... and it bugs the crap out of me!! >< God, I hate it, he like IMs me the second I get on, comments on all my notes on Facebook, he stalks me and whatnot O___o... To top it off, he's really conceited and he thinks he's a sexy beast and stuff, and frankly... I think not xD

Even though he's really tolerant of my sour attitude toward him, he still acts really nice and kind of tries to calm me down, but it just pisses me off more because he's so annoying about it =_____=;;

I think if a guy just acted normal around a girl he liked, then the "liking state" would be more likable

[myluckyself]

^ i totally understand! its happened to me too, and kind of annoys me. but the same goes with friends in general... i hate when ppl start being really clingy - why cant they act normal?

[ShadowMax76]

o-0' two very interesting explanations...

a lot of people who are insecure with themselves behave in this fashion because of their need to always strive for more in order to prove their self worth.

personaly though i bleive if someone genualy cares for me / likes me and shows that its a deep rooted and well thoughtout feeling then i will give respect to that, cuz i dont believe most ppl are capable of truly liking someone for the sake of that person, its more they like you and wanna be with you cuz it makes themself feel good and the second it doesnt feel good anymore they leave.

but a genuine caring affection, if i see it i respect and appricate it and will pay back the sentament with at least a chance, and i do feel more likablity to that person just cuz its such a rare find.

puppy love, lust and crushes aside. those can be shunned away etc.

1. those insecure feel they must be someone else, someone better... to attain the love of another. _ which is obviously unlikable [..in most cases..]

hahah... I don't know if this is what you're talking about...

but there's this guy, who everyone tells me likes me and he recently started being extra nice to me and stuff... and it bugs the crap out of me!! >< God, I hate it, he like IMs me the second I get on, comments on all my notes on Facebook, he stalks me and whatnot O___o... To top it off, he's really conceited and he thinks he's a sexy beast and stuff, and frankly... I think not xD

Even though he's really tolerant of my sour attitude toward him, he still acts really nice and kind of tries to calm me down, but it just pisses me off more because he's so annoying about it =_____=;;

I think if a guy just acted normal around a girl he liked, then the "liking state" would be more likable

2. the perfect example: someone thinking being clingy is likable.

[princesspoppy]

Your writing style always makes me confuse. I have to read your post at least 5x just to understand the gist of it.

So basically..someone not liking you because you are too nice? Like "nice guys" nice? Like "I'll do anything for you even if you don't need my help" nice?

Well I guess its better than having him pull my hair.

[ShadowMax76]

Your writing style always makes me confuse. I have to read your post at least 5x just to understand the gist of it.

So basically..someone not liking you because you are too nice? Like "nice guys" nice? Like "I'll do anything for you even if you don't need my help" nice?

Well I guess its better than having him pull my hair.

:] i made this one extra confusing.

um.. i mean. you know how you start getting all infatuated and act ditsy [for example]
then the object of your love doesn't like you just because you're ditsy.

would the 'liking state' make the person unlikable? would it solely determine if a person rejects that person?

[princesspoppy]

:] i made this one extra confusing.

um.. i mean. you know how you start getting all infatuated and act ditsy [for example]
then the object of your love doesn't like you just because you're ditsy.

would the 'liking state' be unlikable? would it determine if a person rejects that person?

So I guess you can also say when a guy treats you horribly, because he likes you. Like he calls you names, and always makes fun of you.

I guess it really depends on their "infatuation" state and how much I can tolerate.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

um.. i mean. you know how you start getting all infatuated and act ditsy [for example]
then the object of your love doesn't like you just because you're ditsy.

would the 'liking state' make the person unlikable? would it solely determine if a person rejects that person?

Ah I see.
I bet this happens mostly to a guy

Well Like I've mentioned before, guys think stuff through logic.
If you like someone, and want them to like you, logically, what should we do?
Yeah, be nice, bla bla bla, give her everything, tell her more about yourself, be as close as possible.

Well logically, that's correct right? And anyways, who doesn't like Nice people?
but, no.

So I guess yea, the reason is most likely because we've changed to a different person.

[Shuga]

There are two types of girl:

1. the ones that don't like guys showing that they like them

2. the ones that want guys to show that they like them more

[blueskiezgurl]

If they like you, they like you... If they dun like you, they don't... dats just wat it is..

[cielle]

hahah... I don't know if this is what you're talking about...

but there's this guy, who everyone tells me likes me and he recently started being extra nice to me and stuff... and it bugs the crap out of me!! >< God, I hate it, he like IMs me the second I get on, comments on all my notes on Facebook, he stalks me and whatnot O___o... To top it off, he's really conceited and he thinks he's a sexy beast and stuff, and frankly... I think not xD

Even though he's really tolerant of my sour attitude toward him, he still acts really nice and kind of tries to calm me down, but it just pisses me off more because he's so annoying about it =_____=;;

I think if a guy just acted normal around a girl he liked, then the "liking state" would be more likable

totally had that moment. He would talk to me all the time, go out of his way to sit next to me, send me fb messages saying like lets go eat dinner, txt me about nothing at 2 in the morning, actually txt me pretty often about nothing, hug me touch me ew ew ew! I may tolerate everything EXCEPT TOUCHING. Back the HELL AWAY. (he had a gf btw)
I dont like clingy people. Even clingy friends I dun like...

[ShadowMax76]

totally had that moment. He would talk to me all the time, go out of his way to sit next to me, send me fb messages saying like lets go eat dinner, txt me about nothing at 2 in the morning, actually txt me pretty often about nothing, hug me touch me ew ew ew! I may tolerate everything EXCEPT TOUCHING. Back the HELL AWAY. (he had a gf btw)
I dont like clingy people. Even clingy friends I dun like...

x_x' that's the question....
if they weren't so weird and obsessed.. and had handled it all a lot better better
would there have been a reasonable chance?

>_>" perhaps it's hard to imagine to 'unweird' them..since they are quite traumatising characters..