[soybeanmiilknpho]

Can your Ex ever be your "Friend" again?

Lately I've realized how talking to my Ex today makes me feel better. Whenever I'm in need of help he gives me advices and even though we've went through a horrible I mean seriously horrible break up today we talk as if we're friends all along. There were times where he would judge me but I knew that it was his own personality and how he acts the same way towards others. Basically we got past over being angry and mad at each other.. It took about 2 years to finally accept each other as friends

Do you think its awkward that your Ex is your friend?

1. Some say that it is awkward because they've gone through bad break ups and yet they still have that "I-Still-Hate-you" feeling..

-I guess you can say people don't let go of their past or better yet their Ex did someone really REALLY bad to them that made them hate so much.


2. Your Ex might still have feelings for you.

I knew for a fact that I wasn't over my ex for about 7months till I finally realized I didn't need him to make me happy. I really thought I wouldn't get over him [seriously] but time took its role to play its part.

-How would you feel if your Ex still has feelings for you after all these years?
-And basically you not knowing it until you find out?
-How do you handle a situation where you wouldn't want to hurt your Ex and tell them to move on?
-Do you think its a risk to lose a friendship even if it was your Ex?

[imhitomi]

Eh, depends.

I used to date this one guy several years ago. I dumped him kind of out of the blue, and not in a very nice way. I just stopped seeing him, answering his calls, and generally ignoring him completely. Needless to say, he thought i was a total [choice word here]. Well, about two years later, both of us had put it behind us and we're actually friends now. Neither of us wants the other and neither of us gives a crap about the way things used to be. It's not akward at all, but we needed time apart to put it behind us.

One the other hand, I dated a different guy and our friendship went out the window when we split. I haven't talked to him in probably three years. It would be way too weird even now. We were not friends before we dated so I think that's why we could never be friends after.

[donporkuloin]

It's a possibility that my ex and I could be friends again. But she'd have to do some apologizing first.

[RYUUSEi]

I've thought about it a few times and yes, me and my ex could be friends. As a matter of fact, since we know each other so incredibly well after being a couple for 2 years, I'm sure we could be bestfriends. We share the same interests and we have so many memories together.

But I would never actually go there because I think that deep down, I will always resent him for cheating on me and I've just lost all my respect for him.

It all depends on how the relationship was and how it ended, I think. If it lasted for 2 months and you just didn't have that romantic chemistry, then yeah, you might end up as great friends. But if you've been together for so long, were so serious about each other and then suddenly broke up, then no, it would be a bad idea to try to remain friends.

[bhaby gurl]

yEa... you guys can still be friends except for the fact that things werent the same way as before

[Ayuu~]

yep sure. ex can definitely be friendz. especially in your situation..

me and my ex are friendz now.. but it took some time and healing for both of us.
it took around 3 yearz for us to get past everything and be good friendz and nothing else.
no feelingz attached, no nothing. but he still lookz out for me alot. cause we're close.
i do the same for him.

[asking]

i guess ex's can be friends but it takes time to really get to this point. especially if you guys were together for a long time and were absolutely in love. often, there a little bit of feelings still attached. and sometimes memories just come rushing back at random times and it makes you remember what it was like back then etc.

my friend resumed on being "bestfriends" with her ex and watched him go out with other girls etc. she pretended to be cool with it. turns out all those years she still had feelings for him but he only thought of her as nothing more but a friend.

but yes, ex's can be friends but its not easy..

[Humilious]

my ex and i are still extremely good friends. it's only awkward when you make it awkward.

[JetGirl]

depends on the guy right?

Im not really friends with my ex's cuz i never see him, and unless we accidentally see each other, i don't feel the need to organise something cuz I don't have the time nor the patience to tiptoe cautiously around some topics.

Im not saying everyone's situation is like that, heck if you were close to him before you dated, you're bound to be friends whatever right.

[sixth.]

we were friends, but it was kinda rocky. then he started saying crap about my best friend - i lost it and we had a huge argument. he now ignores me, but is really childish with the entire situation. it disappoints me, because he's a really nice guy and we used to get along really well.

[koneee]

My first boyfriend who I dated for 2 years... I would be his friends again. He wasn't a bad boyfriend at all actually, he just needed to control his temper and language sometimes. But he's not a bad person at all.

As for my second boyfriend, I will not be friends with him. He sucked as a boyfriend and sucked as a friend. What kind of friend gets mad at another person for not giving him test answers. WTF. Study you, lazy ass! I don't like to befriend USERS.

[. plum blossom .]

As many people said, it all depends on the situation. I say yes, definitely, an ex can still be a friend, especially if you two did not end on a bad note. I don't see my ex around all that much, but if we do ever happen to run into each other, it's a friendly atmosphere and it feels pretty comfortable. & I agree with the saying that it's only awkward if you make it awkward! If you two had a harsh breakup, then maybe it is better to stay away to help move on faster, heh. But if both of you are smart/mature enough, you could probably work out something that doesn't feel too bad after some time.

['Ashhh]

Eh depends on the maturity level I guess.
One of my exes is still my best friend in the world.
and
another hates me now cause I don't give him attention 24/7 anymore.

[shinhwa_tiffy]

I heard somewhere that
"if you and your ex are still friends, you were never in love or still are"
I wouldn't really say that I agree to that quote though.... but it is awkward to still be friends

[cherriholicxx]

Yeah, it's possible.
I'm still friends to a few of them.
It just really depends on what happened and whatnot.
[Like how everyone was saying. ^^;]
-but for me, it also depends on the type of person.
Like, I would be more likely to be friends with the chill ones.
If it ended horribly though, I probably wouldn't be able to think of them as highly as a friend.
But! Who knows, maybe they'd change.
I tend to give people a lot of chances to redeem themselves. ^^;

[sparkerly]

Yeah, ...but when I make the effort to be friends and I don't receive the same ...it's like ;

I happened to notice..that its usually the guy who doesn't want to be friends. :[
sucks when that happens because its someone you used to care about.

[judeism]

Yeah. It just depends on both of you. Believe me, it will be awkward at first, but if you maintain your friendship, the awkwardness will go away in time. ;P

[ninyaah]

my ex and i are friends. we're not super close or something like that. there
is still awkwardness, especially on my part; not because i still have feelings for him... it's
actually the other way around. so every time he gets all touchy-feely with me, i get
annoyed :| it is possible, but it's not for every one.

[lil_miss_kawaii]

Ummmm

well it is possible
I know my friend who is still really good friends with her ex (who is also the one she lost it too)
they talk alot
But i guess there is a ris because i know he still has feelings for her and she even contemplated leaving her now boyf to be with him

But they didnt do anything in the end

I am still friends with one of my exes but i barely talk to him because ... i feel i dont need to

But it really depends on you and how your relationship was

[swtxcupcake]

My bf just broke up with me from a 5 years relationship and he said we better off as "best friend". It is extremely hard for me to face it right now.
It hard because he cheated on me. But I am so used to have him around. Is it the only way i can be around him is just being his friend? T-T