[Miyurin]

Have you ever clicked with someone pretty well and actually have developed some sort of feelings for him/her...
Until you get a reality check and realize that you're not physically attracted to this person?

Did you ever say to yourself, " I would date him/her because he/she has a great personality, and we have good chemistry... But I think he/she isn't that good looking." ?


Personally,
I have done this quite a few times. I just can't date someone that I can't be "proud" of or accepting of. There can't be a relationship without physical attraction, right?

How about you?

[annabel_x]

I think in a relationship for me, there needs to be both physical attraction and personality. Personality more though. It may seem shallow, but like you said, if there isn't physical attraction, it can be difficult to be like that other person more, to be more "proud".

[크리스틴]

honestly, yes this has happened a lot for me...
so shallow but i mean if im not physically attracted to them i just dont think i can do it..
but physical looks wasnt the only thing...sometimes the personality too just went downhill as i got to know them..
im so damn picky..ughh

[MOOVERDOSE]

Recently, I've found that attraction (may it be physical, or wtver) really grows when you spend long lengthy periods with someone you like or someone you really click with.

[크리스틴]

^ true that..when i think about it yeaa

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

The attraction factor has already been decided after you meet 2 or 3 times with them.
Of course, you have to be attracted to the looks in a way. I guess that's not Shallow.

But if you've been liking him, and he suddenly changed his appearance and you don't like him, now that's starting to get really Lame and plain picky.

[Stolen_waters]

me too, I've done it. I rejected this guy I liked, 'cause of his looks. We were almost there, but then I gave up.
Shallow & mean, I know.
shoot me.

[ShadowMax76]

pride is one thing
sex is also another thing. lol i think you get that point.

I know girls love to show off their hot boyfriends,
as much as guys love to show off their hot girlfriends.

but i think it's just a teenage thing.

_ i think love is much more than pride, sex or w/e.
o_O' but eh. i'm the kind of guy that would pride in walking around the school with a not-so-attractive girl just to get the point across to those 'cliques' with 'beautiful people' . lol.

[JASON;]

No matter what people say, there HAS to be some physical attraction involved.

[jojo16]

^ Agreed
Physical attraction definitely plays a role. Even though personality to me is more important, looks DO matter.

[TICKLE ME Jx2]

personally, I have to have a balanced amount of attraction to this person in terms of looks and personality.
the guy could have a killer personality, but I'd still second guess going out with him because I'm not physically attracted to him.

I know, shallow, but I'm speaking honestly.

[gingerpeach]

I'm like this too. I can't seem to bring myself to (truly) like a guy I am not physically attracted to. >< Personality is a HUGE factor, but if there's no physical attraction.. errr, I won't like LIKE the guy. I'd only keep seeing him as a good friend and nothing more.

[CUG]

I did it just a week ago..everytime when he looks at me with eyes filled with hopes...just irritates me now.
Conversation and caring personality - everything's cool except his looks. before this i didn't know i was mean.

[choot]

i replied to a similar question to this before. I said "of course the guy's looks matter, because most girls or guys will try to get to know ppl based on their looks at first" but then there are some ppl who ends up being great to u...and u grow to like how they look.

becuz of my honest opinion, i got some lame soompier comment my profile saying im shallow -_______-

most ppl who just commented sound similar to my answer so i dont know why.......cuz its the truth from what i observed.

I had both of those experiences. some good some bad. All i have to say is that............you MIGHT end up liking him. The guy i used to like....wasnt good looking as well....but i ended up liking him after 4 years. it didnt work out......since he thot i wasnt "commited" enough =X

[des monstres]

i wouldn't date someone who isn't physically attractive to me.
but yes, hanging out with the person and having some sort of click does add to attractiveness.
but when you first meet someone, you look at how they look.
their physical appearance. it's not like you can say,
"oh my god. i love his/her personality. <3"
cause er, you just met the person.

but uhm yeah.
i can only date attractive people. @___@;

[chll51]

yeah... it may sounds shallow but i have to be attracted to him physically. i mean, if i can't imagine even kissing him then what are the chances that the relationship will work out? lol. i like personality more but i need a bit of physical attractions.

[lxmikexl]

Happened to me :L
haha i still kinda think about it to this day.
She was fun to talk to, i enjoyed her company, we clicked well
Hell she said it was her first time confessing to a guy that she liked.

but she's happy now that she has a new bf and what not so its all good
i think o_o

[xqtpi]

I think it's BS when people say 'looks don't matter'. Physical attraction is definitely necessary. Probably not as important as personality, but it's still important. &Yes, it's happened to me before.

[maharu.]

idk, looks may be a factor but I'm always in for the personality.
I enjoy talking, communicating, and working together with someone so I'm more bothered with that.
I kind of liked this guy who had a sweet personality and fun to be around and he wasn't the best looking.
But as time went on (2-3 years), his looks/cuteness grew onto me.
So looks isn't a instant thing for me, I guess.
So I don't think I'll reject a person cause of their looks, it has to be the personality that bothers me.

[~koe*no*sainou~]

I would date him, I just wouldn't have sex with him. It's happened before. *Shrugs* Better for me though because I'd rather stay a virgin until...err...a long time ^ ^;;