[asking]

i haven't talked to my ex in about a month or so (not even) and we've broken up for quite sometime now..since the end of last year. i didn't talk to him not because i didn't want to but because i felt like i could get over him quicker that way AND also because his other love interest was getting quite jealous. plus it wasn't me who cut off all contacts first. he just never replied/picked up my calls etc.
i guess i understood because he was seeing someone else plus there was a lot of drama going on after we broke up.

recently, just randomly he asks me if we're ever going to start talking again or am i just going to ignore him forever. it was a little weird because HE was the one who stopped talking to me.

so my question is:

when a guy starts talking to his ex again.. does that mean he's completely over her now (to have the courage to patch things up and be friends)? or does he miss her?

and also,

what do you do when you bump into an ex? smile? frown? or just ignore?

i have no idea how to deal with ex's. could someone give the lowdown on ex's. haha.

thanks.

[xabstruse]

unfortunately I am a girl and can't read guy's minds... but when this happened to me I was the one to ask if we were going to ignore each other forever. nowadays we just say hi when we see each other and stuff. occasionally we go out as friends with other friends =P yeah, we're pretty cool with each other now, just not really close friends or anything. I certainly feel completely over him now, and I'll assume that he does too.

[Iko.]

You can't really say.. talk more with your ex to find out. Either way, if he wants to patch things up or is missing you, he's gonna keep on talking to you and eventually you'll find out.

Bumping into ex's... it depends lol, because I've had different kinds. Good ones, bad ones. lame ones. Bad ones I simply ignore or pretend I don't know them. Good ones, I wave and go. I don't really hang out with any of my exes lol

[PoooBear]

when a guy starts talking to his ex again.. does that mean he's completely over her now (to have the courage to patch things up and be friends)? or does he miss her?

I think he just wants to check on how you're doing. Don't over think it. x.x it'll eat you alive trying to figure that one out.
My ex, after we broke up for a month or so, he'd call me on random days just to talk...o.o
Even though he had a love interest already, so who knows.
We agreed to be friends, but that hasn't happened, we haven't talked ever since he got a new gf.
It's been almost 5-6 months now, it doesn't even feel like it's been long either O.O amazingly.
I think it's just better to let it be as it is, and not bother to talk to them, unless you really want to be friends.
But there will always be the awkward tension between you two because only you two know what has happened in the past.

what do you do when you bump into an ex? smile? frown? or just ignore?

Thankfully, that hasn't happened to me ...yet.
We live in the same town and 6 minutes away from each other.
But because we're in different social orders (college and high school), we never see each other.
We don't hang out at the same places or talk to the same people. Unless, of course, he decides to go to my college
But if I was ever confronted with the situation, I'd just smile or ignore and walk away...o.o;;
Too awkward for me to deal with, I'm already an awkward person as it is!

From my experience, being friends is almost impossible unless you see each other as just friends.
And then there will always be those girls he likes, that are jealous of his past and hate you for no reason >.<;

[kellyalster]

I stop talking to ex's until I'm over them. Then I talk to them again, unless they need time too. I don't know what he's thinking. He might be hanging on to you OR he might just want to be your friend. But keep him at a distance for now.

[KOGEPANN;)]

What do you do when you bump into an ex? smile? frown? or just ignore?
I smile, I'm pretty good friends with my ex, we talk about stupid things like friends, he makes me laugh a lot, but now we know we're meant to be nothing more than just friends, we ended on rough and patchy terms, but nothing was there really.

[Lie]

It could be either, honestly. He may feel like he's okay with being friends now, and he wanted to keep his distance until he was okay with that, or it may be that he got to thinking recently about how much he misses you and wants to get back together. The only way to tell for sure is to be friends with him. If he makes a move, he wants to get back together, if he doesn't, he's cool with just being friends.

I say hi. Smile if we're friendly.

when a guy starts talking to his ex again.. does that mean he's completely over her now (to have the courage to patch things up and be friends)? or does he miss her?

and also,

what do you do when you bump into an ex? smile? frown? or just ignore?

i have no idea how to deal with ex's. could someone give the lowdown on ex's. haha.

thanks.

[donporkuloin]

If my ex were to talk to me? I'd assume she has that apology she owes me.

[claire.rawr]

my best guess is that... something probably happened between his new love interest and him and he talks to you cuz its easy to get a lil somethin somthin. ...

that's what my ex has done for a while.. he'd call me up and kinda dish out if i had missed him or not.. pretty pathetic in my opinion.. actually, the only time he ever does that is if i'm single and if something has happened between him and his girl...

[insanelyCRAZY]

it could just be an ex thing.
like just wondering... "how are they doing now?"
i mean, you were once a significant part of his life =/

[babyxjuicy]

i think when your exboyfriend starts talking to you again, it can mean either both. even if you think he's completely over you, deep down inside he still may have a thing for you and misses you, just a teeny, tiny bit. or yes, he is completely over you. most guys i know don't know how to express their feelings well but everyone's different though. and whenever i see an exboyfriend, i always talk to them and smile to all my exboyfriends and we're very comfortable with each other AFTER awhile's time..

[hpfan7]

Maybe he is just ready to be friends again?

[asking]

i'm not sure if he really wants to be friend again, because his other love interest atm is quite a jealous person and he's all about his s/o when it comes to this (when we were still together, he was prepared to stop being friends with his best girl friend for me because i got jealous of her)

and even though it hasnt been that long, they seem really in love already etc. so im pretty sure he doesn't want to get back together either.

aghhh. boys are so hard to figure out.

[Chinesexgirlxmongolia]

I went through the same thing... except he tells him friends Im calling him and Aiming him and mini coopert and I got mad because I had blocked him. He also texts me saying can you talk to me like a DECENT person now, Im really angry and I wanna slap him but I wont..... just ignore him. Maybe he needs closure. Just say "hey. Were over remember? so this is it. If you wanna be friends give it some more time but right now isnt a good time to start talking" but only if youre over him and feel free to alter it to it your needs

that should work. It didnt work for me because he has anger issues and went off on me. So i settled it through his best friend. hehe

[quyennypoo]

if your friends then speak...you should also comment on the fact that he stopped contacting you so therefore you didnt know that it was somehow your duty to contact him!

no offense if you still like him or if hes a mate but he sounds a bit like a turd... BUT maybe he misses you and wants to contact you...or maybe he's bored..
for all of my ex's there is a reason why we break up so i dont stay friends however i am civil and will say hi like i do with all my acquaintances, keeping things short and sweet!

[bellyy.loo]

i think he's just checking up on you, to see how you're doing.

with one of my experiences, there was nothing to "get over" in the first place. i spoke to my ex one week after we broke up, but then i found out that he was telling people (we go to the same school) that he dumped me because of all these stupid reasons, when its the other way around. also there were so many things i hate about him i found out from the relationship and they just get to my nerves that i cant even be friends with him anymore. so i havent spoken to him since then.
as for seeing him at school, i dont even acknowledge his existence.