[Wuhanprincess]

this has been going on for 8 months i tried everything to help her but she just
acts like i'm nothing, and throws everything away

My best friend since kindergarten was the nicest, funniest person i know. She never cursed, always cared about other people, very SWEET
and was the best person in my life. I told her to make some guy friends because everyone is maturing [in the way like - boys can be friends with girls] , but her mind wasn't she was grossed out with guys. So she made a guy
friend. Then she got her first boyfriend.

then after that she became the biggest b.itch i ever knew! [sorrii for the cursing]

Anyways she began talking to guys more, and more, and more, now she's so conceited!
she thinks she's cool, and god's gift. i thought that was bad then her boyfriend dumped her
and he said he hated how she changed. but she didn't care she just said whatever.

Then she dyed her hair and cut it, because she wanted people to like her and think she was hot!
and she said every curse word in the book! I was surprised, and she blamed it on me. she said
you told me to make guy friends. i said GUY FRIENDS NOT, EVERY GUY YOU SEE

she flirts with everyone she sees, curses all the time, ditches me for popular people, thinks shes the sh.itt,
controls everything, ignores me for guys. talks trash behind my back, she's just hurting my feelings a lot.

I told her 5 times to her face, 3 times in letters she drastically changed, she didn't care! or do anything!
my other best friend told her too, she still didn't care. she was just like whatever!

I really want to dump her because i can't take her crap she's dumping on me all the time. and my moms like
dont leave her she's lost and needs to find her way. i was like how is making me feel like useless pice of crap
finding her way? i cant take it anymore!!!!!! SHE USED TO BE MY BEST FRIEND BUT NOW SHE'S TREATING ME

LIKE I'M USELESS AND LOWER THAN HER, what do you think should i stay by her side until she changes
or dump her and her crap?

[Aimiko]

I think that you did everything you could. Best friends should talk to each other properly before they go on to the next step. And you tried it like what..8 times now? But yet..she's not willing to listen, so that's her fault.

And maybe she needs to "suffer" before she knows what's dear to her...?

[secretlyjustyours]

i think the answer is obvious. ><"

[Tuxedomask]

You're mom is right, she does seem lost.

Don't cut her out of your life but just stay away from her until she realizes who she really is and what she has become.

[Wuhanprincess]

she knows what she's become just doesn't admit it
and avoids it in topic
and then let's her anger out on me
and then she goes back to being the same

[quyennypoo]

This is a transition your friend needs to go through! She has now shifted to being this egotistic maniac right?
i've had friends like that and the thing is there is nothing you can do to stop her...you cant make her care and she wont stop until she reaches a point where she feels that what she's doing has no substance! (although i am not saying there is anything wrong with wanting guys to like you and looking pretty) she has to go through it alone...its like when your parents tell you something but you disregard what they say cos you know whats best for you and what the hell do they know EVEN though they are so so right..well thats probably what your friendship is going through...you being the parent and your friend the child

your a good friend for being by her all that time, but there is no point in you investing your time and effort in your "best friend" when she clearly doesn't see you as that or even giving you the respect a friendship has!
spend time apart and focus on you...who cares about her life when you have your own!

xoxox

[emceej]

i went through the same thing last year. it was really sad but i had to move on cuz i couldn't stand her attitude. i ignored her, found new friends, and treated her like she didn't exist. it wasn't until the end of the year when she realized her mistakes ;-;

i think you did your best do support your relationship with one another.
if she doesn't want to try, then don't. she will run back to you one way or another.
when she talks sh.it about you, it just shows how low her self esteem is. and you even said that she changed everything so guys and people would notice her. it's obvious that she thinks she's not good enough.

[Lie]

People change with time, sometimes the changes aren't the sort you can deal with. Of my current friends & best friends, I think only 2 of them are people that I've known for most of my life. The rest are relatively newer people, who sort of fit me better, being that I've changed as a person over the years as well. A lot of the friends I had as a kid I eventually had to phase out of my life, being that they just became people I was no longer comfortable being around (in some cases excessive drinking, others drugs, womanizing, vastly different interests, etc). It's a part of life for most of us, unfortunately.

[Aivy]

Eh, in Middle School and High School people change A LOT, often into a whole new person. If you told her a hundred times, don't tell her again. If she's happy living that way, let her be and let her suffer because it sounds like she made you suffer a whole lot. Find new friends, ones that accept you, but still keep in contact with her sometimes because who knows, your mom may be right about her.

[Wuhanprincess]

yeah i ... think im gonna have to leave her for now
she's not changing, or even making an effort.

so thank you all

[Becca*]

I don't know how old you are
but a lot of teenagers go through 'phases'
its there way of exploring the unknown and trying to find what they like in the process
so just leave it and find better friends

[XxKhmerBoiXx]

don't hang out with her anymore or not as much. once she loses you she might realize what a great friend she lost if she doesn't she doesn't deserve u as a friend

[my_kangin]

Cut her out of your life. You don't need a friend like her, cuz she obviously doens't think you're her
friend anymore by the way she's acting towards you. No one should be treating you like the way she
is to you. If she's causing stress for you and hurting your feelings, she's not worth talking to AT ALL.

You deserve wayy more (:

[mrskimjinho]

Like everyone is saying, it's an unfortunate phase. I think A LOT of girls think they're the hottest piece of a.ss at one point in their lifetime and they eventually grow out of it (as long as their IQ isn't like, 50 or something).

Just cut her out for now because she obviously isn't giving you the respect you deserve. No one can say that you're a bad friend because you did try to help her multiple times. If she's smart, she'll come crawling back and apologize to you once she grows out of this phase, and if you're a good friend, you'll be forgiving.

[sus]

it happens people change
exploring the world n themselves
hmmm she would sooner or later b bak to herslef
after she realises thtat she lost all her gfz and the boys start treating her like crap

hmmm just distance urself

and when she hits rock bottom... be tere for her

[JJ no Baka]

People WILL change and people DO change. It's just whether or not it's worth it to keep the friendship. Hope all goes well.

[ngarky]

she seems lost and you're probably the best person who can help her..
but if she's not gunna listen to you at all...
no one can help her

[Eider]

leave her for now but be there if she comes to you for help some day. It's the best you can do.

[OBSCURITY xxx]

Just dump her, if you don't feel that same best friend connection you had and you've tried everything and she's still being a hard-headed conceited fool, I'd say, go find a new best friend. You don't need to worry about people like that in your life, they can take care of themselves and find their own new superficial and conceited best friend as well.

[terrorist]

people change
things change
life changes


true story, i used to tell these perverted stories to my friend
now she's a college sluht.

You have to watch your words, becareful what you say.
The best thing you can do is tell her she's becoming a horrible person.
as a best friend stay back and let her control her own life.

unless she goes uber crzy, then u gotta go help. lol

this has been going on for 8 months i tried everything to help her but she just
acts like i'm nothing, and throws everything away

My best friend since kindergarten was the nicest, funniest person i know. She never cursed, always cared about other people, very mature
and was the best person in my life. I told her to make some guy friends because everyone is maturing, but her mind wasn't. So she made a guy
friend. Then she got her first boyfriend.

then after that she became the biggest b.itch i ever knew! [sorrii for the cursing]

Anyways she began talking to guys more, and more, and more, now she's so conceited!
she thinks she's cool, and god's gift. i thought that was bad then her boyfriend dumped her
and he said he hated how she changed. but she didn't care she just said whatever.

Then she dyed her hair and cut it, because she wanted people to like her and think she was hot!
and she said every curse word in the book! I was surprised, and she blamed it on me. she said
you told me to make guy friends. i said GUY FRIENDS NOT, EVERY GUY YOU SEE

she flirts with everyone she sees, curses all the time, ditches me for popular people, thinks shes the sh.itt,
controls everything, ignores me for guys. talks trash behind my back, she's just hurting my feelings a lot.

I told her 5 times to her face, 3 times in letters she drastically changed, she didn't care! or do anything!
my other best friend told her too, she still didn't care. she was just like whatever!

I really want to dump her because i can't take her crap she's dumping on me all the time. and my moms like
dont leave her she's lost and needs to find her way. i was like how is making me feel like useless pice of crap
finding her way? i cant take it anymore!!!!!! SHE USED TO BE MY BEST FRIEND BUT NOW SHE'S TREATING ME

LIKE I'M USELESS AND LOWER THAN HER, what do you think should i stay by her side until she changes
or dump her and her crap?

read what you just typed. she's very mature.. and everyone else is getting mature, so you want her to mature?!.......
sounds like you expected her to be something more than she already was

You made a big mistake missy.