[~koe*no*sainou~]

Now I won't go into detail about my particular problem, but I do need some advice on how to approach my mom with it =/

Let's say if you were the perfect Asian daughter, with perfect grades, a perfect job, a perfect life...in your mom's eyes anyway. Now let's say you get pregnant, you get in trouble with the law, or you accidentally murdered someone...anything along those lines...how would you approach her?

"Mom...please understand that everyone makes mistakes and..."
"Mom...don't' get mad but there's something I have to tell you..."

Does anyone have any ideas? =/

[princesspoppy]

I know I was being stupid, you can yell at me all you want, but right now I need your help and your support.

Good luck!

[myluckyself]

mmm hard one, but... just make it clear how you need support, la di dah (basically ^) but remember to be honest!!

[ShadowMax76]

ear plugs and take off my glasses/contacts.

lol. but i'd just clarify
be in her presence for a while... [i only do that when i really have to talk to her]
1. i did something bad. something went wrong. i screwed up.
waiiiiiiiiit a long time..... let her think of a few things.
2. i don't want to burden you, but i need your help this time.
3. tell her.
4. brace for any facial expressions, and try to reassure her of any assumptions she may make.

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[Seraphyx]

"Mom, I need 300 dollars for this after school study class". Then use the money for your abortion. If that is not the case....then just tell her.

[supa'Wanki]

I know I was being stupid, you can yell at me all you want, but right now I need your help and your support.

Good luck!

thats a good one.

[__LOST]

just tell her that you need to talk in a serious tone. i think she'll pick it up.
say that you want her to listen to everything first before she makes a comment. sounds stupid but it works.
goodluck with the talk. > <

[Ida]

I know I was being stupid, you can yell at me all you want, but right now I need your help and your support.

Good luck!

Works like a charm.

-ida

[winterofdiscontent]

I wouldn't even tell her about something like that.
I'd just do what I could to secretly get myself out of the situation.
What is it with so many Asian parents and the way they overreact to everything?

[k25]

Your mom will b*TCH the crap out of you.. but don't worry... she'll be there for you at the end.

[The Red Shoes]

She'll be less angry (in the long run) since you are telling her upfront rather than hiding it. Tell her that you need to talk about something very important, in a serious tone so she'll brace herself. Then tell her that she has the rest of her life to yell at you (if she wants) about what ever it is you are about to tell her but that RIGHT NOW you need her understanding and support so you can get through this together. What ever the problem is, mothers will still love their children (in most cases, if your family is not too dysfunctional).