[chopstick^^]

If you had an s/o... friend or family... do you think the love varys... if so, how are they different..

for: s/o... friend... family...

If someone never been in a relationship before, do you think they won't know how it feel to love someone?
this was a debate i picked up in another thread, that if someone never been in a relationship, they wouldn't know how it feels to love someone deeply.

Since there is something called "unrequited love" .. therefore, you could love someone deeply, but they don't love you back the same, so you never been in a relationship but you know how it feel's to love.

So what is your view on this..

[chilovesjj]

For acquaintances and friends I don't know that well, of course I care for them and wish the best for them and feel sad for them if something bad happens. But I don't like, love them enough to take a bullet for them, for example. xD

Very close friends, I love like siblings. So for my family and friends- I have a lot of trust and respect for them, and sometimes we can disagree and even have pretty huge arguments, but we have a bond that transcends that. (Whereas if a casual acquaintance started being a douche and being argumentative I just wouldn't bother with them anymore xD) The mother-daughter bond I think is slightly different from the love for the rest of my family, I can't explain very well but I guess it's just because I was once a part of her ^^ and we are very similar. ^^

I agree that you can't know how it feels to be in love, without being in love. It's difficult to fully explain why, but I'll give it a go. Of course you understand what it is like to love your family and your friends. But being in love is different ^^

My fiancé is special because I love him in more ways than I love my family and friends, and this is why you can't know how it feels if you have only experienced love with family and friends. I love him as a very close friend, trust him and can depend on him like I can my close friends and my family. But I'm also IN love with him, with his personality, and I find him physically attractive as well. But more than that- there is a connection which cannot be compared to any of the bonds I have with family and friends. The relationship, the bond I have with him makes me happy in a way that no other kind of relationship can. I don't think you can really understand or know that happiness until you truly feel it in your heart, yourself. ^^ It's not something I was able to imagine before it happened, and any ideas I'd conceived about how love, and relationships would be, weren't true to the real-life experience of them.

I've heard a lot of kids talk about unrequited love, when in reality a lot of them are just infatuated. You can tell if it's just infatuation, if you find yourself thinking 'oh that person is so perfect for ME, they would make ME so happy, i don't think I will ever find someone else like this, I need them'. An infatuation is a selfish fixation. You just want them to make yourself happy. In love, you're supposed to want the other person to be happy. But when you're infatuated, if you're honest with yourself, you don't care about their feelings or what they want, just what you want.

I've had my share of crushes and infatuations, one of which lasted about a year. But even through those, I still believed that the 'real thing', in a proper relationship, would be worlds apart from even the strongest infatuation- and it was.

If you are in love with the personality of someone, and it's not just a physical attraction/crush then yeah you could be in love one-way.
So you would know how that kind of love feels, yeah
But that still can't really be compared to mutual love in a proper relationship, because they're still very different.

I hope that made some kind of sense. s: I'm not good at explaining things, haha, sorry ^^;

[princesspoppy]

Love is love.

Just like how happiness is just happiness. What makes you happy might not make other people happy, but that doesn't mean you or they don't know how happiness feels.

[sui85]

Friends - Most friend, i like, not love. But i think some i can like for a very long time, and had.

Family - I love them all my life, and i know i will continue to love them forever. It will never end.

S/O - I think i will love him more than i love my family. If i can love my family so much, i believe i would love my s/o as much. As long as i feel he is a family (if we do end up marrying that is.) But being a boyfriend means i would be growing to love him. Rather than love him as much as a family. It's more on the growing side. So if it stop growing, and start drifting, then the love can end. S/O love is a romantic love compare to the rest.

Pet - nice company, and i do love my cat alot, but out of friends/family/s/o. I think my pet is part of my family.

[blueskiezgurl]

to love someone or something is to feel for them or it...love in the family is unconditional...for friends and acquaintance its care, for true love its everything...u dun have to be together with someone to feel true love, if u found it, u found it! and u know!

[ShadowMax76]

do i think one can know how to love w/o being in a relationship?
well.. it doesn't have to be official for you to listen to someone's bad day, to care after them if they're not caring for them self, to work towards their good, uphold an honest life to never betray them and to even lead them, etc.

i think familial love is strongest.
..you can get a s/o anywhere...lol.. x-x' but -shrugs- perhaps that's just me atm.

one-sided love is quite.. sad. not shameful, but..sad sad T _ T' 'unfortunate'...
i think it's like how a dog would take on a burglar. but..when the owner bought the dog for that reason.. :/ sad, no?

sure, the dog will love the owner just because it's fed. lol
_ so yeah. i think you can love someone that doesn't love you back. as long as you're not just saying "i love him" when there's no proof.
fuzzy feelings isn't enough sometimes.

[mrskimjinho]

Guh.. I really don't like how "love" has become such a trivialized word. People just throw around "I love you" and "I love that" and "I love this" and "I love him/her/them" it just loses so much of its meaning.

But anyway, regardless of who it is, love is..
knowing that if the person were to die (God forbid), you'd always have a missing piece in your soul no matter how much time passed. And I don't mean just missing them from time to time. I mean you not even being able to imagine life going on as usual without that special person.

[faithpuppy]

I've never been in a relationship before, but I love my family and friends. I think it would be the same for a s/o too, but a more deeper feeling?

[faerie87]

unconditional. you love them no matter what they do, who they are.
do you believe love can be conditional?
i don't =/

but yeh, unrequited love is never love. unless it's an exbf. but yeh, you cannot foster love without the otherside.
unless you're like a mother....
but i dunno. love is what the bible describes it to me.
love is patient love is kind, never selfish, always trusting...etc i don't remember the verse exactly.

love is when you would die for that person

[Chanellas]

Placing their happiness above my own.

[JJ no Baka]

The unconditional love of a mother to her child.