[donporkuloin]

So my cousin let's call him Mike. He has a gf let's call her Diana. Mike and Diana are college students at different colleges in the same city. Diane works 2 jobs. Mike doesn't work. Mike gets spoiled a lot financially by her. More than lately he takes advantage of Diane financially. Yet she's ok with it. Even though we were sobering up from a party a few weeks ago, and she was telling me she doesn't like him taking her money, etc. My point to all of this is Mike cheats on Diana on the regular. Diana lives at her mom's house sometimes and with Mike sometimes. When Diana is gone Mike always has another woman in his bed for "adult activities."

Diana wrote a note I read a few months ago. Asking what's love, and questioning if Mike loved her? At first I felt sorry for Diana. But the more I have been getting to know Diana she has been very disrespectful to me with her words. I addressed her about it. My best friend/cousin addressed her about it too. I even helped her with some financial issues lately, and she had the audacity to thank everyone but me. When I was the main person who solved her financial issue. I've been staying out of it, but my morals have been eating at me more lately.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

[princesspoppy]

Just leave it. Don't get involve. From the looks of it, she is starting to notice that Mike really doesn't love her, so if she is smart, she will leave him.

[donporkuloin]

she is starting to notice that Mike really doesn't love her, so if she is smart, she will leave him.

That note she wrote was a few months ago. I seen her 2 days ago, and she was sticking up Mike whenever he was wrong for something.

[PoooBear]

What a complex situation =/
But what exactly do you owe Diana to go help her like that?
Shouldn't her so-called boyfriend be worrying about this?
You have no obligations to Diana, at all. Unless you two are reallyyy good friends or something.
Then again, I wouldn't go lending money to even friends. o.o
But it seems if she's not even respectful to you, then you shouldn't even bother with her.

If she's fine with being manipulated by your cousin then let her be.
Though, I don't think you should tell her that your cousin cheats on her on the regular.
If anything, I think you should exclude yourself from their problems as quick as possible.
Before anything gets ugly, it's their business, not yours.
Be the outside person.

[Meenuh]

Personally, i'd stay as far away from people like that. Her and Mike but not until after I talk to Mike about being a pinkberry. I learned you never lend money to people. PERIOD.

[felinius]

That note she wrote was a few months ago. I seen her 2 days ago, and she was sticking up Mike whenever he was wrong for something.

She's in denial then.

You can't help someone who's in denial because they'll just take it out on you.

If you want to be "nice" though, you can take pictures of your cousin with the lady-friends.

[PhuongNguyen]

If I were in your position; instead of ratting Mike out, why don't you try to talk to him first? Ask him if he honestly cares about the chick, and if he did, drop his bs... tell her the truth and beg for another chance. You should at least give your cousin a little head up before you go and rat him out to his gf. If he refuses to do so and continues to cheat, and Diana is a "GOOD" friend of yours (emphasizing on the GOOD friend), then you should tell her about it.

Do note that he is your cousin... ratting him out may mean he'll never speak to you again. Are you sure you want to risk that?

There's the right thing to do, and then there's the right thing to do, that's going to give you a lot of drama and crap. This situation is just that. If you can't deal with the guilt then go ahead and tell Diana... but I hope you understand it isn't just "oh, he cheated on me, thank you" and that'll be the end of it. Chances are, your cousin is going to be piss because you ratted him out. Diana may not even take your words for it, and she may turn her back against you. Various thing may happen, and not all of them will be to your benefit.

[donporkuloin]

If I were in your position; instead of ratting Mike out, why don't you try to talk to him first? Ask him if he honestly cares about the chick, and if he did, drop his bs... tell her the truth and beg for another chance. You should at least give your cousin a little head up before you go and rat him out to his gf. If he refuses to do so and continues to cheat, and Diana is a "GOOD" friend of yours (emphasizing on the GOOD friend), then you should tell her about it.

Do note that he is your cousin... ratting him out may mean he'll never speak to you again. Are you sure you want to risk that?

There's the right thing to do, and then there's the right thing to do, that's going to give you a lot of drama and crap. This situation is just that. If you can't deal with the guilt then go ahead and tell Diana... but I hope you understand it isn't just "oh, he cheated on me, thank you" and that'll be the end of it. Chances are, your cousin is going to be piss because you ratted him out. Diana may not even take your words for it, and she may turn her back against you. Various thing may happen, and not all of them will be to your benefit.

Haha.. We tried the you should tell her speech. That didn't work. Diana really isn't a "good friend." Lol.

[doofus9]

it seems shes unappreciative of your efforts. and shes not going to take your words to the heart
and if you get involved i think everything is going to get complicated

[ShadowMax76]

so... if i found my cousin's gf annoying. and my cousin was cheating on her.

o_O' how could i be a good person by not saying anything?

lol. "look. i know we don't see eye to eye. but i think i should tell you something before you spend anymore of your life on my cousin."

_ if you don't like her, then just show her photos of your cousin in the act. LOL. epic.
-sighs- the last time i was in this situation, i had to make my 'sister' feel guilty for cheating... _ she obviously folded. i felt bad but... i think her life's a bit more sane now.

[thua]

If I were you, I don't think I would tell her.
If Diana is not someone you consider a friend, then I don't see the point in meddling into their business.

[littleangel19]

I think you should just let her be. And try your best to not "help" her so much. Sometimes there are peoples who must get hit hard. It's hard to help someone , when they don't need your help, especially in a relationship.

[___orangelicious]

When it involves someones S/o it's best to keep most of your suggestions to yourself, because at the end of they day, they're still blinded by the ideal person they think they know/see. If she wants to talk, let her talk about it, but don't expect her to follow through with your advice, even if as outsider in you see him as a jerk, she doesn't want to think of him that way.

[Regrets]

don't get involved or you're cousin is going to be very >=( with you
Just let her find out.

[**rainbow**]

well it seems diane reaaly loves mike. so even though she's sensing mike is disliking her, she cant do anything cuz she loves him. And she's mean to you. wth you even helped her out and u noe the secret that he's cheating on her. If she made you angry and if you wanna sorta take revenge, then tell her that mike's been cheating on her all time...etc, but if u wanna just stay out of it, just leave all this problem and go on peacefully with ur own life. either way, gdluck!!

[jesus.shuttlesworth]

confront mike first, tell him you will rat him out if he doesn't confess himself

end of story

[bonitagirlx]

who cares. she is the one being a pinkberry. ud want to help her, but not with that attitude!