[neville_longbottom10]

well i really love this girl for so many years, but last year, she found out i've liked her for all these years, and she told her friends she couldn't imagine anything happening between us. Actually, she heard this from her friends, not from myself directly. I've tried to move on, but almost a year later, i still love her so much, and the fact that nothing is going to happen (well that's what im supposing for now), is really making me depress.

Now, i just want to tell her i loved her all this time with no agenda, hopefully by letting know how i feel, i can perhaps get over her and move on. My main worry is that is it weird telling a girl you love her when you don't talk much with her, cause now i feel she's the one. Should i go through with it

[IceySoul]

well i really love this girl for so many years, but last year, she found out i've liked her for all these years, and she told her friends she couldn't imagine anything happening between us. Actually, she heard this from her friends, not from myself directly. I've tried to move on, but almost a year later, i still love her so much, and the fact that nothing is going to happen (well that's what im supposing for now), is really making me depress.

Now, i just want to tell her i loved her all this time with no agenda, hopefully by letting know how i feel, i can perhaps get over her and move on. My main worry is that is it weird telling a girl you love her when you don't talk much with her, cause now i feel she's the one. Should i go through with it

Personally I don't think you can "love" her when you don't talk to her much, because the case is... you don't even know who she is since you don't talk to her much, it sounds more like a crush to me because she may look like a goddess to you. You will probably feel relieved after you tell her that you like her all these years, you can probably get rid of that depressed feeling. I bet you, if you start interacting with other girls and get to know them pretty well, you might even fall for them instead of the one you "love."

[JazzyMina]

Tell her how u feel and if that doesnt waken her up then no that you atleast tried again all after all these years.

Hopfly things work out for you but if she rejects you again, try and move on and go onto other girls instead of the one ur lingering on..

[johnny19]

if thats what you need to do then do it. but don't use the word "love" please. Love is mutual between two people, wanting to give, not just wanting to get with them. What your feeling isn't love, just say you like her instead.

[my_kangin]

Personally I don't think you can "love" her when you don't talk to her much, because the case is... you don't even know who she is since you don't talk to her much, it sounds more like a crush to me because she may look like a goddess to you. You will probably feel relieved after you tell her that you like her all these years, you can probably get rid of that depressed feeling. I bet you, if you start interacting with other girls and get to know them pretty well, you might even fall for them instead of the one you "love."

I totally agree with IceySoul. I don't think you can be "in love" with her. If she didn't even know you liked her for all those years - it just shows how much you guys are distant from each other. I think you should tell her you like/liked her and you're only telling her because it's helping you to release all your feelings. Like IceySoul said, you should start interacting with other girls. Maybe you'll forget about this crush and start liking another girl who will like you back? (:

Good luck to you and your confession!
Hope all goes well for you! (:

[bbyxwinnie]

honestly i think you should just leave her alone.
i know it seems unfair a little cause you're the only one taking all this feeling up
but if you tell a girl you love her for like how many years? she'll just get creeped out ;x

[kishycathiee]

I think you should use the word "like" instead of "love."

You may be relieved when you pour out your feelings in a confession,
but you said that she doesn't like you.

Most likely you'll be hurt at the end, things get more awkward, and you might not even talk to her much.
From a girl's perspective, when a guy that I have no interest in, who doesn't even talk to me suddenly confesses to me,
I find it a bit.. creepy.

But there's always a possibility that she actually likes you, but idk..
You could either use your heart (that she's "the one") or you can use your head (that she doesn't like you)

I say don't tell her. I just don't want you to be hurt and think "What happened...?" at the end.

(:

[iamzen]

you mean you like her, lol. you really can't love her because you never began or had anything going on. yeah you can express the feelings you have her, yeah she might turn you down or what not. at least you tried and then there wont be that what if in the back of your head. Now you have an answer.

[heheimawesome]

I say you tell her. You have nothing to lose, right? Maybe don't say you love her, but say "I really really really like you"

if she doesn't like you, at least you won't think about all of the "what if's"
and you can try to move on. have confidence.

[The Red Shoes]

I say you might as well tell her (that you like her...don't say love, that might freak her out). End that chapter in your life rather than let it hang over your head for the rest of your life. You wouldn't believe how many stories from people I hear, even after they are married, about that one girl they never expressed their feelings to and they always wonder. At least when you tell her you'll know FOR SURE it would never work. And there's always the possibility that she was only telling her friend that just so she wouldn't ask any more questions. If she said that she did like you, her friend might have pestered her and bombarded her with questions. When I was in high school I did that, I wouldn't admit it to my friends cause I don't want them meddling and getting involved. But then again maybe she really doesn't like you. Who knows. It may sting when you first tell her, but believe me you'll get over it faster in the long run. It won't linger...

[yabasta]

Allow me to laugh at your open proposal to the internet. Confess. Love? HAW HAW.

Look mate, I think most fellas have been in such a situation at least once or twice in their life, seeing that mysterious 'other girl' that you can't really shake off, but always feeling pulled in by.

But like everyone said, you can't possible be in 'love' with her - and most people forgot to say this, and have that same kind of 'love' (I'm using scarecrow quotes because you're calling it 'love' - I think love is something else, usually mutual) returned.

You gotta rethink the situation, and you've taken the first step to 'conquering' her by coming online and at least getting it out into the annonymous public.

Here's what I'm thinking, based on opinions here and on my own personal experience with such banshees.

You do have to tell her how you feel - or you will explode or perhaps implode if you have the right personality. Seriously, some people said, 'ignore her' or just 'forget about her' right? Will that make you feel any better? No. Because it solves nothing, you still have that attachment to the girl, and it seems unresolved (and it really is unresolved - because I've tried it, and I even went out with girls to forget about that other girl, only to come back like Gatsby). So forgetting about her will not satisfy your emotional needs - I assure you, again and again!

What you gotta do is tell her how you feel.

Just read that again.

And just to make sure you've got that through your head I will type it again.

TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL.

Notice the difference? It's got nothing to do with 'love' or 'perpetual romantic relationships' or anything concrete that would scare the living bejesubus out of any sane human being in the 21st century. But the ambiguous sentence hits the point pretty accurately because of what it implies.

HOW YOU FEEL

It can be anything, for all you know, what you might feel for her is just a passing crush, that is fermentating in you like dwenjjang because you can't figure out what to do with it.

So, when you talk to her, and I think you should, tell her how you feel. Try not to use the word 'love'. Maybe explain to her, that it feels like love but you're not sure - because how is anyone sure they're in love unless it's returned and it's mutual?

Play it cool as well, don't just drop it on her like Hiroshima; and don't continue your carpet bombing campaign (i.e. incessant bugging around and txting etc. - you know you do it); rather go for the strategic bunker buster style bombs - they're subtle enough to smash her flat to the ground. She won't know what had hit her.

At lunch or whatever, just say, you know, we've known each other for quite some time now... and I just have to get this off my chest before I implode and engulf the universe with a black hole; I really like you, and it almost feels like I love you, but I can't say for sure you know? It feels like love, and yet, I can't really shake that feeling. I don't really expect you to return the feeling, but ... I thought I should just say it - and really would love to take you up on a date.

See? How nice is that? You're not forcing her to choose or anything, she's got the choice to take your offer on a date. But there's no mention of 'friendships sacrificed' or your undying love for her that burns through the thousand nights in the desert.

Just keep it simple and you'll be fine.

If she rejects you, then hey, there's plenty of more girls out there that will LOVE your way of showing affection - the carpet bombing style. But I would suggest you expand your armoury and art of war when dealing with the opposite sex, for they require subtlety as well as brute force to impress. If they like your style, then they'll be your ally and go around bombing on everyone hand in hand.

yabasta

[imhitomi]

Something similar happened to me this past December.

I'd liked this one day since I was fourteen. I knew from the moment I spoke to him that he was special. I thought I'd eventually stop liking him, but I only started feeling more strongly about him as time went by. Cut to four years later when I realize that I'm in love with this guy and well aware that nothing will ever happen between us. I knew it would never work but I had to tell him.

When I told him, he turned out to be totally clueless that I liked him but he told me he liked someone else. He said he was sorry and said he wanted to stay friends. I was pretty heartbroken, but then there was winter vacation so i got to spend 2 weeks without him around, which helped. Now he's dating one of my friends and he's very serious about her. I was upset at first but I've pretty much gotten over it and moved on. If I hadn't told him how I felt, I probably wouldn't have been able to. We're probably better friends now than we used to be actually.

So basically, telling her you love her won't change anything except for your ability to move on, and that won't happen instantly. It'll take time, but it would take longer if you don't tell her.

[Seraphyx]

Whoa Whoa! Slow down baby. You love a girl that you don't even talk to? That's extreme to the point of awkwardness. If you blatantly tell a girl you don't even really talk to that you "love" chances are you are going to get owned. I highly doubt you love her, but if you can't hold yourself back then by all means go for it.

[shazail]

im sorry, but i think you shouldnt tell her.
if you know she doesnt think of you in that way, to tell her is kind of selfish.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Firstly there is no Point
Secondly you won't get it over with, you will get rejected and will get hurt even more.
Thirdly yes it is weird and awkward.

[yabasta]

There is a point, he'll learn not to fall in 'love' with girls he don't talk much too.

Everyone's gotta fall down the stairs once in their lives to learn not to 'fall in love' with girls you don't know much.

yabasta

[Kiribati]

Well why don't you just get it out? Maybe your wanting to tell her that you "love" her has built up so much that you're beating yourself up for not telling her in the first place. Get it off your shoulders and see how that works for you.

[neville_longbottom10]

hey thanks for the replies, but i should clarify that me and her used to know each other from school and i know her well, and we used talk alot, but since HS, we sort of drifted apart, so im not a stranger to her.considering what all of you have said, ill definetely tell her i like her next time i see her, and i know it's just weird but it sucks you can't tell a girl you love her when your not in a relationship with her, cause i really feel like she's the one and my feelings for her is way above just a small crush. Thanks again

[Twisted_fatE]

so it's almost been a week....any updates??

[angels.disguise]

if she already knows you like her
why do you have to tell her?

the thing is your just putting pressure
on her shoulders. if you know it wont
work out, leave it alone.