[김지은♥]

Okay maybe I'm being super over dramatic and blowing this out of proportion, but honestly, I'm super scared. I know that the answer might seem very simple to you guys (ignore/avoid/etc) but to me, it's not that simple.

Well basically, every Saturday I volunteer at a convalescent home. (I'm 15, btw). And there's this really creepy guy there who is around maybe mid-twenties, early thirties, and he's this super short, fat, ugly, bald Hispanic guy. I often have to go to the kitchen and grab things for the residents, so I see him a lot. Most of the time, he's super friendly, basically interrogates me, stares at me, creeps me out majorly overall.

My supervisor at the convalescent home is a young guy in his early twenties, and he jokes around a lot with me, and he told me that Oscar (creeper) talks about me 24/7 when I'm not there.

Well, last week, when I went (I hadn't gone in about a month due to school issues), I had to run to the kitchen for something, and of course, Oscar is there. He's all, "HEY! I haven't seen you in forever! I MISSED YA!" Um yeah. Creeper. I nod politely, smile awkwardly... and he says, "You know what ... I wouldn't miss you as much if I had your number! Then I could call you all the time and everything would be okay! I wouldn't miss you anymore! So...can I have your number?" And honestly, I am a nice person. I hate making others feel bad, and yes ... I know i'm really f* stupid for doing this but I GAVE HIM MY NUMBER! I'M SUCH A FLIPPING IDIOT, I KNOW. UGH UGH UGH UGH KILL ME PLEASE!

After that, he got super giddy and was like "OMG I WANNA MEET YOUR MOM..AND YOUR DAD!! AND YOUR BROTHERS AND YOUR WHOLE FAMILY!! YOU KNOW WHAT I'LL COME VISIT YOU SOMETIME! IN FACT, I'VE BEEN THERE BEFORE!" and at this point, I'm pretty much frightened out of my wits .. because I thought he meant he's been to my house so I was like "WHAT?" and he was like "I've been to the area before!" After that, I pretty much ran out and he was like "YOU BETTER PICK UP WHEN I CALL YOU!!"

Well, I was pretty damn scared but the whole week passed and he didn't call, much to my relief...and then today (Saturday), I went to volunteer >< and the whole time, I was avoiding him and when my supervisor told me to get something from the kitchen, I begged him to get it himself and he did... but I was standing in the hallway and I guess he was watching through the window but he came out and he like grabbed my shoulder in a really creepy way so I jerked away and he was like "HI...what are you doing tonight?" and i was like "umm I dunno I think something with my mom I dunno" and he was like "Oh...I see, I see" and he stood there staring at me and smiling really scarily and clownlike and I was so scared that I just stood there like a dumbass. Well thankfully, my supervisor came out and was like "Do you want to go to jail, man?" and he went back to the kitchen.

The rest of the day I didn't see him, thank god but then I came home and at around 8:30 I got a call from a number I didn't recognize, so I didn't pick up. Awhile later, I asked my guy friend to call and ask for someone random and see if its the creeper guy and so my friend called the number and turns out it was him... >< I put the number into my phone so if he calls I'll know who it is, but he keeps calling and I'm really scared. I told my mom & she's super mad and says she'll call him and tell him not to ever call again but that would mean that I probably can't go volunteer again and it's really complicated for me to go somewhere else & volunteer, plus I have a lot of friends there. Honestly, I know I sound stupid and young and whatever but I'm really scared that he'll go to the volunteer place and dig around and find my address or something ><

Sorry, it's super long but yeah ... i have no clue what to do.

[Seraphyx]

Give me his number and I'll call him. I'm sick right now, so my voice is super deep and intimidating. In the event that you go volunteer again, bring a friend (preferably a guy) and stick with him the whole time. Hopefully, you friend will get your back or tell the creeper to step back. It's probably in your best interest to change your number if you want him to stop calling, or just set your phone to ignore the number. Tell your supervisor also about what is going on. Last resort, call the police.

[ShadowMax76]

-pats- everything's going to be fine.

the guy doesn't sound so smart, so i don't think he can do anything to you. :]

[Sweet_Asian819]

If I were you, I would just leave
Just keep contact with your friends there and try really hard to find a new volunteer place.

If you really can't leave the volunteer work, have someone you know to always be with you >.<
Just please don't be alone.
Warn the supervisor on what's happening.
That creep will then be watched out for if you let some trusted people know about it >.>

There's prbly going to be better replies than this, but this is just my opinion :/

[Seraphyx]

-pats- everything's going to be fine.

the guy doesn't sound so smart, so i don't think he can do anything to you. :]

Whoa man, terrible advice. Assuring someone over the internet is probably the least assuring thing ever. She should probably take action to prevent any physical harassment. Being proactive makes the fear subside a little. The man has a car he is capable of following her home. We should take into account the little factors that could pose to create something dangerous sometime in the near future.

[Makaveli]

Yea seriously you shouldn't have given him your number. Better yet you coulda gave him a FAKE number. Wtf were you thinking? Anyways it's best that you find a different place to volunteer. If he ever shows up at your house, please do not hesitate to file a restraining order IMMEDIATELY.

[zetrangez]

WOW.THAT.IS.SCARY

yeah yeah it was not the best thing to give you your number...but...I guess you can block him? try going to your local service provider and ask.
Or..you can tell him to bug off you know..see what happen..if it still goes on then you got you parents and supervisor~

POLICE if its creeping you badly.

[vindemi]

You could've given him a fake number. I got one in mind already.

...Restraining order? Uh does he go out of that home often, or does he hang out there all the time?
Try to lay low for now. Did you give him your cell? I guess you can get a new cell number?

[xqtpi]

Rejection number? You should get it for the future, just in case.
Anyway, seriously that just scares the hell out of me.
It wasn't the smartest move to give him your number, but just take precautions right now. Stop volunteering there, or like someone else said, bring a guy friend. If he keeps bothering you, call the police.

[김지은♥]

Give me his number and I'll call him. I'm sick right now, so my voice is super deep and intimidating. In the event that you go volunteer again, bring a friend (preferably a guy) and stick with him the whole time. Hopefully, you friend will get your back or tell the creeper to step back. It's probably in your best interest to change your number if you want him to stop calling, or just set your phone to ignore the number. Tell your supervisor also about what is going on. Last resort, call the police.

Thanks ... haha. Unfortunately, I can't bring friends. My supervisor knows what's going on, but he isn't really saying much. Thanks for your advice, it's appreciated.

If I were you, I would just leave
Just keep contact with your friends there and try really hard to find a new volunteer place.

If you really can't leave the volunteer work, have someone you know to always be with you >.<
Just please don't be alone.
Warn the supervisor on what's happening.
That creep will then be watched out for if you let some trusted people know about it >.>

There's prbly going to be better replies than this, but this is just my opinion :/

I really would leave, but besides the fact that I truly enjoy going there (honestly, by friends, I meant the elderly there that I made friends with/have become very close with) there isn't really another volunteer place nearby and I'd have to go out further Thank you so much for your advice, it's appreciated

Yea seriously you shouldn't have given him your number. Better yet you coulda gave him a FAKE number. Wtf were you thinking? Anyways it's best that you find a different place to volunteer. If he ever shows up at your house, please do not hesitate to file a restraining order IMMEDIATELY.

Yeah I know, I'm really really f* stupid but honestly, I could imagine being in his shoes and asking someone for their number and getting rejected ... and that sucks, especially even more if it's a fake number T-T. Thanks for your advice.









I told my mom what's going on and she's really angry and wants to call him and scream at him or something, but I told her not to ... because I'd feel really bad for him if she did that. And plus I'd still have to see him at volunteer work so that'd be really awkward and like I mean I don't hate him, he's just really creepy and I don't mind him talking to me but him being really creepy scares me. I don't want him to hate me either, I just, for the most part, want him to leave me alone ...

[The Red Shoes]

Well, as for the phone when he calls you can have one of your family members answer and pretend it's the wrong number. And if he asks you why it's a wrong number just say you've been having a lot of problems with your phone and don't know why it's happening (also helps to keep your phone on silent so he doesn't catch you lying). That's only if you don't want to change you number. It's worked for me, it was such a hassle changing my number every year because of stalkers (yes, I can relate-- I don't give them my number, but they find out through other ways...like a class directory/roster which I can't really control). If you really enjoy working there, then you should really stress to your supervisor how you feel about what's going on. It is a serious matter, if anything should happen (heaven forbid), he will have to answer to a lot of people because after all you DID tell him about it. Does Oscar work or volunteer there? Can't you have the supervisor warn him?

[bombb_]

carry a weapon (or something to fend him off) with you at all times.
and when you see him, act reeeeeeeeeal rude.
if he touches you hit him off the hardest you can.
ignore him maybe?


idk..
but whoaaaaaaaaaa. id be freaked.

[Makaveli]

You seem young, so i'm going to tell you this..........You can't please everyone no matter how hard you try. On another note, he seems like a total creep and if you keep feeling bad for him and not being careful and taking any action bad things can happen. God forbid. Feel bad not giving him your number? It's YOUR number and YOU have the RIGHT not to give it to him if you don't want to. It's alright, nothing I say will change the way you think anyway. Some lessons just have to be learned the hard way sometimes.

[Nana.YahXD]

havent u heard dont give personal information out to strangers -__-;
i know the feeling of like making a person feel bad but if u had that feeling before hand about him being a stalker
why didnt u stop your self...

but yeah what i would suggest is that one day u do answer and pretend his got the wrong number
thats what i did ..

just change your voice alittle or get a friend to answer for you and be like you have the wrong number.
and i would like for you to stop calling me..
thats like the best u can do if not go get your number changed..

[Tee]

Aww! I'd be scared too if I were you!

Just act rude in front of him so he'll stop bothering you. Since you know...he might be interested in nice young girls D=
Maybe one day when you're brave enough you can sit down and have a little chat with him about it? Tell him how his actions make you feel uncomfortable. After that, if he continues to bother you, tell an adult. Are there any adults there besides the supervisor?

[Swtess]

so since most people here has already said everything to you nicely let me be the first to give you a slap.

yeah you were really stupid for giving him your number.
what i find even more stupid is that you'd feel sorry for him if you reject.
you serious? the guy is a creep to you and you want to avoid, but hey lets just give him your number since he asked, cause he'll feel sad if you don't.

i agree with one of the poster and just get a friend to answer and say its the wrong number.
next time, be a little smarter and don't give your numbers out to creeps.
trust me, they're not gonna be that sad if they get a rejection. rejections are just statistics to them

[damyoungji]

Like others have said, giving him your number was the biggest mistake. Giving a number to someone means that you are accepting them as a friend. But in a stalker's mind, it means, "He/she is telling me that he/she is keeping their options opened so that means I have a shot with her". Although your mom is on the verge of calling him and telling him to back off, it's good that she knows. You have to make sure people know where you are at all times right now so that if you disappear, they will take precaution.

There are stalkers out there who know when to call it the quits, and when not to. I have had a stalker before, but I won't go into detail since it has been solved. At this rate, it seems like your stalker does not know the boundaries between an adult and a pre-teen and someone who does not know how to show respect for someone. Definitely talk to your supervisor about it, so if it's possible, he will make schedules or something where the two of you are not there at the same time/day. On top of that, make sure that you don't volunteer so late and that someone (preferably an adult) is there to pick you up.

You can try being rude to him. Not in the, "I'm going to piss him off so he will leave me alone", but the, "I'm going to be blunt and tell him straight out to don't touch me". There was a stranger freaking out my friend and I about two months ago at a restaurant, and it was my first time faced with an issue similar to yours (well, that creeper was thinking about getting us drunk, getting our numbers, etc). I talked to my older sibling about this and she advised me when it came to situations like these, don't do anything to piss them off. But tell them straight off so that you do not want them hanging around anymore. If he doesn't stop and gets more touchy with you or whatever, you have the right to report him. You are underage and stalking is something the authorities will deal with.

[spiral_flare]

Umm WOW, you're not exaggerating at all. I'd be scared too.

I think though, that since your supervisor and mom knows at this point, it's not as bad as it would be if nobody knew. If you just keep on ignoring his calls, he might just give up and stop. But I don't know this guy, he could do anything. I don't really suggest that you be rude to him because he could be one of those psychos that will get really mad if someone they really like is rude to them. I mean, you never know. And I'm not trying to scare you even more or anything, just saying.

Trust me though, I know exactly how you feel. I've only had one stalker in my life and he knew EXACTLY where I lived, he even told me he was coming over once, but never did.
And I once met this REALLY REALLY creepy Asian guy over the internet who was in his 20s and I was 15 at the time. I was stupid so I gave him my picture and name. He said he was going to find and kidnap me (jokingly...but I was still scared) and he was like "I want to marry you" followed by some perverted stuff. I blocked him after that.

Good luck.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Got A Question buddy
What if that guy is a good looking guy? Will you still think this way?

[plegend2007]

Ok, first of all, you should talk to your supervisor and tell him straight up. Ask him to do something about it right away. It seems like he knows about it and won't do nothing about it....which is just sad and wrong. Something needs to be done right away because a guy like that can go physco on you and you don't nip that in the bud, it can get worse.

If your supervisor won't do anything about it and you are scared to death of that guy, if you live in the LA area, let me know, I'll be your Oppa, I'll bring some of my water polo teammates and we will pretend that he is a pinata(spanish) and put a beat down on that perverted S.O.B. I am dead serious about this.

I have a younger sister who is 16 and if that happened to her, you better believe that i will smack the yellow off his teeth and then some. One of the things that i hate the most is perverts praying on young innocent girls.

Btw, just to let you know, i am half Korean myself, i am 6' 4" 227lbs, i will scare the living crap out of him. Just tell him that i am your cousin. I do speak Korean fluently. If you need any more advice or help, just let me know.

*Do not confront him right away until you have other plans in the fold.

Take care and be safe.