[i.nvalidc.reditc.ard]

Let's say, there are three people, a girl and two guys. They three have been friends since they were born practically. The girl has always been good friends with both, although a little unaware of how much both will eventually mean to her. Now, she's going off to college, and they are both pressuring her to pick one of them. She likes the artsy boy, because he understands the way she feels, and they see the world the same, idealistic way. But if she goes with him, there won't be a good, secure path. Her parents, teachers, and counselor don't like this guy, but her friends do. The second guy is intelligent, wealthy, and going to have the best future out of the two--being a medical student. It's not that she doesn't like him because he presents the most sound future, but the future he presents also sounds suffocating and too rooted for her young heart. Her parents, teachers, and counselors love this guy, but her friends don't.

So, does she pick the artsy one who she needs more than anyone else, although the future for him is vague? Or should she pick the guy who her parents want her to be with because he's handsome, wealthy, and likely to have the most stable, prospective future? Is her heart too young and fickle and that's why she loves the artsy guy? So then should she be mature and pick the medical student? Or should she choose instant gratification, because maybe love will make up for it all?

Please help. Thank you. =)

[hiswendy]

I say why the hell does she need to choose now?
=/ They can't force her, either. She obviously doesn't know
what she wants herself so give her time until she can
really know what she really does want.

[ShadowMax76]

depends on the girl..
does she believe in the western ideal of love? to marry the one you love.
or the eastern ideal of marriage? to love the one you marry.

i'm starting to think that arranged marriages seem more logical.
live a secure life with a guy you can grow to love
rather than spend 7 years with a guy that makes you feel great for a while.

_ depends on what world of love you live in..
west or the east.

[hippiehop]

She should follow her heart. She's young enough to make some mistakes.

[YESUNGHWAITING!]

I say Artsy guy.
But then again, I really don't think you she should have to pick.

I guess, just let nature take it's course.

['Ashhh]

Well it all depends.
Who`s decision does she respect more
elders or friends (my question mark key isnt working =___= )

what does she value more
love or wealth

would she accept an insecure future even if it meant being with the one she loves

and

can she learn to love and forget

Answer those questions
add them up
and BAM you have your answer.

I would go with the one I love though.
There`s really no point on forcing oneself to love a person just because he has a secure future or because your parents are telling you to love him because of his respectability and wealth.

[meili_al]

I say why the hell does she need to choose now?
=/ They can't force her, either. She obviously doesn't know
what she wants herself so give her time until she can
really know what she really does want.

agreed.


Not that I speak from experience, but I just wanted to give my two cents.

I think it's a little unfair that they're pressuring her to choose either of them.
Why are they making her choose now?
Is it just because she's going to college?
If so, that seems a bit immature.

I know a lot of people say this, but she's still young and she's probably going to meet new people in college.
If her feelings for either of the boys continues, maybe she should choose to develop a relationship with one.
She shouldn't rush into these types of things since so many people and their feelings are involved.

Then again, the girl has to think about her own feelings.
Does she "love" either of them or is this just because of the pressure?
Have these feelings just recently developed?
How will this affect the relationship between the three of them?

The general idea is that she isn't obligated to choose either of them.

Hopefully this was somewhat helpful.

Good luck.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

This is so lame.
You really think a medical student will give you a good income?

A rich guy, whoever smart and good he is, will never succeed if he doesn't act like one.

Just because he does Medical stuff and is intelligent, doesn't mean he will be smart.


And who are we to choose? It should be your choice.

[forgottenmemories]

I say, she should pick whoever she like/love. Who cares about friends, teachers, and parents? They're not the one who will be spending most of their time with him.

[The Red Shoes]

What about love day after tomorrow? Why does it have to be just these two guys? Someone else may come along the way and be more right for her than either of them.

[colloquy]

Of course, in the ideal situation, she marries the one that she loves... but to look at this logically...

A medical student? I wonder WHY people think that being married to a doctor is smooth sailing... he's going to be called in the middle of the night, skip dinner, possibly have to skip Valentine's Day night because somebody got into a car accident, etc. Also, it takes years for him to hit the jackpot, and before then, you're swamped with medical school debt and he's never going to be home.

Therefore, she probably shouldn't marry the medical student unless she's on the path of becoming a doctor or a nurse. I lived in a neighborhood packed with doctors - and let me tell you, most of them were married to other doctors or nurses. There must be a reason for that.

How do you know that the artsy student won't be more successful than the medical student? He could become the next Picasso or Jackson Pollock for all we know. Depends on his level of talent.

So, in order to make this decision, it's simple: the one you like the most/believe in the most. It's not like this is the 1950's where women don't bring in the income here.

[soma]

Umm, why does she have to choose now?
I say she ditch those two guys and experience college.
She's starting new and she'd be meeting many new people.
It's not like she's forced to marry either one of the two guys.

[chocopocky]

What is this..

a marriage contract?
"Choose me or else"

Please, ditch them both and enjoy the single life.

Let the girl chooses whoever she pleases. Whatever her heart wants.

[mintywinter]

Tell that girl to study hard and find a well-paying job, so she won't have to rely on her (eventual) husband's income.

Anyway, isn't it a bit too early to start deciding who to marry? She should just go out with the one she really loves. There's no guarantee that you'll she'll marry him anyway, especially considering you're she's just entering college... a lot can change.

[Regrets]

it's all up to her
she should just follow her heart.

[i.nvalidc.reditc.ard]

Yeah, not choosing either, or being able to follow her heart would be ideal. But it's been her parent's agenda for her to like--eventually wed--the medical student. The artsy guy, they don't hate because he's an apt artist, but they find him less likely to be material at social gatherings. Both want an answer because they are going different routes in their lives (being older than the girl). If the girl chooses the artsy guy, then they're going to France. If she chooses the medical student, they are going to a public Ivy college in a different state.

[chilovesjj]

depends on the girl..
does she believe in the western ideal of love? to marry the one you love.
or the eastern ideal of marriage? to love the one you marry.

i'm starting to think that arranged marriages seem more logical.
live a secure life with a guy you can grow to love
rather than spend 7 years with a guy that makes you feel great for a while.

Really good response imo ^^ Interesting~
I suppose for people who grow up with one ideal, it can be hard to understand the other ideal.
I agree though- whatever the girl believes in, she should follow.
I know that I would never marry a guy (or NOT marry a guy, for that matter) just because a certain bunch of people
(be it friends or family or other) wanted me to/didn't want me to.
Marriage is between you and the person you marry so.. make the choice you're happiest with. ^^

Also.. if she's not able to make a choice right now (or just doesn't want to), they shouldn't force her.
She doesn't HAVE to choose one if neither are what she really wants. There are many other guys out there xD

Money doesn't = happiness though, just thought I'd mention that.
Plus what other posters have said about the debt, the crappy hours, getting called out at inconvenient times, getting off late.
My mum's a nurse, gets called in at random times of the day or night for emergencies, often gets off late..
(she's supposed to finish at 5, she's come home as late as 10 or 11pm before.. -.-). And she's only part-time. So. Yeah xD

[swtfirefly]

This reminds me of some kdrama. O_O
But just tell the girl to follow her heart

[heheimawesome]

Tell the artsy guy to become an architect? They make a lot of money don't they?

[xblush]

Tell her to finish her education and come back with a clearer decision...
also, she shouldn't really base it on the future, because the future can change.
be with who makes her happy now. the future can be built by the both of them.
dont just depend on the guy for a great future.