[jenny_nguyen]

I go to an international school and there is this guy who is really hot in my school. Students and even teachers in my school think he is good-looking and everything. However, I personally think that he is not cute at all. And he is lazy and not really smart. The only thing he has is money which I doesn't even care about. This guy has a really bad reputation with girl and he is a real player. Last month, he started hitting on me. We had four periods together and he sat next to me in 2 periods. He always tried to hold my hand and everything. At first, I just didn't realize that he was hitting on me (coz I have never had a boyfriend before) so I just thought that maybe that was just friendly behavior (I am really open-minded on holding hand with boys coz all my best friends are boys so I don't mind holding hand with them). Then, we chatted and he started calling me every night. He said he liked me and everything. However I accidentally knew that he had just been chucked by his girlfriend 4 days before he started hitting on me. So I asked him whether he just saw me as a rebounce and he said that he wouldn't hurt me and everything. Then, he said he wanted to hug me and I said unless he truly loved me or else I wouldn't let him touch me ever. He always waited for me after school so he could follow me to find out where my house is. He texted and called me every night, saying that he missed me and everything. However, I didnt believe him because I accidentally found out his blog on which there was this girl who commented that she loved him and everything. I checked her blog and found out that he replied her that he loved her and called her honey and he commented almost everything he had texted me, and the date of those comments is really recent, mostly during the time he was hitting on me. And he asked me out on a date for 3 times but I refused all 3 times so he kind of got the signal that I didnt want to be with him. However, he still called me, saying that I was so cold coz I never answer his feeling. And he still acted like he really liked me and everything.
I am really tired of him now so please advise me on how to tell him that I know everything about him and the other girl. I don't want to keep going on with these kind of time-consuming thing. By the way, he is really popular in my school so I don't want people look at me like a traitor when I refuse him.
Thank you for reading my long post. I really appreciate it.

[Daikirai]

"Just because some people love you, it doesn't mean that the entire world does!"
-paraphrased quote from ToGetHer (Rainie Yang)

Tell him to stop hitting on you because you know he hits on all the other girls.

[s a t a n g *]

just start to avoid him a bit by bit...
if he keeps on hitting on you and you keep rejecting he'll get over it..
as you said he's a player so he'll prob find another girl

i feel sorry for you having to go through this

[Tuxedomask]

Or threaten a restraining order on him. hehe...

That will get through to him.

[jenny_nguyen]

I told him that I knew he flirted with a lot of girl and he replied that he just talked with them because he thought that was friendly. I am very stressed out because of him and I just wondered why he picked me in the first place.

[RedSunsFC]

Delete.

[izzy015]

Block his phone calls and texts. Does your phone company have that feature where it can block everything from a certain number? Also, you said that you have boys as best friends right? Try asking them for help?

[jenny_nguyen]

@RedSunsFC: I literally screamed at him for several times but he just ignored me and kept doing whatever he preferred T___T.
@izzy015: All of my best friends are at my hometown. I go to school in a different city. Therefore I can't ask them for help .
@Daikirai: Love the quote .

[FallenSkies]

Yeah, there was this really annoying guy that used to bother me all the time. I ignored him and finally he stopped bothering me. So yeah just ignore him. I was really pissed to the point that i told my mom that if he bothers me again ima call her and tell her to tell him to stop bothering me. Good thing he stopped before i went that far lol.
Print out the page with the comments and show it to him as proof. Be all like "And how do you explain this?" Then walk away. lol

[RedSunsFC]

Delete.

[Regrets]

just try and avoid him slowly.
He's a player. he'd find someone other girl

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

MY BRILLIANT IDEA:

yea so he's popular rite.
Well, you could do the good ol Slap Him on the face technique.
Then everyone will see you as a traitor, and obviously, this is really starting to be like BOYS BEFORE FLOWERS.

And there's bound to be one other guy who will be nice and protect you.

and you get your drama. Wonderful to have a drama in your life isn't it??


Or well if that's too risky for you, then you can always confront him about that other girl. And ask why and stuff.
That's a good enough reason for you to not like him. whatever he said to you.
And then don't forget to visit his blog and write OWNED to his comments. Using anonymous member of course

[mintywinter]

Block him, ignore him, and don't go anywhere alone with him. And:

So I asked him whether he just saw me as a rebounce and he said that he wouldn't hurt me and everything. Then, he said he wanted to hug me and I said unless he truly loved me or else I wouldn't let him touch me ever.

I think I see the problem here. Maybe you've already done this, but you need to tell him DIRECTLY, OUTRIGHT, that you are not interested in him romantically at all (tell him in private of course). Saying that you would let him touch you if he truly loved you is like saying "I want to go out with you, it's just that I'm not sure if you really love me." Same with asking if he just sees you as a "rebounce". That just gives him the impression that you are interested somewhat, that you're just ignoring him now because he seems flaky. For the same reason, I don't think you should use your knowledge of him flirting with some other girl against him. Again, it would make it seem like you would go out with him if only he wasn't a player. You need to make it very clear that you not interested in him at all.

Now, if your classmates ostracize you for rejecting him, it's really unreasonable. After all, sometimes people just don't get along romantically. And there's no reasoning with unreasonable people. The best you can do is try to keep it private with that guy and hope he doesn't spread it all over the school (which yeah, he might, if he's as bad as you describe him). You could print out the comments on the blogs too, so if your classmates do turn against you, you could use them as a "valid" explanation for why you don't want to go out with him (but it's a last resort--see what I said in the previous paragraph about how it might send the wrong message).

[Seraphyx]

That sucks, you have a guy who thinks he's good with girls when he really isn't. Some guys just don't get the negative signals that a girl sends because they are too caught up being a player. You just have to tell him straight up and don't fuel his fire.

[jenny_nguyen]

@ 한스 ㅋㅋ : My sister and cousin talks about the same brilliant idea (BOF) but i really doubt it would happen in my case. Somehow I feel like I will never be that lucky.
@ mintywinter: I told him that I was not interested in him but he replied that I just lied to myself and him. He said that I was just playing hard to get.
@ all: This guy is really stubborn and self-centered.

[mintywinter]

@ 한스 ㅋㅋ : My sister and cousin talks about the same brilliant idea (BOF) but i really doubt it would happen in my case. Somehow I feel like I will never be that lucky.
@ mintywinter: I told him that I was not interested in him but he replied that I just lied to myself and him. He said that I was just playing hard to get.
@ all: This guy is really stubborn and self-centered.

In that case, all you can really do is ignore him from now on. He'll give up if he can't provoke a reaction from you.
Do tell a teacher if he keeps harassing you.

[quyennypoo]

Don't waste your time on boys who like the chases...he likes the fact that you day no so he comes back to persuade you. Dudes a player so don't bother with him...and seriously you wouldn't let a guy hug you unless he loved you...thats a bit extreme right? well whatever floats your boat

take care

Quyen

[gthao]

the key is to ignore..at least that works for me..but idk..either jus tell him off by tellin him that u noe or jus ignore..both ways should work..

[MaryMagdalin]

just tell him what you told us.
that you know he`s still in love with his ex and until that goes away you dont want anything to happen

[hippiehop]

He is such a player. Ignore this guy. Don't get involved with him no matter how hard he tries.