[BlazingSkies]

UPDATE on last post... scroll to bottom?
another update 03/10/09 post

Well there is this girl, lets called her Carrie. And there is this girl, lets call her Angel. Well anyway, there is this girl I wanted to ask out; which was Carrie. For a few months already I tried stuff like: asking her to share her locker with me, held the door for her once after chemistry class, saying hello across the cafeteria tables at lunch once, asking her to go HANG OUT on valentine's day, asking her to walk home with me on half school day. Every time I asked Carrie about something she wouldn't be able to do it/go... because of reasons like; "I already share my locker with Kevin, our 2 coat jackets take up enough space... or it's too cold after school to walk home, and I get hungry around 11 AM... or sorry I don't know whether my family is coming over that day or not". These failures are making me not as attracted as before... =( (BY THE WAY this is the girl I asked about in the 1st THREAD I made on these forums...)

ANYWAY there is another girl, she is called Angel. We met for like 5 minutes last year, but this year she is in like 2 of my classes (2 from last semester) this semester. We talk a lot and I think she is very cute... enough to make a guy scream like a girl lol. Me and her usually go after school to a library and study together. I don't know but I feel more attracted to her, is that a bad thing because she knows I like Carrie, but I keep failing to ask Carrie out... anyway Angel came to my country about last year from China. She told me she has a BF in china... and they are having a long distance relationship. She visits china every summer so she'll see him next summer I guess. I don't know what to do... I feel more embarrassed around her more than before... can anyone help? Should I stop studying with her? I dunno... but I have noticed I am getting more sleep/managing time better because I get to study with her at the library.

btw this is high school... grd 11

[ShadowMax76]

x_X' keep friendly distance from both girls..

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[hallokitty]

Angel, you should give up. She has a boyfriend. Stop trying to steal someone's girlfriend.
I hate people who try's to snatch other's girlfriend/boyfriend. Do u want someone to do that to u one day?

Also Carrie, well maybe instead of making the move, why don't u just be friends.. and get to know her on a personal level. Most people don't fall in love so easily, it take time, through getting to know the person. And that i mean "chatting".

[<3StrawberryPocky<3]

I agree with hallokitty!! Maybe....you shouldn't stick around Angel....TOO much...so don't isolate yourself from her but avoid spending some quality alone time with her. Considering the studying time with her is beneficial for you, maybe you should bring along a friend, too, that way, you're not alone in the quiet, romantic, library with her. Hehehe. Because....her having a boyfriend is pretty much a big "BACK OFF MAN" sign. Hahah. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want your girlfriend to be snatched away!! ^^ For Carrie...you should be friends with her first, and then then build off of that, BUT NOT TOO FAST!! SHESH, GUYS ARE SO FAST SOMETIMES. Lol. My friend use to like this guy, but he told her, "Um....I'm not interested in girls.. yet." And then......she hung out with him everyday and became close friends with him... AND...... now, he's seriously crazy about her. Lol. GOOD LUCK WITH CARRIE!!!

[donporkuloin]

Carrie just isn't interested. Flat out. Keep it moving on that one. If you keep trying? She's just going to play games with you, and it's going to leave you frustrated, upset, etc. Stay friends with Angel, but lose the thought of wanting to be in a relationship with her. Gain interest in other girls.

[chopstick^^]

There are some people who think it's not possible to kill a feeling, but it is...

Here are the possible feelings i can kill automatically:
- someone who has a girlfriend
- my cousin
- married man

Because they are against my own moral.
& i agree with the poster ere

[BlazingSkies]

Here is an update guys...
Angel, since she knows I like Carrie, told me to ask her out for the Spring break... and I really didn't want to, my feelings for her died off after all those failures. Anyway, I asked her out, and she said something like, "I am too busy, my family is coming over... and all that stuff." This is obviously her way of being nice w/o saying straight out, NO. Then a few days later Angel asks her what she is doing over the spring break and she says, pretty much nothing. So I easily cut off all ties with Carrie. She just has no interest in me.

Anyway, me and Angel still go the library daily, and I have a lot of fun while studying... I REALLY look forward to after schools these days, my marks are improving (even though I try to compete with her with marks); I help her on the HW and she helps me on mine. She is like my ideal girl... she's cute, smart, and likes to talk a lot! I really don't prefer the shy quiet type. But I know she has a BF half the world away (LD relationship), and I can imagine how her BF feels about her and vice-versa, even though they are apart. If I spend more time with Angel, my heart if going to explode... maybe I just go home directly after school... I tell myself every night that she has BF in my head, and say to myself, that I don't like her repetitively.

Anyone got a good solution to the problem?

[YESUNGHWAITING!]

Ahhh, I'm sorry.
I'd say, try your hardest to get over her and see her as a friend only.

[hallokitty]

Well, stop flirting and then ur stop having feelings. Angel should stop flirting too. & act like a friend.

Do u think Angel has feelings for u?

I dont think Carrie likes u, if she doesn't know u well. How can u expect someone to be ur girlfriend, if she hasn't even got any feelings for u? .. She barely know's u. Some girl's don't like to be in awkward situation, and like feeling's to grow smoothly.

[angels.disguise]

keep your distance from Angel.
she may be your "ideal girl"
but she already has a boyf.

if you can, wait until her
relationship with her boyf is over
before you make any inappropriate move

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

dude, you're HS.
Go for Angel.
Long distance relationship is bs (no offense anyone), might as well just steal from him.
You never even know whether her bf already got a secret gf over there or not.

Wroth trying Angel, if she loves her other bf so much she wouldn't like you, simple as that.


It's only HS, LDR never ever works, it's the lamest time to have ldr. Unless you're college, then okay that's reasonable.

[hallokitty]

^ How can u use HS as a "good" excuse to steal someone's gf? .. That's just choosing to be ignorant. But it seem's like u know better. It not fine thing to do no matter what age u r.

[bellyy.loo]

dont pursue on with angel. she has a bf.
just be friends with carrie with no other agenda.

[BlazingSkies]

here is another update***

anyway i cut all links with Carrie, and Angel knows I don't like her anymore. she just has no interest in me... looking back at it, I don't know WHY THE HECK I liked Carrie anyway. She didn't even suit my type...

i decided to still go to the library with her, and plan to support her and her BF, even though I want to be her boyfriend myself... i don't know if she hates me or not; we talk a lot and sometimes she would say you're annoying or I hate you... and sometimes she would say something and I would say I hate you... well anyway if her mom i still giving me rides home i guess its not a bad thing
i decided to this because when i put myself in her boyfriend's spot, i would believe with all my might that she likes me, as much as i like her; i know it would be wrong to say "can you leave him for me..."
if i can make her happy while waiting in Canada... then its fine for me

am i doing something wrong or what...

i thank you guys so much for your advice!