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Please help TT^TT

My boyfriend and my best friend, named Jada, don't get along at all. They would argue every two seconds. Everytime I would pass by Jada while walking to class, the first thing she would say is "your boyfriend is an a**hole." It's really irritating. No offense, but Jada usually starts it. She would step on his foot, call him an idiot and tells me, in front of him, "what do you say in this jerk?". Sometimes she would steal his hat and drop it on the floor for him to pick it up, or threaten to drop it in a puddle. He also tends to fight back, by telling her to shut up and calling her the a**hole. And today, he got pissed. So he was like "I am so sick of fighting with you, everytime I try to be nice you end up calling me stupid, dumb, or an a**hole. Why can't you just shut the f*** up? Your the one who is starting it so stop! No wonder Nicky (btw Nicky is Jada's crush), doesn't like you." Then she walked away. Then when he walked away, she ran up to me and said "what do you see in this jerk? I can't believe you said yes to him. your boyfriend's a jacka**. god I hate him." I was silent the whole time. Cause they always fight like this. Plus, my friend (different person), said that I changed when I started going out with him. Then my friend Jada (once again) tells me I should dump him because he's a jerk and he's changing me". Jada even told everyone that he was "corrupting" me.

I really like him, but sometimes he would annoy my friends, and I don't want to lose some friends because of some guy, otherwise I wouldn't be a good friend. It's kind of sad because most of my friends don't really like him, or they find him annoying. However, they're not telling me everyday "your boyfriend's an a**hole." Like Jada. Jada is my best friend, and I don't want her to think I care about him more than her. Oh well, I guess people react differently to different situations.

Anyways, what should I do ?
Sorry if this is pretty hard to follow. I think I made this a bit confusing xD

[littlejade]

no offense, but it looks like she's flirting. Or.. she is jealous that he is taking u away from her.
It can happen, some close friend's feel jealous. because ur not the same as u used to be. n they miss u.
I think u should assure ur friend that things won't change. and ur still be the same.

why do ur friends hate him anyways? .. what did he do?

[elicasis]

Hi sorry but if there's really nothing wrong with your boyfriend, why do most of your friends not like him?

And well I think it doesn't matter as long as you like him. Tell your friends what you just posted, tell them that you really like him but you don't want to neglect them as well and that it's tearing you apart

[smileyface(;]

no offense, but it looks like she's flirting. Or.. she is jealous that he is taking u away from her.
It can happen, some close friend's feel jealous. because ur not the same as u used to be. n they miss u.
I think u should assure ur friend that things won't change. and ur still be the same.

why do ur friends hate him anyways? .. what did he do?

I'm not actually sure why they hate him. They just think he's annoying.

[littlejade]

U mentioned, they said he's "corrupting u"?... so do u think u've changed? ..

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U mentioned, they said he's "corrupting u"?... so do u think u've changed? ..

Not all of them, Jada is just exaggerating. To be honest, I think I have changed a little, but the way Jada says it seems like he brainwashed me .

[colloquy]

Okay, what I think is that your best friend probably dislikes your boyfriend because she thinks he's changed you, and also probably because he's distracting your attention away from her.

I think you should just talk to your friend and tell her it bothers you when you two argue, etc.

[littlejade]

Not all of them, Jada is just exaggerating. To be honest, I think I have changed a little, but the way Jada says it seems like he brainwashed me .

Has it alway's been this way, that they argurin? .. or they started arguring ever since u both dated? ...
Maybe u should spend some time n hang out with ur friends, n not just spend time with ur boyfriend only.

How about organizing a day out like shopping, or woteva (something u all can do together and its fun) n tell them your all invited, but u have to get along, if not ur cancel it. & see what happens. It's best they all get along.

Games normally break the ice. If u can think of stuff to do together.

[smileyface(;]

Has it alway's been this way, that they argurin? .. or they started arguring ever since u both dated? ...
Maybe u should spend some time n hang out with ur friends, n not just spend time with ur boyfriend only.

How about organizing a day out like shopping, or woteva (something u all can do together and its fun) n tell them your all invited, but u have to get along, if not ur cancel it. & see what happens. It's best they all get along.

I spend time with my friends more than I spend time with him. Sometimes, we all hang out together. But then him and Jada always get into an argument.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Lol they're probably jealous lol

anyways, is your bf really that bad? I mean how have you changed?

[smileyface(;]

Lol they're probably jealous lol

anyways, is your bf really that bad? I mean how have you changed?

To be honest, I don't know. I talked to her on MSN. Here is what happened :

jada, you know how you said that he has been somewhat corrupting me ?
Jada skii trip was fun says:
ys
ya
elsiee_<3 says:
you only gave one example..
what's your other proof ?
Jada skii trip was fun says:
i cant explain it in words .
elsiee_<3 says:
why not ?
its not that hard o_o
Jada skii trip was fun says:
i just cant
elsiee_<3 says:
ummm okay..


rawrr. That doesn't help much T__T

[littlejade]

Lol @ the msn convo. I think Jada just making up story's and he's not corrupting u. If u don't think ur being corrupt, then your not. I think corrupt in another word is just "change" .. and maybe it's just a feeling that words can't explain.

I don't think there is anything wrong with ur bf from the sound of it, u did mentioned he said "when i try to be nice" ... therefore, they are the one who start @t this.

[Juli~<3]

i dont think the problem lies within your boyfriend.. maybe just your best friend and the others.
jealousy does play a part spec if they're still single
and to be honest you like him, so just tell them that straight.
like fine they can have their own opinions but theres a time when enough is enough and you have to put your foot down.
if she was really that good a friend she wouldn't be calling him such names and she'd sit you down and tell you seriously and honestly what may be bothering her.
a good friend should be happy for you.

[CitrusFlower]

If she's hating on him their gotta be a reason but if she refuses to tell you theirs really no proof that he's an ass like she says

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

To be honest, I don't know. I talked to her on MSN. Here is what happened :

jada, you know how you said that he has been somewhat corrupting me ?
Jada skii trip was fun says:
ys
ya
elsiee_<3 says:
you only gave one example..
what's your other proof ?
Jada skii trip was fun says:
i cant explain it in words .
elsiee_<3 says:
why not ?
its not that hard o_o
Jada skii trip was fun says:
i just cant
elsiee_<3 says:
ummm okay..


rawrr. That doesn't help much T__T

That's lame.
Shes basically telling you to either Pick Him or them.
There's probably nothing wrong with your bf, maybe they're just jealous. How old are you guys lol.
If you're under 16 then i'd say jealous.

if not then, I'd tell your bf to say sorry to her first (DOUBT HE WILL THO LOLZ), and if she still keeps bothering him, now we know who's fault it is.
Well your bf been annoying your friend, so tell him to stop that, and say sorry, and if your other friend still bothers him, then like I said before lol.

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I am sixteen. He already said sorry, however she kept on bothering him. I don't know why T__T

[littlejade]

Do u think she likes him? ... i mean, why would she tease him... maybe she find it fun.
Or maybe they jealous coz u got a boyfriend and she don't.

[bhaby gurl]

sorry i dont mean to ask this but do you think your bestfriend likes you boyfriend???

i mean like when the two of you guys(you and your bestfriend) talk on MSN you asked her about the corrupting thing

she said that she cant explain it in words well maybe that explains it

and

you spend most of your time with them and spend less with you bf so whats their problem right???

[iamzen]

Maybe deep down inside she likes him...

[cowsie]

Is she a tomboy? I used to have a friend that was like that but not to an extreme where she always picks on a fight first. It looks like shes either jealous or envy that you have a relationship. DO you spend more time with him than her? Maybe she thinks you are spending a lot of time with the boyfriend instead of the best friend. Try talking to her. If she is your best friend then you should confront and talk to her.