[michikosashimi]

lately, theres this rumor going around.
that my someone was still dating someone else,
while dating me. so thats two timing, i guess...
i don't know if its true or not.
because the rumours started with his closest friends.
and it spread and got to me. i dont even know if
its a rumour. i need advice on how to confront him,
and ask him if its true or not TT_________TT help?

[Aimiko]

I'd just ask it in a jokingly way. This is what I would say:

"Hey, guess what I heard? I heard a rumor that you were dating someone else while dating me too. Kind of a stupid rumor, don't you think?
Because I know that you're not the type of guy who would cheat on me. So, I just don't understand why people can't mind with their own business. "

After saying this, I would wait for his respond..but this is what I would do though. :|

[WoopieDaDoo]

I'd just ask it in a jokingly way. This is what I would say:

"Hey, guess what I heard? I heard a rumor that you were dating someone else while dating me too. Kind of a stupid rumor, don't you think?
Because I know that you're not the type of guy who would cheat on me. So, I just don't understand why people can't mind with their own business. "

After saying this, I would wait for his respond..but this is what I would do though. :|

Haha, that's a smart one. I like that one. =)
Maybe it'll work =P

[Lightn3ss]

yeah but it's weird because its a rumor spread by his closest friends. Maybe its real..
you should try what aimiko proposes, its a great idea. hope its a good answer

[michikosashimi]

I'd just ask it in a jokingly way. This is what I would say:

"Hey, guess what I heard? I heard a rumor that you were dating someone else while dating me too. Kind of a stupid rumor, don't you think?
Because I know that you're not the type of guy who would cheat on me. So, I just don't understand why people can't mind with their own business. "

After saying this, I would wait for his respond..but this is what I would do though. :|

great idea;
but i dont have the courage to even ask TT_TT

yeah but it's weird because its a rumor spread by his closest friends. Maybe its real..

thats what i thought too. x__x

[Lightn3ss]

its still could be a joke.. how old is your bf's friends??

[michikosashimi]

its still could be a joke.. how old is your bf's friends??

he's 16, but he hangs out with more older people.
his friends are like about 19-20. and i dont really think
people at that age joke around with this type of things.

[RYUUSEi]

You just straight out ask him, "I heard some rumours and I want to hear it from you wether they're true or not." Don't accuse him of anything, just ask him if they're true or not in a way that won't offend him so that he won't take it as if you don't trust him, you know? Just tell him, "If you say that it's not true then I believe you, I just want to hear it from you."

Nobody JOKES about something like this unless they're idiots.

[michikosashimi]

You just straight out ask him, "I heard some rumours and I want to hear it from you wether they're true or not." Don't accuse him of anything, just ask him if they're true or not in a way that won't offend him so that he won't take it as if you don't trust him, you know? Just tell him, "If you say that it's not true then I believe you, I just want to hear it from you."

Nobody JOKES about something like this unless they're idiots.

this is a good one.
yep, childish idiots D:

[Lightn3ss]

yea that's why i asked their age o.O, if they are like 15 it could be a joke.... but 19,20 i dont think tis a joke

[sweetxsimple]

Or maybe because they just want to get to your head?



Idk. I'd go with what Aimiko said. Except when you say it, say it playfully. And if you can sense some tension in his voice, well. You got your answer. If not, yay.

[&rea]

I think if you ask him in a childish way, he could just brush it off and could easily get past that question if it's true. I think you should try what RYUUSEi said because you're actually confronting him about this problem and not just trying to trick him into getting a reaction. Tell him that something's been on your mind that you want to talk about and don't, in any way, put him on the defensive. Try to make it a discussion rather than an "interrogation".

Tell us how it works out (:

[michikosashimi]

I think if you ask him in a childish way, he could just brush it off and could easily get past that question if it's true. I think you should try what RYUUSEi said because you're actually confronting him about this problem and not just trying to trick him into getting a reaction. Tell him that something's been on your mind that you want to talk about and don't, in any way, put him on the defensive. Try to make it a discussion rather than an "interrogation".

Tell us how it works out (:

i just realized only his friends
that are older are saying it.
and his friends who are my age,
and sort of knows me
for sometime (but we're not close)
says he didnt have a girlfriend when he met me
and asked me out. ahh. im so confused TT_TT

[&rea]

i just realized only his friends
that are older are saying it.
and his friends who are my age,
and sort of knows me
for sometime (but we're not close)
says he didnt have a girlfriend when he met me
and asked me out. ahh. im so confused TT_TT

Maybe he's trying to look cool to his older friends or maybe he's lying to his younger friends.
The fact is that we don't know and he does, so I really think that the only option is for you to talk to him about it.
If he didn't do anything, there's no reason for him to be upset because it's not that you don't trust him,
it's that you've been hearing weird stories and would just like to clarify things. Hope everything goes well (:

[michikosashimi]

Maybe he's trying to look cool to his older friends or maybe he's lying to his younger friends.
The fact is that we don't know and he does, so I really think that the only option is for you to talk to him about it.
If he didn't do anything, there's no reason for him to be upset because it's not that you don't trust him,
it's that you've been hearing weird stories and would just like to clarify things. Hope everything goes well (:

thanks for the advice :]
i just hope it isnt true TT_TT

[C4Y [[Crazy 4 YeongSaeng]]]

did you hear it from his close friends, or from other people who said his close friends said it?
because i feel like you're playing the telephone game, and you wont get a straight answer until you approach your bf about it.
you can ask yourself all you want, but best idea is just ask him straight up.
like the other people said, you can just play it cool and be playful about it.
and definetly dont accuse him of anything, since there's no solid proof neways.
so just ask him "i heard a funny rumor about you cheating on me. so who's the other lucky girl?"
haha that would be a silly way to relieve the tension you might be feeling :]
but just wait for his repsonse and see how he approaches it.

if you dont accuse him, and he gets mad, something might be up.
but if hes just cool about it and gives a good answer, then you should be okay, hopefully :]
good luck!

[L.FOR.LOVE]

ask him to be sure what;s going on
dont joke around or else yeah :S

[mal3ficum]

"If you say that it's not true then I believe you, I just want to hear it from you."

i would say that too so it doesnt sound like youre accusing him. and maybe ask his friends too?

[pochacco]

Just bring it up casually. Don't act all accusingly, otherwise if it isn't true he's gonna be really mad that you didn't trust him.

[michikosashimi]

and maybe ask his friends too?

his older friends doesnt really like me.
because they think that he's dating someone else.
and they disapprove of us i guess.