[chocolateturtle]

So I just moved into this apartment since the girl that I replaced for, told me there were no smokers/parties and such. Few days later, I find out there's one girl that smokes hookah in the house all the time. I asked her if she could smoke less and she said she'd definitely smoke once a week with the door open and such...It was like that for two weeks until she started smoking 2-4 times a week again and I started getting mad headaches and coughing with the smoke because it was just so unbearable.

I went to have a talk with her again or rather she approached me about the smoke before the house meeting and she said she told everyone in the house that they were fine with her smoking...and that she'd keep it to a minimal once a week. And I was fine with it, but then she says she's going to smoke her again (her 2nd time that week) after we had the settlement...I'm like...what the hell? So I let it slide again, and that night, she and her friends smoke again at around 2 am...at that point I was pissed that she's not keeping to her agreement so I leave the apartment to sleep at another friend's place at 3 AM. I left a note if we could have a talk again, and when she came down to talk, she said I really have no say 'cause I'm not on the lease and such and that she's just being nice. I'm like wtf....I'm paying 2x more her rent. So I got the forms and have everyone's signature, now I'm on the lease but the thing was, she only agreed to signing it if she could smoke once a week and so I agreed. And even after she signs it, she wants to smoke again, for the 4th time this week, and so I'm really like, WTF.

I went to talk with my housemates individually, and each of them said they never recalled having a discussion with her smoking whether they were fine with it or not, none of them wanted the smoke in the house either but none of them wanted to get involve with her because of her tempermental and violent behavior ...she really screams, yells, throw things to get her ways... she's a very dominant person. I don't know what to do with a person that doesn't respect another person's health, I just want her to smoke outside but she makes bs excuses that I'm selfish that I just came in late since no one had a problem with it earlier(everyone is just afraid of her), it's cold outside, etc. What do I do....if she smokes again, or starts smoking 2-3 times a week(not keeping her word), should I report her to management, then she will know it's me...and start throwing very violent tantrums which I don't need. What can I do T_T?

Edit: i dont want her to quit smoking, just for her to smoke outside.

[hallokitty]

Well, you already talk to her about it. It was the agreement and she broke it. So you have the right to tell her, if she continue, then u want your money back & u should move somewhere else.

I think u can't really control someone, it's their life & isn't really our business. It doesn't seem like she would quit smoking either. But u can leave, if your unhappy staying in that flat. It better she quits, but she isn't.

Well since she & her frd's broke the rules, they should be the one leaving the flat, but i doubt the landlord want them to leave since their are more of them to pay the rent, and 1 of u.

Can u keep us updated, i like to see how things go.

[faithpuppy]

Hmm, she does sound like an intimidating person... but if you think about it, you have two options:
a) let her smoke tell management:

if you keep letting her smoke in the house, more than once a week, then you and everybody else is going to suffer, plus even if she didn't smoke, there's the problem of her being violent. If you tell management, yes she'll get violent.... but then you have a chance of getting rid of the smoking problem. And her yelling and screaming?? get ear plugs [I'm serious... or turn the music up in your head] her throwing things? well that just makes her case worse with the management. Plus do you really want her smoking habit and behaviour to affect you, your health, and your life?? I don't think you'd want to come home everyday and think 'I really don't want to sleep here tonight...'

[CAprd]

Are you sure it's hookah? Hookah isn't really pungent and smoky.

[bellyy.loo]

you shouldnt be afraid of her. if its affecting your heath, you should be assertive to her. give her an ultimatum and say that if she doesnt go outside to smoke, you'll report her to management.