[LOVE&FREEDOM_beautyofX]

Hey guys! I just need your opinion. I'd appreciate no bashing.

I'm a senior in high school and as I'm getting notified by colleges, I'm not sure where to go. My boyfriend wants me to go to this school with him & he wants us to get married in like 2 years too. Is this a stupid decision? I know that I could go to a much better school too. Also, in this specific school he wants to go to, he's planning on getting an apartment instead of dorming and he wants us to live together.

BTW, we've been going out for over 1 year & a half .. Almost reaching 600 days!

Don't get me wrong, I love him to death but life has no guarantees and I don't want to risk ruining my own life (sorry if that sounds really selfish but yeah)

Anybody have personal experiences? Info? Thanks so much.

[ShadowMax76]

love alone in life isn't enough
logic is essential.

there's no point in being quiet if you have an opinion.
especially if it's about your goals in life.

_ specifically.. yeah. the way you put it sounds reasonable to question his decision.

o-0' good luck explaining it to him.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Don't follow him.
If he really loves you, doesn't even matter what school you go to anyway.

[iamzen]

sigh, its your future. are you willing to put it on the line. i dated this girl for four year. So she says were gona get marry and have kids. Then in the end she screws me over and cheated on me and then left me.i didn't go to the college i wanted to, but instead i just stayed in new york so we would be closer to each other. Nothing is guaranteed in life. You only live once. make the best choice for yourself. at times you have to be selfish. If you two were ment to be, no matter the distance you two will still be together. if i were you, just go to the college you would want to attend.

[love-monster]

If you could go to a much better school,
go to the much better school. Imagine all the possibilities and potential places life could take you. (:

Haha that sounded corny
but don't let your boyfriend be the deciding factor.

[Seraphyx]

Tell him, Whoa Baby! Slow down. Sure you love him to death, but you don't want to be held back by a "ball and chain" during college. Pick a college that YOU want to go to. By no means am I saying break up with him, but if you do go to a different college then you may find out how much you miss him. Spending a great deal of time with someone can lead to a boring relationship.

[bellyy.loo]

Don't follow him.
If he really loves you, doesn't even matter what school you go to anyway.

[choochootrang]

A friend of mine has chosen to go to college out of state solely to live with her boyfriend.

I personally think she is an idiot. (:

Do what you think is best for you, not what will please your boyfriend.

These decisions are difficult, but you know what's best for yourself.

[hippiehop]

Don't go to college JUST to be with your boyfriend. It's your FUTURE... go to the school that you want to go to.

[missie_ko_ko]

Hell to the no girl..Don't make the dummy mistake...If you want to go to his college
then that's cool and everything. but if you don't want and want to go to another one then he should respect
your decision....

And Do not i repeat DO NOT get married. That'll be the dumbest desicion you might make..
Next thing you know youll be pregnant..

[Chianna]

If you go to a college you don't want you'll end up resenting him and hating yourself. Long distance relationship take a lot of work but if your both willing to make the effort it'll be okay and 4 years isn't that long if he's someone you see yourself spending the rest of your life with.

[badtzmaruholidays]

Two years ago, there was a guy who rejected UC Berkeley for UC San Diego to be with his girlfriend. Two years later, she breaks up with him and transfers to UC Berkeley.

[angels.disguise]

it sounds like you already know
what you want to do.

my advice: don't follow him.
life has no guarantees. if you follow him now
you might regret it for the rest of you life.

if he really loved you he would understand
and want the best for you. long distance relationships
can work if you put enough effort into it(:

[MaryMagdalin]

um no.
anything can happen
go where YOU want to go.

[WoopieDaDoo]

This is basically all up to you.
If you like the college that your boyfriend is going to, then yea of course you should go with then.
But if it's somethin you don't like, and you only want to attend there because your boyfriend wants you to, then of course not.
Even though you might love him and so, that doesn't mean he can tell you to go to this school if you don't want to.
You should be able to make your own choices in life, and not let other people do it for you.
Like Marymagdalin said: "anything can happen", which possibly includes a breakup.
Put yourself in that situation and ask yourself: "What if something may happen between us"?
You should really wait this one out, and think about it.
If you choose to go to another college, and he gets angry at you for that, then let me tell you right now: "It's not worth it".
But hey, do what YOU think is best for you, not what the OTHERS think is best for you.

Best of luck.

[thesisoflove]

Personally, I don't think it would be such a great idea to follow him to whatever college he is attending.
I mean, it's your life, your future, you have control. Going to a college that suites you can lead you to a better job, have success, and mor epotential in yourself. If he really loves you, it wouldn't matter if you guys don't attend the same colleges.

[.Demy]

[YES. Stupid. Don't let the rest of your life be decided by some boy that you meet in High School.
If he really loved you, then he would be able to let you go into whatever college you wanted to get into, regardless of how far away it is from him. Because if it was truly meant to last you two would be able to make it work despite the distance.

By the way, why does it have to be HIS college that you're going to? Why can't he go to YOURS?
Why can't he sacrifice his future for you? And why do you have to lower your standards (you yourself said you could get into a better college) because he wants you two to be together? Don't let all the sacrifice be on you, yes, you have to give things up for a relationship to work, but both people have to work at it.

Here are the statistics:

• Out of 100 married people asked:
  22 said that they married their high school crush…
  Out of those 22 people , 17 got divorced.
  So 5 out of 100 people between the ages of 18 and 89 are still married to their high school crush.

http://www.austinlifeguard.com/relationships_101.htm

The likelihood that it will last is very... small.

[Trinity <3]

^ that's a really stupid statistic, lol..

you really can't put math on love. those are ridiculous.

choose where you want to go, you have your own future. if he loves you enough, he'll stay with you throughout the process.

the same thing is happening to me too, but my boyfriend is very understanding. we would love to go to the same college, but at the same time i would love to go elsewhere. luckily, we both want to go to the same school anyways, but i''m not completely sure about that either. good luck with your decision, i hope you make a right one.

[Alice16uy]

I have to a friend who went to the same college as her long-time boyfriend.
they broke up after the 1st semester.
now, she's having a hard time making new friends...bc during the first semester, her bf was the only person she hang out with. Going to the same college doesn't mean u are guarantee to stay together forever.

go to the college of YOUR choice, not his.

[starrie]

As everyone else has suggested, if you can go to a better school I strongly suggest doing so.

I know someone who tried to transfer universities in order to go to the same one his girlfriend went to. He took a whole bunch of exams and stuff (because she was in the states) and then didn't even end up transferring because they broke up during the process. All that work for nothing.