[piaoyi]

Please close this thread. thanks

[daulism]

leave. now. while this relationship is still fresh.

no wait, don't leave right away... it could be a misunderstanding. so, confront him naaaao

wtf right?? just some background info we just started officially dating for like 2 weeks, but have been secretly going out for 7 months. so do i have a right to be mad? should i start ignoring him or confront him about this?

i dont get it.. so you just kept it a secret from people?

[hishari]

You should confront him and leave now, before you get too attached.

[piaoyi]

yes, we were just dating for away. but now all our friends know.

[Angxizzle]

guys like that aren't worth your time. karma will get him, like someone said leave now before you get too attached.

[hippiehop]

What an bubble gum. WTF, man. You don't play with people like that.

[junsujunsu]

i think u leave him b4 he leaves u, dont tell him about the aim thing unless he asks you why and wants you....then u tell him

[onhotwires]

"I'll stay with her if there's no one else better."

There shouldn't be anyone else he'd prefer to be with if he really deserved to be your boyfriend. Confront him and don't let him sweet talk you.

I agree with junsujunsu too, telling him about the aim thing might lead him to spread stuff about how you're nosy and etc. Just ask him if he actually does want to be with you. I also think it would be funny to echo his own words ("b/c honestly, I'm only staying with you b/c I haven't found someone else I like more") But then again, relationships aren't jokes. =]

[piaoyi]

but i thing is, i really like him and he treats me really well.
i'm confused

[litoaznbabix91]

WTFF?! Dump his sorry butt. You shouldn't be with people like that. Jerks.

[evans]

thing is you can't let him treat you like some spare part till he gets 'someone better' let him know in subtle ways that you ARE wanted by other people, and that you have the power to leave him any time. ask him about your relationship, and see what he says about it. let him know that you're not going to let him push you around or treat you like an option.

[Chanellas]

but i thing is, i really like him and he treats me really well.
i'm confused

Woww, that blows.... why make someone a priority when you're just their option?

[junsujunsu]

but i thing is, i really like him and he treats me really well.
i'm confused

it's definitely your own choice, but judging from the aim conversation, he doesnt respect you very much....it's like saying that you are a spare, that he can change anytime he wants, he doesn't love you.....he's just staying with you because your the best he can get, doesn't it bother you?....i mean i shouldn't judge cus seriously ive never been in love....but personally, i would lose respect for anyone who settles as the "spare"...i think everyone deserves better

[daulism]

watch.. you'll confront him, and he'll be all, "why are you invading my business?!?!?"

don't take that remark to heart!

[Stevent]

So I was looking at my bf's computer and i saw a conversation from aim that was still open on his desktop...and basically the conversation was his friend (a guy btw) commenting on my bf's relationship status on fb. He asked like what's up with his status, and my bf just responded something like "i'm just going to give her a chance. if i find someone i like more, i'll just break up with her."

wtf right?? just some background info we just started officially dating for like 2 weeks, but have been secretly going out for 7 months. so do i have a right to be mad? should i start ignoring him or confront him about this?

EDIT:
i don't know if this makes a difference but he made a move first, yet never officially asked me out. so when i asked if we're going out before, simply put he rejected me. But when he saw another guy start to pursue me, he didn't want to see me go...so i think that's why he asked me out.

From my perspective, I think you should end things since you're going to be the one who gets hurt down the road. You're wasting your time with some dude who's probably not going to put his best foot forward since he's keeping one eye on you and another eye out for someone else. I think it's pretty stupid of him to just simply go out with you because there was a slight sign of competition.

but i thing is, i really like him and he treats me really well.
i'm confused

It's up to you really, do you want to milk this relationship for what it's worth in the moment or save yourself the heartache down the line? I mean who knows, you'll probably be the one who leaves him for someone better and not the other way around

[piaoyi]

quick edit: i just confronted him about it and he said something like he won't be out there trying to pursue other girls. but if somehow he meets a girl who is very attractive too, he said he might drift. And he told me that he wanted to end it after secretly dating for 7 months b/c he's not ready to settle yet, like he wants to date around first. But i insisted we give it a shot now.

[hishari]

i just confronted him about it and he said something like this " i won't be out there trying to pursue other girls. but if somehow, some chance of events, i meet a girl who is very attractive too. i might drift. what i was thinking was that if we end this nicely (he means after those 7 months of secretly dating) maybe a few years later, when we're sure we're perfect to each other, then i won't have to worry about all this. but i mean, if you rather try it now, we can try it too. i'll try my best."

Eh...you should just REALLY get out of this relationship now. -__-
This guy is a conceited sob who is taking you for granted.

[junsujunsu]

i just confronted him about it and he said something like he won't be out there trying to pursue other girls. but if somehow he meets a girl who is very attractive too, he said he might drift. And he told me that he wanted to end it after secretly dating for 7 months b/c he's not ready to settle yet, like he wants to date around first. But i insisted we give it a shot now.

what the shiet response it that?!?!....holi moli....LEAVE HIM RIGHT NAO...RIGHT NAO....don't waste ur time....whatever, do wat ur heart tells u to...but u should slowly start pulling away from him, so it wont hurt as much...GOOD LUCK

[AoiAi]

Just ask him 'Did you ask me out 'cause I was being chased by another guy?' instead of mentioning the convo. Or you could always say the truth .. that you saw the conversation he had with his friend. At least then, he wouldn't be able to get away with it. >__<

[junsujunsu]

Just ask him 'Did you ask me out 'cause I was being chased by another guy?' instead of mentioning the convo. Or you could always say the truth .. that you saw the conversation he had with his friend. At least then, he wouldn't be able to get away with it. >__<

she already confeessed to him....^ look up for his reply