[koreandramaqueen]

I just wanna ask something and I need your opinions. Pretty please?

Does it mean something if a guy picks a dress for a girl? This girl let him choose a dress that she'll wear in front of many people, and she accepted it. I heard some things that this is a sign of a relationship more than friendship. Is this true? What do you think?

Your opinions will be very much appreciated!

[Seraphyx]

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Well, I think it could be an indicator. Think about it, she values his opinion enough to buy, wear, and show off a dress that he likes. However, girls bring guys shopping to get a male opinion also. I think, that you should probably not assume that the girl likes the guy and you may be over thinking it.

[koreandramaqueen]

^Thank you!

I just want to add that this girl and boy I'm saying is extremely close. They've been friends for years, and it's confusing me if they're really together or not because they're acting so like a couple! I keep asking them if they're together, but she's denying it, saying they're just like brothers and sisters blah. But she said few days ago that the boy picked the dress that she wore in front of many people.

Any other opinions?

[LC21]

I recently met this girl about a week ago. And we've been talking and hung out again after the first time we met. Hearing from her friend(our mutual friend) she was like "she's interested in you but, you dont seem to be interested in her and you're not being yourself." I was kinda shocked when she said i'm not interested. I'm definitely interested, but i feel like shes outta my league, she's smart, she's hot, and she's way more popular then me. I felt kinda insecure when she practically knew everyone at the mall. She initiates conversations with me most of the time, she pretty much messages me everyday on msn and what nots, but i'm tryng to not talk as much to her because i want to save conversations for person to person encounters. During our 1on1 "hang out" often times she would talk or ask me questions and i would blank out, never really been in this situation because i just run my mouth without thinking, but on this particular hang out i watched out for what i said. You can almost call it a boring hang out, because i barely initiated the conversations.

Any suggestions?

[Chi_]

I recently met this girl about a week ago. And we've been talking and hung out again after the first time we met. Hearing from her friend(our mutual friend) she was like "she's interested in you but, you dont seem to be interested in her and you're not being yourself." I was kinda shocked when she said i'm not interested. I'm definitely interested, but i feel like shes outta my league, she's smart, she's hot, and she's way more popular then me. I felt kinda insecure when she practically knew everyone at the mall. She initiates conversations with me most of the time, she pretty much messages me everyday on msn and what nots, but i'm tryng to not talk as much to her because i want to save conversations for person to person encounters. During our 1on1 "hang out" often times she would talk or ask me questions and i would blank out, never really been in this situation because i just run my mouth without thinking, but on this particular hang out i watched out for what i said. You can almost call it a boring hang out, because i barely initiated the conversations.

Any suggestions?

You find her smart and hot. You say she is way above your league and she still initiates contact with you? Go get her tiger!
Don't "save conversations" for person to person encounters. maybe just save the real deep secrets/stories. And please, don't run your mouth without thinking, it's better to give a good response and stutter and pause sometimes then to try to be ultrasmooth and say total bullcrap.

Hope it helps! keep me posted

[Seraphyx]

I recently met this girl about a week ago. And we've been talking and hung out again after the first time we met. Hearing from her friend(our mutual friend) she was like "she's interested in you but, you dont seem to be interested in her and you're not being yourself." I was kinda shocked when she said i'm not interested. I'm definitely interested, but i feel like shes outta my league, she's smart, she's hot, and she's way more popular then me. I felt kinda insecure when she practically knew everyone at the mall. She initiates conversations with me most of the time, she pretty much messages me everyday on msn and what nots, but i'm tryng to not talk as much to her because i want to save conversations for person to person encounters. During our 1on1 "hang out" often times she would talk or ask me questions and i would blank out, never really been in this situation because i just run my mouth without thinking, but on this particular hang out i watched out for what i said. You can almost call it a boring hang out, because i barely initiated the conversations.

Any suggestions?

If you don't converse with her on MSN, maybe you might send the wrong signal that you aren't interested in her. Sometimes, you might want to try and plan out a little of what you want to say before hand so you can integrate it into the conversation. Don't let her be the man in the relationship, you should take the initiative and go after her.

Best of luck~

^Thank you!

I just want to add that this girl and boy I'm saying is extremely close. They've been friends for years, and it's confusing me if they're really together or not because they're acting so like a couple! I keep asking them if they're together, but she's denying it, saying they're just like brothers and sisters blah. But she said few days ago that the boy picked the dress that she wore in front of many people.

Any other opinions?

Sometimes a relationship can be like that, where the guy and girl are just best friends. It's actually very rare, since usually one person will develop feelings for another. I guess they are just really good friends.

[LC21]

Thanks for the replies guys.
Recently our mutual friend has told me that she might not be interested in me anymore, due a "boring" phone call last night. I seriously dont know how to make it anymore interesting.... sometimes i just blank out and dont know what to say at all. I dont want her to come across thinking im some f**ked up person, weird or even annoying. I dont want to think im annoying which is why i dont talk to her a lot on msn, because i've been accused of being annoying before, when i try to initiate.

[&&TiFF;ANY.]

Aiish, I must admit, I do need help.

I've had this reoccurring trend of liking and talking to guys that are soon going far away for college. For the past two guys, things ended badly. We stopped talking, we drifted apart because of the distance, and in the end it just hurt. I met this guy about two weeks ago. I knew about him a few years ago cause he went to my school. I was physically attracted to him but haven't talked until now. And this year, he's transfering to either San Diefgo or SF and I live in Sacramento. We started on facebook and progressed to AIM. I just wanted to hang out with him because of that physical attraction, but then I started to feel like I was falling for him. So quick, I know. This past weekend he invited me to go boating with him and his friends. I brought my friend along as to not feel like a loner, but she just lingered on the side. We talked a lot of the boat and I guess flirted a lot. And today, he texted me, and we've been talking to whole day. I don't know if I should pursue this any longer. I have no idea if he has any interest in me, because I text my friends all the time, so that doesn't really mean anything to me. It doesn't signify any attraction. Well, I went on a ramble, but I guess what I'm trying to ask is, should I still try to pursue him even though he's going far away and i have the worst track record with guys that move away. Should I take the initiative?

[Seraphyx]

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You sound like you don't want to get hurt again. If this is the case, then do not pursue him. If not, then by all means try your best.

Best of luck~

[koreandramaqueen]

Sometimes a relationship can be like that, where the guy and girl are just best friends. It's actually very rare, since usually one person will develop feelings for another. I guess they are just really good friends.

Oh. Thanks!

[~*.:Yuki:.*~]

Hey there, I've just been needing advice a lot lately >.< thank u so much for your help~

Me and my bf have been together for about 3 years now, and we've been through some pretty rough times. We had a 'break up' at the end of last year where he just decided to walk off on me (because of a long going argument about how much he changed), and so I ignored him, until 3 months later he comes back and starts begging me to go back to him. He apologized etc. and made himself extremely convincing, saying that he knew he was wrong, and that he would change. But I've been having a hard time dealing with the 'new' him..

Back then he was pretty much the nice guy who was protective and wanted to show us off. He was the kind that didn't meddle much with the other teenagers his age, so I felt kinda safe with him.
- listened to me and treated me with a lot of respect
- was the 'safe/conservative' type which suited my personality (e.g. no smoking, drugs, piercing etc)
- wasn't a guy who wanted to conform
- although he lied and had his minor problems, he was still a guy i felt comfortable being with and talking to..
etc

However, this new him after he came back-
- lives in a rented house now with his friend and goes to uni
- car obsessor (builds, buys, drives all the time etc)
- doesn't listen to what i want at all now if it involves him sacrificing something of his own
- thinks its embarrassing having our photo stuck onto his phone (he thinks its childish)
- hes still anti smoking and all that but i was just talking to him, and he's like "i probably might get a tattoo or smthg cuz its cool" and im thinking wth...
all this thing with the 'manly image' hes trying to create

I don't even know what I'm holding onto, it's like I'm still with him for the sake of our memories.. I'm lost, can someone plz help ?
We're both 18 in case you're wondering, and I've always been pretty serious about relationships. His friends just tell me that 'I' am the one who was living in a fairytale expecting him to stay like that forever. He seems so... practical now? one thing that hasn't changed tho, is that he tells me his feelings are still the same for me, and his friends tell me that too.. but his actions and the overall change to him seems too much. Also, MY friends and family tell me that not all guys have to be like that, and that i should move on to find one whose more mature and better suited for me, and truth be told, he simply doesn't care enough because if he did, he woulda done all he could to make sure I wasn't feeling this much pain dealing with the new him.
argh, what is he really thinking? is it worth holding onto him still or better off letting go? i want to tell myself hes just going through the teenage boy phase a bit late, and that hopefully he'll realize his futile pursuits right now, but simultaneously I'm worried that this might actually be the REAL him that he's developed into.

Im so sorry for the long post, please give me some advice.. thank you

[sam.son]

I have another problem, the girl which fancies me is too shy to talk to me. She likes to catch a glimpse of me but never speaks to me. Since we have no lessons due to exam we have no chance to speak. Do i try speak to her randomnly or should i wait till we are back in class?

[&&TiFF;ANY.]

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You sound like you don't want to get hurt again. If this is the case, then do not pursue him. If not, then by all means try your best.

Best of luck~

Thanks :]
I think I'll give him a shot

[Seraphyx]

Hey there, I've just been needing advice a lot lately >.< thank u so much for your help~

Me and my bf have been together for about 3 years now, and we've been through some pretty rough times. We had a 'break up' at the end of last year where he just decided to walk off on me (because of a long going argument about how much he changed), and so I ignored him, until 3 months later he comes back and starts begging me to go back to him. He apologized etc. and made himself extremely convincing, saying that he knew he was wrong, and that he would change. But I've been having a hard time dealing with the 'new' him..

Back then he was pretty much the nice guy who was protective and wanted to show us off. He was the kind that didn't meddle much with the other teenagers his age, so I felt kinda safe with him.
- listened to me and treated me with a lot of respect
- was the 'safe/conservative' type which suited my personality (e.g. no smoking, drugs, piercing etc)
- wasn't a guy who wanted to conform
- although he lied and had his minor problems, he was still a guy i felt comfortable being with and talking to..
etc

However, this new him after he came back-
- lives in a rented house now with his friend and goes to uni
- car obsessor (builds, buys, drives all the time etc)
- doesn't listen to what i want at all now if it involves him sacrificing something of his own
- thinks its embarrassing having our photo stuck onto his phone (he thinks its childish)
- hes still anti smoking and all that but i was just talking to him, and he's like "i probably might get a tattoo or smthg cuz its cool" and im thinking wth...
all this thing with the 'manly image' hes trying to create

I don't even know what I'm holding onto, it's like I'm still with him for the sake of our memories.. I'm lost, can someone plz help ?
We're both 18 in case you're wondering, and I've always been pretty serious about relationships. His friends just tell me that 'I' am the one who was living in a fairytale expecting him to stay like that forever. He seems so... practical now? one thing that hasn't changed tho, is that he tells me his feelings are still the same for me, and his friends tell me that too.. but his actions and the overall change to him seems too much. Also, MY friends and family tell me that not all guys have to be like that, and that i should move on to find one whose more mature and better suited for me, and truth be told, he simply doesn't care enough because if he did, he woulda done all he could to make sure I wasn't feeling this much pain dealing with the new him.
argh, what is he really thinking? is it worth holding onto him still or better off letting go? i want to tell myself hes just going through the teenage boy phase a bit late, and that hopefully he'll realize his futile pursuits right now, but simultaneously I'm worried that this might actually be the REAL him that he's developed into.

Im so sorry for the long post, please give me some advice.. thank you

If you like him for just the sake of the memories, then your relationship is over. You were in love with a different man back then, I suppose. "He's not the man you fell in love with." If you already realized you just like him for nostalgic reasons, why are you still with him? That is the real him.

I have another problem, the girl which fancies me is too shy to talk to me. She likes to catch a glimpse of me but never speaks to me. Since we have no lessons due to exam we have no chance to speak. Do i try speak to her randomnly or should i wait till we are back in class?

Doesn't matter, just talk to her. Period. If she fancies you, she isn't going to mind talking to you unless the time is very inappropriate.

[whoamax]

I'm really not in any situation to build up to a relationship nor do I have anyone I've been keeping my eyes on currently, but I've recently been more down, not quite depressed, but not feeling the best emotionally, not sure what the cause is. I was just curious to if relationships help bring your overall personality a positive boost? I'm not going to force myself into a relationship just for it, I was just curious.

[LC21]

Well after what she said, she said i was boring over the phone. =(
And today we were supose to go work out at the gym together. However i call her after school she didn't pick up(called three times within 1hour). So whatever i go myself to a gym closer by instead of commuting a bit further just to join her. AFter i get home she messages me that she was there with a few friends and her phone was in her bag and even waited a little longer then usual to see if i would come. Quite disappointed that she wouldn't even make a phone call back to me.

After all this it feels like her tone has weakened.I think i should give it a little more time since its only been a week and a half that we've met. Any suggestions?

[Seraphyx]

I'm really not in any situation to build up to a relationship nor do I have anyone I've been keeping my eyes on currently, but I've recently been more down, not quite depressed, but not feeling the best emotionally, not sure what the cause is. I was just curious to if relationships help bring your overall personality a positive boost? I'm not going to force myself into a relationship just for it, I was just curious.

They could make you more cheerful or less cheerful, but mostly they occupy your time.

Well after what she said, she said i was boring over the phone. =(
And today we were supose to go work out at the gym together. However i call her after school she didn't pick up(called three times within 1hour). So whatever i go myself to a gym closer by instead of commuting a bit further just to join her. AFter i get home she messages me that she was there with a few friends and her phone was in her bag and even waited a little longer then usual to see if i would come. Quite disappointed that she wouldn't even make a phone call back to me.

After all this it feels like her tone has weakened.I think i should give it a little more time since its only been a week and a half that we've met. Any suggestions?

It sounds like you already messed up, try and be more aggressive. The longer you wait, the great the chance you have of being friend-zoned.

Best of luck~

[wolfwolf]

1.what does it mean when a girl tries to change the guy? does it mean she only sees him as a friend or kinda like boyfriend material?

2.why does a girl have to test the guy she is hanging out 1on1?like do certain stuff to see how he react? why?

3.why does she expect the guy to remember the things she said when they go out? i mean if a girl and a boy are just friends, shouldn't she just forgive and not be so hard on him, expecting him to remember all the things she say?

[Seraphyx]

^

Wow, is no one going to respond to this? Really? I took a break, but I feel bad that someone's question goes unanswered. So this will be my official last post for an undetermined period of time.

1) Sometimes a girl will change a guy, just because she doesn't like something about him, but it can be a strong indicator that she see's you as boyfriend material. This seems to be true, because girls tend to have that idea that they can change their men for the better, or something along those lines.

2) She probably wants to find out what type of boyfriend you would be, by asking hypothetical questions and testing your priorities. Sometimes the questions are annoying, but she is probably just testing the water, so to speak.

3) It's the small things that matter, if you remember something it must be important right? So if you remember something small she said, then she must be important also.

Best of luck to you and everyone else.

Back to the sweet bliss of a temporary vacation.

[~*.:Yuki:.*~]

If you like him for just the sake of the memories, then your relationship is over. You were in love with a different man back then, I suppose. "He's not the man you fell in love with." If you already realized you just like him for nostalgic reasons, why are you still with him? That is the real him.

Thanku for that >.< yea i think our relationship really isn't going anywhere anymore..