[xo_sugar_ox]

is it weird or shallow that i wouldn't go out with a boy who is younger than me, even just 1 month? i was talking to this guy i kind of liked, and when i found out he was a month younger than me, i got a bit turned off...i feel so bad though =( i wish i could just get over my weird expectation of age because i have a great time talking to him and it's not his fault that he's "younger" than me.

[somegirl]

is it weird or shallow that i wouldn't go out with a boy who is younger than me, even just 1 month? i was talking to this guy i kind of liked, and when i found out he was a month younger than me, i got a bit turned off...i feel so bad though =( i wish i could just get over my weird expectation of age because i have a great time talking to him and it's not his fault that he's "younger" than me.

Actually something similar happened to me. Then later on I felt like such an idiot. Considering the fact that my dad is three years younger than my mom. I'm trying to get over this issue also. I think we've been programmed to think this way. I don't think you should care about the fact he is younger. If you like the guy see where it takes you. Maybe you'll be pleasantly surprised.Think about all the great guys you'll miss out on if you keep turning these cuties down.

[xo_sugar_ox]

Actually something similar happened to me. Then later on I felt like such an idiot. Considering the fact that my dad is three years younger than my mom. I'm trying to get over this issue also. I think we've been programmed to think this way. I don't think you should care about the fact he is younger. If you like the guy see where it takes you. Maybe you'll be pleasantly surprised.Think about all the great guys you'll miss out on if you keep turning these cuties down.

thank you! i'll try to get over the age issue because i like him a lot so far

[_eew]

Hi!
I hope this thread will help me out.

So I met this guy at school and ever since he's started to talking to me it seems as if he's just a really flirty guy.
At first I was like, "oh that's just the way he is."
But after talking with him more it seems more than just that.
He does things that could suggest he likes me.
Even my friends say he likes me.
There was one time where I thought he was going to ask me out, but he got really nervous and didn't.
If he ended up asking me, I'd say yes cause his texts are really cute!

My question is: Does he like me; if he does, why doesn't he say something?!

[I <3 SUNGMIN]

So he went to Korea and he's coming back in 2 weeks..
how should I keep my mind off of him?
I literally tried everything..

[michikosashimi]

i need help D:
i feel like i cant move on T_T
me and my ex broke up 7 months ago.
i broke up with him.
he left to korea forever~
but when he talks to me,
its the same as how we talked when we were dating.
he always messages me and sometimes tell me he misses me.
he tells me that he would do anything even if he's in korea to keep me safe.
i think maybe its the reason why i cant move on.
what should i do?? D:

[tontamoo]

So he went to Korea and he's coming back in 2 weeks..
how should I keep my mind off of him?
I literally tried everything..

Do you have friends to hang out with? This could be a good opportunity to reconnect with friends if you've inadvertently neglected some friendships while focusing on your relationship.

Are there any hobbies, crafts, things you wanted to learn how to do? Do self-improvement things. If you're really stuck, try to make something to give to your boyfriend when he returns. Look on Lifehacker, Instructables, or Etsy. They have all sorts of creative stuff.

i need help D:
i feel like i cant move on T_T
me and my ex broke up 7 months ago.
i broke up with him.
he left to korea forever~
but when he talks to me,
its the same as how we talked when we were dating.
he always messages me and sometimes tell me he misses me.
he tells me that he would do anything even if he's in korea to keep me safe.
i think maybe its the reason why i cant move on.
what should i do?? D:

Tell him how it makes you feel: that you need to move on but his contacting you is making it hard. I'm not sure about your particular situation, if you think you two can just be friends. Perhaps set a date in the future maybe 3-4 months from now when you feel you'll be able to talk to him again as just friends. Tell him and agree to it so you don't just disappear.

[michikosashimi]

Do you have friends to hang out with? This could be a good opportunity to reconnect with friends if you've inadvertently neglected some friendships while focusing on your relationship.

Are there any hobbies, crafts, things you wanted to learn how to do? Do self-improvement things. If you're really stuck, try to make something to give to your boyfriend when he returns. Look on Lifehacker, Instructables, or Etsy. They have all sorts of creative stuff.


Tell him how it makes you feel: that you need to move on but his contacting you is making it hard. I'm not sure about your particular situation, if you think you two can just be friends. Perhaps set a date in the future maybe 3-4 months from now when you feel you'll be able to talk to him again as just friends. Tell him and agree to it so you don't just disappear.

even if we talk as just friends.
i guess it will still have some sort of feeling to it.

[xbbychi]

hi hi, im in desperate need for some advice

problem___i have a younger brother & i hate him.
im the oldest in the family. i think i just cant live with the fact that he gets all the attention that i used to have from my parents.

some things that occurs on a daily bases..
i cant deal with him when he wants to talk to me, it makes me want to scratch up his face. i cant be around him for more than 5 minutes without screaming and getting mad. he gets away with everything. im the one that gets scold at for his wrong doings. we never talk much. the one words that i say to him are "shut up" , "go away" , & "leave me alone". also he gets whatever he wants, it pisses me off because he doesn't understand that money is hard to earn. me and my sister have to earn what we deserve. all he does is whine & cry his eyes out to get it. he tries to act cute, which is absolutely not lovable at all. & he thinks that everything revolves around him.

i think these are the only minor issues why i dislike him. i need advice..what should i do ? how can i fix this relationship? deep down inside..DEEP DEEP DEEP DEEEEEEEEEEEEP down inside, i wanna improve this sibling relationship. i swear right now in this kind of situation even if he were to get hurt [god forbid] i wouldnt even shed a tear.. thats how bad it is..

please help, i dont want to hate my brother anymore.. =[
my parents are also upset at me for being so cold to him

[belle_kd1413]

hi hi, im in desperate need for some advice

problem___i have a younger brother & i hate him.
im the oldest in the family. i think i just cant live with the fact that he gets all the attention that i used to have from my parents.

some things that occurs on a daily bases..
i cant deal with him when he wants to talk to me, it makes me want to scratch up his face. i cant be around him for more than 5 minutes without screaming and getting mad. he gets away with everything. im the one that gets scold at for his wrong doings. we never talk much. the one words that i say to him are "shut up" , "go away" , & "leave me alone". also he gets whatever he wants, it pisses me off because he doesn't understand that money is hard to earn. me and my sister have to earn what we deserve. all he does is whine & cry his eyes out to get it. he tries to act cute, which is absolutely not lovable at all. & he thinks that everything revolves around him.

i think these are the only minor issues why i dislike him. i need advice..what should i do ? how can i fix this relationship? deep down inside..DEEP DEEP DEEP DEEEEEEEEEEEEP down inside, i wanna improve this sibling relationship. i swear right now in this kind of situation even if he were to get hurt [god forbid] i wouldnt even shed a tear.. thats how bad it is..

please help, i dont want to hate my brother anymore.. =[
my parents are also upset at me for being so cold to him

OMG, me too! I'm the eldest, too!
The only diff is that it's my youngest sis that gets it all.
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I think he has been pampered because he's the only boy.
Talk to your parents in a clam way. [DON'T WHINE, that never works out well]
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If he hurts you, just walk away calmly. Tell him how you feel sometime.
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When he gets older, he WILL understand. Okay, how old is your bro anyways? I'm thinking he's 12/14 [the way he's acting].
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Tell me how old you guys are and I can help you ... err, more. ;D

[Naycom]

Hey Guys, i need your help..

My GF broke up with me like 3 weeks ago..She was sometimes really stressful.. but i always tried my best to be cool and relaxed. Well we started to fight alot of times.. and then in our last fight i just exploded and i was a really bubble gum and screamed at her. Five minutes after that i said i am really sorry, but she just said she cant hear it anymore. So she break up.

The next day i went to her apartment, with flowers, her favorite icecream and a letter that i write in korean. (I am german, so it was really hard for me ^^"")

All she said was just "dont make it so hard for me.."

Her friends like me alot, so they invited me one week after that to a BBQ party, i didnt want to go there because i was scared that i could meet her, but they said to me she is not in the city now anyway. So i went there.. and well of course she was just coming back on that day and went to the same party.. just perfect.. I asked her if we can talk, but all she said was "there is nothing more to talk". I said to her somany things i was feeling, that i love her and dont even wanna imagine to have someone else, i started to learn for her korean. And i was even thinking about to move with her after she's finish with studying (this month..) to korea. But it all just ended with tears and in a drama.

The next day she send me a msg on facebook, she never even want to see me again, i shouldn't meet her friends anymore and her heart is now perfect closed for me. She just want to forget me.

I answered in a long email, that i will never forgot her, because she was the love of my life. And i said thank you for giving me the chance of meeting her and spend a long time with her.

That was like 2 weeks ago.. i still can't eat or sleep. I'm thinking and dreaming of her 24/7. This is not my first breakup.. but it is the most painful break up i ever had.

I'm thinking and thinking how i can win her back, i wanna win her heart again. I asked 2 of my female friends for a advice, one said i should call her like next week. Just to ask how she is doing. But i really doubt she will even go to the phone.. The other girl said i should talk with her good friend..

I was thinking of asking her friend to bring her to a park. I would be there with flowers and a ocean of candles. But i am worried that its a little harsh.. and she will running away.

So, what should i do? Please dont tell me something like "Move on, there are many other girls outside". I want her, not some other girl. I know there is always a way to win a heart back..someone just need to show me the way, how to.

[meiming8]

I'd give it a little time. Just wait a while, and don't contact her. You might be scaring her...it sounds like you really ripped it out of her, and now you've completely changed tack so your extreme change in emotions is probably frightening her and making her want to have even less to do with her. I would say wait a few weeks or so, and then ask her to meet up and just talk to her, so both of you can calm down. Don't make any wild romantic gestures, just communicate with her and tell her how you're feeling and how she's feeling. From what you've written, it sounds like you two had some friction because of her stress, so you're not entirely in the wrong. It's not like you cheated on her and are begging her forgiveness, or something. Just tell her that because she was stressed, she also was making you feel stressed by taking it out on her, so you finally snapped. What I wouldn't do is beg her to take you back. I think she also needs to realize she was in the wrong and then you two can discuss your relationship. If you beg her to take you back, and she does because she feels pressurised by you, then your relationship will end up the same way it is now. Just wait for a while, then contact her to discuss it calmly, and then communicate. If it doesn't work out there's nothing you can do, and unfortunately you'll have to just try to get over it

[Naycom]

I'd give it a little time. Just wait a while, and don't contact her. You might be scaring her...it sounds like you really ripped it out of her, and now you've completely changed tack so your extreme change in emotions is probably frightening her and making her want to have even less to do with her. I would say wait a few weeks or so, and then ask her to meet up and just talk to her, so both of you can calm down. Don't make any wild romantic gestures, just communicate with her and tell her how you're feeling and how she's feeling. From what you've written, it sounds like you two had some friction because of her stress, so you're not entirely in the wrong. It's not like you cheated on her and are begging her forgiveness, or something. Just tell her that because she was stressed, she also was making you feel stressed by taking it out on her, so you finally snapped. What I wouldn't do is beg her to take you back. I think she also needs to realize she was in the wrong and then you two can discuss your relationship. If you beg her to take you back, and she does because she feels pressurised by you, then your relationship will end up the same way it is now. Just wait for a while, then contact her to discuss it calmly, and then communicate. If it doesn't work out there's nothing you can do, and unfortunately you'll have to just try to get over it

First of all, thank you so much for your answer and help.

Actually, i called her friend to ask for some advice and she said too, i should wait. Maybe like 1 month and then send her a sms and see if she answers me. But damn.. 1 month is like 100 years for me. The last week was already like 1 year.. but i guess there is nothing i could do. I am just to scared that she will loose in that time all her feeling for me..

Atleast her friend told me she is not hating me..(but maybe she just didn't say it to her.)

And because of beggin.. after the BBQ fight, i was drinking alcohol like water there.. BIG mistake.. i was really begging then to her to take me back, but like you said, it was a stupid move from me.

I need to see.. if i really can wait 1 month.. or even 2-3 weeks. Its like going trough hell.

Thank you again Mei.

[3.rica]

Sooo I have a question ... Hopefully, you can help me out

Soo yesterday nitee, I confessed to my crush that I liked him and he told me that he liked me too, and he asked me out rite there and then , and I said yes. And on Friday (i think) we are going for our first date.

But here is the thing: Me and him have known each other for less then a year, we just met this year in school thro a mutual friend. But we see each other like everyday, and over time we became like best friends.

So here is the problem: Where do me and him go from here ? Like I know we are 'going out" now, and seeing if this relationship works out or not, but honestly ... I dunno what to do ..

Dont get me wrong here tho, Im happy about it , but Im just scared that me and him would feel akward about it ...

But my friend told me to go with the flow ... but Im uncertain ..

Any advice or experince people want to share ?



Please and Thank-you

[Seraphyx]

Sooo I have a question ... Hopefully, you can help me out

Soo yesterday nitee, I confessed to my crush that I liked him and he told me that he liked me too, and he asked me out rite there and then , and I said yes. And on Friday (i think) we are going for our first date.

But here is the thing: Me and him have known each other for less then a year, we just met this year in school thro a mutual friend. But we see each other like everyday, and over time we became like best friends.

So here is the problem: Where do me and him go from here ? Like I know we are 'going out" now, and seeing if this relationship works out or not, but honestly ... I dunno what to do ..

Dont get me wrong here tho, Im happy about it , but Im just scared that me and him would feel akward about it ...

But my friend told me to go with the flow ... but Im uncertain ..

Any advice or experince people want to share ?



Please and Thank-you

Okay solid~ I'm back, lucky for you! Just kidding.

I'm going to say that your friend is absolutely right. Going with the flow and accepting that not all things have to go one way or another is a necessity for a relationship. In other words flexibility is necessary for a healthy relationship. During the date, there are several things you can do prevent awkwardness: talk to prevent awkward silences (go watch a movie first, so that you guys have something to talk about during dinner), ask to get to know him better (even if you are "like" best friends there is probably more you can learn about him), don't be a slob (a girl with food all over her face and her side of the table is a really big turn on right?).

Best of luck~

[michikosashimi]

i just dont know what im feeling~ help?
its about me and my ex.
i feel like i've moved on, but whenever
my ex talks to me, i feel like i cant.
he talks to me like he used to when we were dating;
but imo, i dont really talk to him much o_o
why am i feeling this way? am i not really over it?

[Seraphyx]

i just dont know what im feeling~ help?
its about me and my ex.
i feel like i've moved on, but whenever
my ex talks to me, i feel like i cant.
he talks to me like he used to when we were dating;
but imo, i dont really talk to him much o_o
why am i feeling this way? am i not really over it?

Yes, you are not over it. If you still feel like you can't get over him when you guys talk, then it's obvious that you aren't over. This question seems quite repetitive in its own nature. All the answers revolve around the idea that you are not fully over your ex.

[meiming8]

i just dont know what im feeling~ help?
its about me and my ex.
i feel like i've moved on, but whenever
my ex talks to me, i feel like i cant.
he talks to me like he used to when we were dating;
but imo, i dont really talk to him much o_o
why am i feeling this way? am i not really over it?

you're not over him yet. How long has it been since you've broken up? I'd just suggest seeing your friends more and getting into your own interests. It's hard after a break up, but if you concentrate hard enough in the beginning to get involved in your own life soon you'll realize that you're not trying any more and you're happier than ever

ALSO TO NAYCOM

thank you, I'm glad my advice helped! It's alright you called her friend, and also I doubt she hates you anyway. If you broke up because you fought, she's probably upset which in my opinion is better than her losing feelings for you slowly. Also, I would suggest calling her instead of texting her. A month should be enough time, and she'll probably want to talk about it as well after she gets over her initial hurt and adjustment after the break up. As long as you handle the phone call maturely (ie calm tone, and just letting her know it's to sort it out, no romantic gestures) then she'll probably be willling Update us!

[Naycom]

ALSO TO SERAPHYX

thank you, I'm glad my advice helped! It's alright you called her friend, and also I doubt she hates you anyway. If you broke up because you fought, she's probably upset which in my opinion is better than her losing feelings for you slowly. Also, I would suggest calling her instead of texting her. A month should be enough time, and she'll probably want to talk about it as well after she gets over her initial hurt and adjustment after the break up. As long as you handle the phone call maturely (ie calm tone, and just letting her know it's to sort it out, no romantic gestures) then she'll probably be willling Update us!

I think you mean me ^^;; thank you again for your advice.

I saw on my first post that i missed to tell you one thing. Some days before the BBQ party started, we already met eachother in a restaurant to talk. I was really nervous and she just came to the restaurant and hugged me like nothing ever happend. We talked and she was like "we still can be friends".. but i hate that sentence. Because i never want to see her with another guy on her side, it just would kill me.

After the eating she hugged me for like 10 minutes.. and then she kissed me. I was really suprised. But then she just said "We are still only friends".

So i had alot of hope in that week. But then the BBQ party happened.

But i think it still dont change the fact that i need to wait.. i tought maybe i call her on June 30. Because there we would be together for 200 days. I need to see if i can wait solong...

[michikosashimi]

you're not over him yet. How long has it been since you've broken up? I'd just suggest seeing your friends more and getting into your own interests. It's hard after a break up, but if you concentrate hard enough in the beginning to get involved in your own life soon you'll realize that you're not trying any more and you're happier than ever

its been 7 months o_o
i keep feeling like i've moved on;
but i kind of dont like it when he talks to me
cause i get that weird feeling T_T