[Danieruchann]

oooh! thats a really good idea! thank you. :)

[ehytee7]

i just need some help in sorting out my feelings..

See.. My ex and I broke up for almost 5 months now. It wasn't a horrible break up, and maybe that's the reason why we can talk casually right now. I tried moving on, and going back together was not an option for me since I know that with our issues, we would just never work out. A month ago, he came back from vacation and started calling me maybe a couple of times a week. We never talk about personal matters anymore, just some things that's currently happening in our lives as of the moment. I would get all giddy when he calls.. would feel down whenever he doesn't.. but in my head.. I don't want to get back with him anymore.. so why am I being like this??

I'm confused with myself.. and even more confused as to why he still talks to me and even drops hints in wanting to see me.. I clearly can tell that he doesn't want to get back with me coz if he does.. I would've seen more efforts coming from him..

[junifer]

he's either messing with you, or he wants to at least maintain a good friendship. if you guys were like really good best friends before you two got together, maybe he wants to salvage some of that. or he could be a jerkface and want to be friends with benefits. or looking for a replacement for a recent ex. I don't know him personally, so you be the judge.

[ehytee7]

he's either messing with you, or he wants to at least maintain a good friendship. if you guys were like really good best friends before you two got together, maybe he wants to salvage some of that. or he could be a jerkface and want to be friends with benefits. or looking for a replacement for a recent ex. I don't know him personally, so you be the judge.

I myself don't even know how to decipher his actions. My mind is too clouded with possible things as to why he decided to regain contact with me. But I guess, I wouldn't know til I ask him, right? Anyways, thanks for your thoughts about this. Made me dwell on some things.

[love_fate&destiny]

I am not really sure, because I for one do not notice that he is showing any "signs". But we talk a lot, he waits for me when we have meetings together, he bumps/brushes into me a lot (my friends tell me that he bumps into me because he is trying to get closer to me...which i don't get), and he likes to touch my hair ._."
I don't know if any of this stuff means anything because none of it causes a bell to go off in my mind or anything like that but then again, I am very oblivious to things like this. I would like to believe that what my friends are telling are true, but...yeah

hey, have anyone answered u yet?
Anyways, I just wanna say that i've experienced this before and sadly to say, I don't think this mean anything. >.<
I've felt what you felt before and had friends tell me this before...but in the end, when i confessed, i was rejected. >.<
So if you want to save yourself the humiliation, then it's better to think this as nothing. TT_TT I'm sorry. >.< When this happened to me, it became a painful memory for me. >.<
Anyways, so yeah. If he shows signs of other stuff that is more into bf/gf stuff, then maybe he is into you. but i wouldn't know that...

good luck.

[manlytoe]

i don't know what to do at all and it's really bothering me. what should i do?

so, i told him how i felt. and he told how he felt. but we both really hesitated and paused and laughed before we both told anyone anything. and well, right now, i kinda regret doing it because i feel like i made him say yes.
i don't think he was ready for it at all. it was like he didn't wanna say yes, yet at the same time he didn't wanna say no. i know he likes me, but i don't think he wanted it to happen this early. which i somewhat agree. should i ask him about this? should i question him about why he said it? ask him if he was ready? ask him what he was really thinking? did he really wanna say yes? i don't know at all. but i've been thinking about this for pretty long now. when i told him how i felt, i really wasn't expect him to say what he said because i didn't think he was ready, but when he told me, i was surprised, yet not really surprised. the main question is... should i talk to him about these things that are bothering me?

[llamamama]

^ you're worrying too much imo. if he said yes, then he must've had his reasons for saying he liked you (?) if you both like each other, sooner or later you're gonna hook up.. so i don't understand what's the wait for. if he starts acting awkward towards you, then i guess talk it out w/ him. tell him you're not forcing him to be w/ you.

[manlytoe]

^ you're worrying too much imo. if he said yes, then he must've had his reasons for saying he liked you (?) if you both like each other, sooner or later you're gonna hook up.. so i don't understand what's the wait for. if he starts acting awkward towards you, then i guess talk it out w/ him. tell him you're not forcing him to be w/ you.

thanks. i feel a lot more secure now.

[michikosashimi]

i have this ex.
and we've broken up for 8 months now.
he left for korea 2 months after our breakup to stay there forever.
but when he usually comes online and im not on he leaves me memssages.
when he reached korea i got a message saying how i was 'most special'
and how he wished he could've held onto me...etc.
we didnt talk for a long time.
and this month he talked to me and asked me to meet him for christmas.
because he was coming back for 5 months ._.
and when i was chatting with him, one of his friends asked me if i still liked him.
and i gave him my answer. why does he want to meet me again and why does his friend have to ask me that?
i asked his friend why he was asking me, and his friend told me that i was confusing them o_o i dont know how im confusing them.

[corrineaiko]

i have this ex.
and we've broken up for 8 months now.
he left for korea 2 months after our breakup to stay there forever.
but when he usually comes online and im not on he leaves me memssages.
when he reached korea i got a message saying how i was 'most special'
and how he wished he could've held onto me...etc.
we didnt talk for a long time.
and this month he talked to me and asked me to meet him for christmas.
because he was coming back for 5 months ._.
and when i was chatting with him, one of his friends asked me if i still liked him.
and i gave him my answer. why does he want to meet me again and why does his friend have to ask me that?
i asked his friend why he was asking me, and his friend told me that i was confusing them o_o i dont know how im confusing them.

well he probably thought that you still liked him because you were still chatting with him online and stuff and he probably thought that there was still hope in the relationship because you guys were still communicating, and when you completely shut him down when you asked why he was asking that sort of thing he probably was wondering whether or not you still wanted a relationship with him. Honestly, i think the best thing for you to do is BE HONEST and up front about whether or not you still want to be together. But it'd probably be hard since he lives overseas.

[michikosashimi]

well he probably thought that you still liked him because you were still chatting with him online and stuff and he probably thought that there was still hope in the relationship because you guys were still communicating, and when you completely shut him down when you asked why he was asking that sort of thing he probably was wondering whether or not you still wanted a relationship with him. Honestly, i think the best thing for you to do is BE HONEST and up front about whether or not you still want to be together. But it'd probably be hard since he lives overseas.

i was honest to his friend, but after we broke up, he told me we should be friends.
so i was just being a friend and talking to him like a normal friend would ;_;
does this mean he wants to get back together? ._.;;

[aZooRe]

I have a problem! But I don't want people to think any less of me (wait, I bet none of you even know who I am..) ANYWAY.

So basically I've been going out with my bf for about...a year and a half. We've been best friends for about five years though. He's always had a big problem with me hanging out with other people, especially other guys. One thing about me is that I really like hanging out with guys though, and I dislike hanging out with girls. He's especially insecure when I hang out with one of my very close guy friends (whom i confide in whenever i cant confide in my bf. and well, i cant confide in him about this...). unfortunately for me, i think i'm starting to like this guy (actually I've liked this guy for a good 3 years..it's become very apparent that I do like him), but im still going out with my bf. I really have no clue what to do, but it's like, KILLING MY MIND. It's like...eating me up inside because it's so bad D: So yeah...any idea what I should do?

[corrineaiko]

i was honest to his friend, but after we broke up, he told me we should be friends.
so i was just being a friend and talking to him like a normal friend would ;_;
does this mean he wants to get back together? ._.;;

haha maybe im reading into this too much, but what i think is that he probably said that whole thing "lets be friends" just to say that. i mean guys always say that after a breakup because for some WEIRD reason haha they think thats going to make you feel better. like thats a part of the standard breakup speech "oh but lets be friends" and he probably just restarted to like you after he talked to you as a friend and realized how great you were. and i really dont see any other reason for him to ask his friend to ask you that unless
A.)He likes you and wants to figure out how you feel
OR
B.)You're giving him vibes that you like him still and hes wondering if youre still into him.
But based on what youve told me I'm guessing it's A.
Do you still like him or what? Because if you still do, now would be the time to get that going! hahaha i cant believe i described it as getting it going....hahah its not like its a train or something lol
but you get my meaning

I have a problem! But I don't want people to think any less of me (wait, I bet none of you even know who I am..) ANYWAY.

So basically I've been going out with my bf for about...a year and a half. We've been best friends for about five years though. He's always had a big problem with me hanging out with other people, especially other guys. One thing about me is that I really like hanging out with guys though, and I dislike hanging out with girls. He's especially insecure when I hang out with one of my very close guy friends (whom i confide in whenever i cant confide in my bf. and well, i cant confide in him about this...). unfortunately for me, i think i'm starting to like this guy (actually I've liked this guy for a good 3 years..it's become very apparent that I do like him), but im still going out with my bf. I really have no clue what to do, but it's like, KILLING MY MIND. It's like...eating me up inside because it's so bad D: So yeah...any idea what I should do?

waaaiiitt did you like this other guy before you started going out with your boyfriend? or did that just gradually happen while you were going out with your boyfriend now?

[michikosashimi]

haha maybe im reading into this too much, but what i think is that he probably said that whole thing "lets be friends" just to say that. i mean guys always say that after a breakup because for some WEIRD reason haha they think thats going to make you feel better. like thats a part of the standard breakup speech "oh but lets be friends" and he probably just restarted to like you after he talked to you as a friend and realized how great you were. and i really dont see any other reason for him to ask his friend to ask you that unless
A.)He likes you and wants to figure out how you feel
OR
B.)You're giving him vibes that you like him still and hes wondering if youre still into him.
But based on what youve told me I'm guessing it's A.
Do you still like him or what? Because if you still do, now would be the time to get that going! hahaha i cant believe i described it as getting it going....hahah its not like its a train or something lol
but you get my meaning

well, i guess whe he talks to me, i have this feeling. but overall, thats it.
we're so far away, i dont think its going to work either.
i mean, i feel like he's just fooling around ;_;

[corrineaiko]

well, i guess whe he talks to me, i have this feeling. but overall, thats it.
we're so far away, i dont think its going to work either.
i mean, i feel like he's just fooling around ;_;

I think you should just ask him straight up then. and if he disses you it wont matter since he doesnt live here haha =] =]

[aZooRe]

waaaiiitt did you like this other guy before you started going out with your boyfriend? or did that just gradually happen while you were going out with your boyfriend now?

it was kinda an on and off thing, but yes, the first time i liked him was before i was going out with my bf

[corrineaiko]

it was kinda an on and off thing, but yes, the first time i liked him was before i was going out with my bf

hmmm did you just go out with your boyfriend now because you didnt think anything with that other guy was going to happen? does that other guy like you now too? i dont know, for me i feel like that people should just be with the people that they want to be with. its unfair for both you and the other person if youre busy thinking and wishing you were with someone else. if you feel as if there is something worth pursuing with the other guy then you should just be honest with yourself and your boyfriend and go for what you want.

[michikosashimi]

I think you should just ask him straight up then. and if he disses you it wont matter since he doesnt live here haha =] =]

hes going to come back during Christmas
and spend 5 months here ._.;;

[aZooRe]

hmmm did you just go out with your boyfriend now because you didnt think anything with that other guy was going to happen? does that other guy like you now too?

when i started going out with my boyfriend, i didnt like the other guy at the time. it was kinda the way i am now, i like him so much it's killing me. but like now iono, i'm just really annoyed by his habits and yeah. and im not sure if the other guy likes me or not. it's something i want to find out, but it'd be hard to know. and thats one thing im worried about, because i still like my bf and he likes me, but then if i break up with him and turns out the other guy doesnt even like me, then well....iono D: i feel like a bad person :[

[Daylightful]

@aZoo-- So you dated your boyfriend before you had feelings about the other guy? WELL, NOW you know why your boyfriend was worried, right? Because things like this happens. He was probably afraid that you hanging out with other guys you'd end up falling for them. Not only that, there is jealousy and such.. Think what could have been going on through his mind while he's at work or something, "Are they laughing together?" "Are they playing around with each other?" "Did he buy her ice cream?" "Did he take her to a restaurant?" "Is he making her smile?" "I can't do that because she's not with me.." "Is he hugging her? Why can't I hug her?" You should really consider all of these. How would you feel if your boyfriend decided to hang out with a bunch of girls all the time? I mean, I think it's okay to have male friends don't get my wrong, but don't do it every so often. Boyfriend> boy friends.
Now that that's said, you are in your situation now. You have two guys you like. Your boyfriend or this other guy. POINT-- If you like the other guy more than your boyfriend, end it with your boyfriend. You're not exactly being fair at all. At the moment all you're considering is your own feelings. "Well, if this guy likes me! I'll dump my boyfriend! But if he doesn't, I'll stay with my boyfriend so I can be happy and not alone!" Not fair at all--. I think you should try and get your feelings straighten out. Did you tell your boyfriend about your feelings for the other guy?
If you really want to be sincere about your boyfriend, you can try and stop talking with the other guy so feelings for him will be decreased and more time with your boyfriend. But if you really don't like your boyfriend so much then why stay with him? He likes you, but you like someone else-- that just isn't fair, again. You're going to have to choose, really. Again, if you want your boyfriend more, stop seeing the other guy as often and stay with him. If you want the other guy, break up with your boyfriend and play with the other guy as much as you want. Just please consider your boyfriends feelings too. I'm not trying to say you're a mean person or anything.. D: And I know you are worried about yourself! But something like this just needs some thinking and help with.. I wish you good luck, though! I'm sure you're an awesome person!! -Gives giant huggles.-

@Michi, I agree-- I think when he comes back you should just flat out ask him if he still likes you or what's the dealio? There's not much around that, really. He COULD still like you, I mean, when you're in a relationship for some time and it sometimes just ends you still have tiny feelings for a person. And it doesn't help I'm sure the fact that you two are always STILL talking. It's hard to get over someone when you are constantly being reminded of them. I'm sure you'll know once he comes back! But do you still like him? Maybe it could work, y'know? Long distance relationships may be tough, but in the end you guys can be reunited and live together! I wish you the best of luck, though! Try considering all possibilities. -Gives huggles.-